I missed out, I think

[blue_pearl_85]

I was 22 when I lost my virginity (assuming you only count P in V; I gave oral for the first time when I was 18, and received it for the first time when I was 20) and I really feel like I missed out. I'm [happily!] married now, with no desire to wander, but I feel like I could have had a wild phase of my life, but didn't, because of cultural hang-ups.

I know this is probably news to no one, but we put waaaaaaay too much emphasis on "purity," especially as pertains Strangelove-style bodily fluids obsession.

RELATED POINT: what is so difficult/emasculating about condoms? I mean, seriously.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

I was 22 when I lost my virginity (assuming you only count P in V; I gave oral for the first time when I was 18, and received it for the first time when I was 20) and I really feel like I missed out. I'm [happily!] married now, with no desire to wander, but I feel like I could have had a wild phase of my life, but didn't, because of cultural hang-ups.

I know this is probably news to no one, but we put waaaaaaay too much emphasis on "purity," especially as pertains Strangelove-style bodily fluids obsession.

RELATED POINT: what is so difficult/emasculating about condoms? I mean, seriously.

Are you looking for replies or just "having a moment"?

 

[RoryN]

RELATED POINT: what is so difficult/emasculating about condoms?

Everything.

 

[blue_pearl_85]

Are you looking for replies or just "having a moment"?

Eh, just making chit-chat.

Given the circles I move in, there isn't usually time to idly speculate about matters sexual in meatspace. So, here I am.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Eh, just making chit-chat.

Given the circles I move in, there isn't usually time to idly speculate about matters sexual in meatspace. So, here I am.

Here to hang out with all the other "happily married people"?

 

[run_silent]

You seem conflicted, do you miss that you didn't have a wild side?

 

[blue_pearl_85]

Here to hang out with all the other "happily married people"?

... I don't particularly care one way or the other? I can hardly discuss condoms and their sexual complications (or lack thereof) at my place of work, however.

 

[Tryharder62]

The whole key is to explore with your husband and have the wild side WITH HIM. I don't regret not having a lot of men but I do wish I could do some things that I haven't.

 

[Boxlicker101]

I was 22 when I lost my virginity (assuming you only count P in V; I gave oral for the first time when I was 18, and received it for the first time when I was 20) and I really feel like I missed out. I'm [happily!] married now, with no desire to wander, but I feel like I could have had a wild phase of my life, but didn't, because of cultural hang-ups.

I know this is probably news to no one, but we put waaaaaaay too much emphasis on "purity," especially as pertains Strangelove-style bodily fluids obsession.

RELATED POINT: what is so difficult/emasculating about condoms? I mean, seriously.

If you are a woman in the US, you had thousands of opportunities to lose your cherry while you were still a teenager. If you are a man, you may have had some too, but not as many. Females are notoriously more picky about their sex partners, and for good reason.

I have never thought of condoms as being emasculating, considering the possible consequences of not using them.

 

[blue_pearl_85]

I seem to have expressed myself inaptly:

I do not want to have libidinous sex.

I do think that I may have enjoyed having libidinous sex when I was younger, but that conservative social mores restrained me more than safety or my long-term happiness required.

 

[JohnnySavage]

What do libidinous mean?

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

... I don't particularly care one way or the other? I can hardly discuss condoms and their sexual complications (or lack thereof) at my place of work, however.

Are you a Nun?

 

[blue_pearl_85]

Are you a Nun?

No, but I am a highly paid professional; let's just say that 'casual friday' is business casual, and we're thankful for it.


(Up hill both ways blah blah blah. I sound like an old fogie!)

 

[girlsmiley]

What do libidinous mean?

You get down to libidinous in your libidinous socks.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

No, but I am a highly paid professional; let's just say that 'casual friday' is business casual, and we're thankful for it.


(Up hill both ways blah blah blah. I sound like an old fogie!)

Oh. A hooker.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

I'm sooory.

A prostitute.

 

[blue_pearl_85]

Oh. A hooker.

*snort*

You'd really need to overextend to metaphor to make that one work.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

*snort*

You'd really need to overextend to metaphor to make that one work.

You need to loosen up a little bit. Can you say "fuck" with me?

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Just let it roll off the tongue like a big, gooey blob of spooie.

f.u.c....k. (sploot)

 

[RobDownSouth]

Judging from the typical arc of a Lit poster here, the lack of a "wild past" to occasionally reminisce about will generally fester throughout your thirties and reach a tipping point in your early forties, at which time you'll dip your toe in the cybersex pool "just to see what you've been missing" and/or have a cheap fling with one of Lit's male cyberwhores such as miles, followed by the usual panic/guilt trips.

On a positive note, your lack of a sluttish past probably lessened your probability of contracting an STD a thousandfold.

 

[QueenLevitra]

Just let it roll off the tongue like a big, gooey blob of spooie.

f.u.c....k. (sploot)

Top. Ten. Bert. Post. EVA!

 

[rosco rathbone]

Male until proven otherwise, OP.

 

[blue_pearl_85]

Top. Ten. Bert. Post. EVA!

Bert?

 

[RobDownSouth]

Bert?

"Bert" is "Bert Notorious", a guy who has been around here for a long time. About a year ago, he lost one of his testicles in a traffic accident (search on "ruptured nutsack" for gory details) and ever since then, Bert's posting tends towards the bizarre, almost entirely smug bitchy meta-commentary.

He's rumored to have a small stable of female alts that he uses to torment female newcomers. I don't know if that's true or not. Never really cared to find out, truth be told.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Bert?

I think the real question here is...who the hell were you?