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Quoll

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Was having a discusion with someone over why they are into bdsm and such, where the need/want for this came from.
Anway for her it was a way of taking control of a particularly unpleasant childhood.
Now we all have likes and dislikes in our sexuality, so where do you think yours came from? Why do you think you have a need or desire for your special thing (refusing to say kink) or Fetish: (any object or nongenital part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation.)?

Was there something you can look back at and say "Yes this is why I like/do this"?
 
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One of my big turnons is nurses, not that unusual, but that was not the question.
As a teen I spent a number of weeks in hospital, many hot nurses, lots of bending over, (hmm, perhaps that`s where the cleavage thing comes from)
and twice daily sponge baths :D oooh I dont feel well, nuuuurse.
 
Well, as a kid, I always hated my Mom. And as a result, you know...I don't really wanna talk about it.
 
So what, too boring a question, to controversial, don`t like to look within ourselves?
 
Too boring I am! (said in his best yoda voice)... :D

Actually there aren't many kinks out there that interest me more than a good hour or so of plain old sex.

We did experiment with Bondage for a while, but while I reckon I do have more than a few dominant bones in my body, Alyx discovered she had no submissive ones. But thats what its all about isn't it? Self discovery. Niether of us are into pain, so the SM component was completely ignored. I just thought it was fun to immobilize her, then tease her to orgasm after orgasm....

Guess we're just old fashioned in that regard. Role playing might be fun, if we were able to get beyond the giggling phase and I'm not sure we'd be able to.

As far as the other kinks go... (shrug) not really our cup of tea. Boring eh? :nana:
 
I think the biggest thing my parents did for me was to not fill my head with stupid, ignorant 'facts' about sex. Of course, they didn't talk about it a lot, but they never told me it was bad or dirty. I was able to explore on my own and find what I like without being ashamed of what I did or didn't like. I really think that's helped me to be more open about what I experiment with. And I'm into a little bit of everything. I love BDSM (but not a 'hardcore' practicer), I love anal, I love masturbation, etc.

I think that's probably one of the best things my parents could have done for me and views about sex and sexuality.
 
For me I have this thing with socks. I like to wear mismatched socks. I’m not talking just at home. I will wear different socks to work, to the store and everywhere. I’m not wearing a toupe and a tan sock. I will wear a lime green one with a lavender one. For some reason it makes me feel sexier more unique when I wear socks that don’t match. I do make sure that my pants are long enough so when I sit down my pantlegs don’t ride up and expose my secrete. (However three friends at work know). I have thought about why or what is the appeal for me to do this. I think it is because during my growing up years I was the “good girl”. I did not get into trouble. I was never grounded in highschool. Always did what I was told. Never missed my curfew. I never really stood out in the crowd always blended in (I’m an introvert). I’ve always had to share never really had anything of my own. So, I think it is my way of “ being out there”, “being a rebel” and “being something only for me” but yet still staying in control of myself. I believe this is my way of being a controlled extrovert.
 
Being tied up, immobilized, generally in submission. Mmmm... Just as long as there's no pain (eh, not too much of it, anyway)... I have no idea where that came from, though. The usual happy childhood, normal school years. The helplessness factor really burns me up, though.
 
Bobmi357 said:
Too boring I am! (said in his best yoda voice)... :D

Actually there aren't many kinks out there that interest me more than a good hour or so of plain old sex.

We did experiment with Bondage for a while, but while I reckon I do have more than a few dominant bones in my body, Alyx discovered she had no submissive ones. But thats what its all about isn't it? Self discovery. Niether of us are into pain, so the SM component was completely ignored. I just thought it was fun to immobilize her, then tease her to orgasm after orgasm....

Guess we're just old fashioned in that regard. Role playing might be fun, if we were able to get beyond the giggling phase and I'm not sure we'd be able to.

As far as the other kinks go... (shrug) not really our cup of tea. Boring eh? :nana:

Bob, I think boring is a bit like kinky, it`s all subjective, if you are not bored then it`s not boring.
You are right about self discovery, hence the question, sometimes understanding where something comes from, can increase the pleasure or maybe even ease any guilt that there may be.

*Puts on white coat* So Bob, tell me, where did this need to dominate come from? :D

Glad I`m not the only one who gets a laugh out of role playing, it`s a bit like setting your alarm clock ten minutes fast, just doesn`t work, I know it`s not the real time.

Volz..........I think the biggest thing my parents did for me was to not fill my head with stupid, ignorant 'facts' about sex. Of course, they didn't talk about it a lot, but they never told me it was bad or dirty. I was able to explore on my own and find what I like without being ashamed of what I did or didn't like. I really think that's helped me to be more open about what I experiment with. And I'm into a little bit of everything. I love BDSM (but not a 'hardcore' practicer), I love anal, I love masturbation, etc. I think that's probably one of the best things my parents could have done for me and views about sex and sexuality.

Sounds very similar to my upbringing. I spent a lot of time reading about sex from strategically left books, never got any negative feed back on sex.
Once I dealt with the religion thing, the rest was just good fun, don`t always know if I will be into something, but the chance to learn and explore is always interesting.

Cymbline.........<snip> For some reason it makes me feel sexier more unique when I wear socks that don’t match. ....... So, I think it is my way of “ being out there”, “being a rebel” and “being something only for me” but yet still staying in control of myself. I believe this is my way of being a controlled extrovert.</snip>

Cym :kiss: You are just full of little secrets aren`t you, ;) you are probably one of the most outgoing introverts I know.




Cantankerous.......Being tied up, immobilized, generally in submission. Mmmm... Just as long as there's no pain (eh, not too much of it, anyway)... I have no idea where that came from, though. The usual happy childhood, normal school years. The helplessness factor really burns me up, though.

That`s what intrigues me, for some there is a definite reason and yet the exaxct same thing for others is just there, no apparent reason.
 
quoll said:
*Puts on white coat* So Bob, tell me, where did this need to dominate come from? :D

In my particular case I think I know exactly where it came from. Growing up in NYC with its loud pushy personality has left a definite impact on me.

In business I found I had little patience, or use for, engineers that could talk the talk but couldn't walk the walk and would tend to run roughshod over anyone I didn't think could cut the mustard. I am perfectly willing to teach those that don't know and truly want to learn. But have little patience for those that hide behind their degrees. I guess you could say its part and parcel of being an Alpha type personality. I don't know about that, but I learned very early on in my career that mistakes didn't just mean that something didn't work, it meant people could die.

This isn't to say I'm a pushy individual, at least I don't think I am. :D

LOL! Personally I think I'd make a wonderful Emperor. I'd make sex a national pastime with mandatory work breaks for sex, and insist that chocolate be the national food. A daily orgasm (minimum) for everyone, that would be the law (Unless you have a note from your doctor excusing you) !
:nana:
 
i was never recieved much praise or acknowledgement for behaving well in general and/or doing well in school during my childhood. i did exceptionally well in school, straight A's, many achievement awards, even was allowed to skip a grade as a result. i still recall handing my straight A's report card to my mom and the disappointment felt when she tossed in on the table saying she didn't need to read it, she knew already what the grades would be (no praise recieved etc). i didn't have much supervison after the age of 13, was pretty much allowed to go where ever, do what ever as long as i was home by 10pm. i had no one telling me what to do, i could do as i pleased as long as i kept my nose out of trouble. During which, i had a brother who failed every course, & behaved poorly enough to have the state intervene and take him away. i'm pretty sure that much of the reason i get so much satisfaction from D/s, following His rules & pleasing Him and recieving praise in return is directly related to the lack of such during my childhood.

As far as the bondage & fetishes, and how my interest started ... i was a bookworm by age 6. i loved to read and every week grabbed as many books as the librarian would allow me to carry home. By age 12 i'd found the book store at the local mall & stumbled upon a series of books by an 'anonymous' author. i still recall a few favorite scenes from those books: gypsy man kidnapped by students of an all girls boarding school tied up and held as thier sex slave for a week .. same students sharing the washroom before bed, girl at the sink approached from behind and anonymously fingered to orgasm under her nightie, .. girl looses virginity in the dean's office .. etc ect.

my first love, at age 13 was literally the 'boy next door', lost our virginity to each other by age 14. The relationship carried on until age 19. We were very open, and aside from anal, bi, and multi-partners, there wasn't a whole lot we didn't try at least once. Unfortunately, after that relationship ended, i always chose sexually unadventerous partners.

After a nearly sexless relationship ended in 2003, i decided to put an end to that unsatisfying cycle. i'm happy, very satisfied, and having the time of my life with my Master as a result.

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