i need help with my man becoming my master

[sapphier]

I reacently asked my other half to be my master He gladly accepted. The only thing is that we don't really know how or where to start. If any male out there can help us it would be appreciated. Thanks for your help.
Sapphier

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Wow...you mean you are doing this with your SO?!? How refreshing!!

I say you guys start with housework and blowjobs, and build from there...

 

[Shadowsdream]

I reacently asked my other half to be my master He gladly accepted. The only thing is that we don't really know how or where to start. If any male out there can help us it would be appreciated. Thanks for your help.
Sapphier

Though I am not a Master I will answer you anyways...begin with the question.
Is it a Master in the bedroom or a Master in every room that you want. When you answer that question for HIM...He should ask himself if it is his desire to be a Master in the bedroom or a Master in every room. When he has answered that question for YOU...
Spend some time thinking this through and when you both know the answer you will know what kind of help you are really asking for.
Good luck Sapphier and congratulations to you and your husband. It is a wonderful journey you are beginning and it will be even more beautiful to begin together with mutual desires.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Welcome to the Community

Why don't you both have a look at www.castlerealm.com? You'll get a lot of great info there for both Dom and sub alike.

Our Library can be a great place to search out interesting threads on BDSM topics as well.

I'll also point you to threads by bbw38C. She and her husband/master went through what you are going through recently. Run a search on her threads and have a look at them. You may find something interesting there for you.

If you have any problems or questions, please don't hesitate to PM me

~anelize, BDSM Librarian

 

[MissTaken]

Hello sapphier!

How wonderful for you that he is willing to become your Master!

Here is an article, a quick read for him that I found a bit helpful.

http://sexuality.org/l/bdsm/domadvic.html

As I have only recently entered the arena of Domination, I would add that it takes me some time to decide what I want to do and to map it out in my head.

But while Johnny's post sounded rather tongue in cheek, your guy could start there. Begin with short periods of time wherein you are to do what he directs and keep it simple.

Also, build on the things you have done together rather than jump into new activities. IF you have played with spankings, bondage or anything, begin there and add new facets to it each time you are together.

Best of luck!

 

[bunny bondage]

welcome welcome! glad to have you aboard!

i've never had a "Master" in the truest sense of the word, but for all my Doms, a good way to start was with a few simple ground rules and a few simple punishments and more direction-giving in the bedroom (from him, of course)

keep us updated!

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Hello sapphier!

How wonderful for you that he is willing to become your Master!

Here is an article, a quick read for him that I found a bit helpful.

http://sexuality.org/l/bdsm/domadvic.html

As I have only recently entered the arena of Domination, I would add that it takes me some time to decide what I want to do and to map it out in my head.

But while Johnny's post sounded rather tongue in cheek, your guy could start there. Begin with short periods of time wherein you are to do what he directs and keep it simple.

Also, build on the things you have done together rather than jump into new activities. IF you have played with spankings, bondage or anything, begin there and add new facets to it each time you are together.

Best of luck!

Uh huh...the easiest way to make the transition, I think, is to start with activities that you already take part in, like housework and blowjobs, and change the context. So, instead of asking, he will tell you to do things you are already familiar with doing.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Welcome.

I agree with the above posts. Communication, asking and answering questions of each other is a good place to start. One of the things that my Master/Husband and I did was complete BDSM check lists. This was to see just where our desires were, what does and does not do it for each of us. Then we compared our lists.

A good online list that will allow side-by-side comparision of your lists is... www.soulshaven.com

This site's list will also show you the matches in desires/turn ons as you view the lists side-by-side.

Good luck to you!!

dixi

 

[sapphier]

thank you all for you help. my fieance will be pleased with all the help we are getting.