I need hep for ideas! :devil:

goodwinn

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Morning all,

i just registered to the forum to see if i can get some help from you folks - i hope this is OK and not against the forum etiquette to ask a request as a newbie

here's the story. I'm meeting this girl whom a have never met before. It started as a sex meeting (she is a student and needs extra money... please don't judge this). Turns out she is really submissive and also a masochist and she is keen to try a few things (she's happy to take a face slap, kneel on stones, get punched, take orders, etc).

I'm meeting her in town and was planning to book a motel to spend a few hours together. Can you people help me out and suggest things we can do outise and inside the hotel? especially outside! we are goin to sped a few hours having a drink etc prior to moving to the hotel and she is keen to start playing straight away..

Please bear in mind that she is new to bdsm word, altough she is naturally a sub and a masochist, so nothing too extreme (here's where i have problems!)

im looking for scenarios and ideas for activities...

thank you all in advance!
 
Talk with her about her limits and what she'd like to do.
 
i already have.. she is not very experienced but willing to try. She is a sub but not a slave type, i think. She can take orders (masturbate at command, assume awkward potions, crawl etc). the interesting thing is that she says she wants to do it although that will make here feeling embarrassed /unconformable

She says she likes pain - when i asked her to give me an idea of what she meant she mentioned face slapping, punching, kicking, getting hit with a belt, kneeling on stones

so there you have it.

Id' like to use my time wisely, hence a request for help!

thanks in advance!
 
Get her to do a BDSM checklist (Google it) talk about hard limits first, then once you have done that, talk safe words.
Discuss safety, condoms etc

Start out as a responsible D type and this could go places.

Get her to read stories on here and tell you what turned her on and why.

Get her to write down what she would like to happen, you will get an idea of her kinks.

Communicate, alot!
 
You know, sometimes people aren't who you think they are, especially ones you meet on the internet. This seems like one of those stories that's too good to be true. Don't totally eliminate the possibility that you are being set up for something. She could have friends that will join her at some point, and they might be friends that aren't friendly to you. You could get robbed or maybe they'll find your body after winter. It happens.
 
This will not work unless the two of you have some kind of chemistry together. So, the very first thing you should do is to meet her in a public place for a cup of coffee/tea/ hot chocolate just to get acquainted. Ask twenty five questions about her non-sex life for every question you ask about her sexual interests and preferences. Meeting in public protects both of you from problems you might not be able to predict and gives you an easy way out if you decided that the only part of you that likes her lives between your legs. And, for what it's worth, if your dick is the only part of you that likes her, you can do much better elsewhere.
 
sorry to be a neg head, but this seems to have more potential downsides that up...

aside from anything else as has been said there has to be some form of a discussion and given that you don't really know each other and therefore have just about zero understanding of what makes each other tick there's a high chance of a bad experience for either of you.

The cynical in me wonders whether infact as has been said that you're being set up for a fall. 'Look at these bruises, look what he did to me' - etc etc.

I'd be very wary......and if this type of arrangement suits, why not just seek an experienced 'pro' who might offer what you want? Without going off at a tangent - you've taken the step of sex for reward, as the 'punter' shouldn't you be getting a fun session that floats your boat?
 
Agreed, nope. Don't ever start off with BDSM at a first meeting with someone who
a) wants money from you, and
b) says they've never done this.
 
If she's never done BDSM, how does she know she likes pain - especially face slapping, punching, kicking and getting hit with a belt.

I *do* ID as a masochist, have experienced some of that list, and there are things on her "I like X" menu that scream "I got turned on by a story with X in it; therefore I want X"... with ZERO understanding of what she's asking for.

Be a good guy - buy her a cup of coffee, get a blow job, tip her well, and find someone less likely to blow up in your face when you want your kinks met.
 
Thank you all for your comments, ideas and suggestions...

The set up part, i disagree: I talked to her on the phone for an hour today, I know her name and seen her FB page, she is graduating in law, etc.. and, although things like this are always possible, i doubt this is some kind of set up

Having said that, i totally agree that trying to turn this into a full blown BDSM session would be the wrong thing to do. And yes, thank you, i think that chemistry is quite important here - so if there is chemistry i think this could turn into a spiced up sex meeting with some D/s ingredients.

Again, i might be wrong, but my feeling is that the girl is genuinely interested in submission and humiliation (although she might now be interested in the full BDSM repertoire), so after reading you comment i think i will take this as an opportunity to show her a few things along the way (teach her what a safe word is, etc). I will probably try to keep this as mental (as opposed to physical) as possible, a take it from there..My hope is that if she really likes this kind of stuff, this could be a good opportunity to find our more about it...

Thanks again for you inputs and suggestions

and of course if there is more i will be interested to hear your responses
 
This could be very interesting. I hope you'll come back to tell us how it all went.
 
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