Writing kinks you don’t share

[ElectricBlue]

I have to have some connection to what I am writing. Maybe not direct. Perhaps a connection to something I can use to ‘feel’ what a protagonist might be feeling without actually having experienced it myself.

To go back to my guy with a pregnancy / lactation fetish. I’ve never been attracted to pregnant women (nor repelled, but I tend to have more protective feelings if anything). But I’ve been attracted to things about both men and women, and it’s a case of extrapolating. I’m guessing writing gay male might be the same sort of thing. I’m happy writing straight male narrators, and straight / bi / lesbian female narrators, so how big a leap is it really?

As mentioned in a post up above, about writing a gay encounter into a story when it could just as easily have been cis, I got to fuck myself. Both characters were incarnations of my writer's alter ego, one aged now, the other the younger me. Vicarious double pleasure.

 

[Five_Inch_Heels]

I'm experimental, so I like to explore and write about kinks that I don't share with others from time to time...

Heidi goes into two areas I've only barely touched on before. Heidi 2, once I finish it will go a bit further.

 

[SimonDoom]

I What's the point if you're not tickling your own fancy? Seems like a waste of time to me.

I AM tickling my own fancy-- my fancy as an artist and creator. We may be different, and that's fine. I don't confine my erotic writing to what personally, actually turns me on. I put myself into a fantasy space where I can be turned on by things that in the real world don't turn me on. That's part of the fun, for me. Despite having no foot fetish, if I try I can work myself up creatively into fantasizing about a foot fetish in a way that's erotically pleasurable. I imagine the deliciousness of the toes, and the instep, and the meaty ball of the foot. It's like stepping into Disneyland. I know it's not real, but it's still enjoyable. That's how I write.

 

[Five_Inch_Heels]

I have never, in my life, had incestuous impulses. No interest whatsoever. But I have long enjoyed the stories, and I enjoy writing them, and I've had significant success as a writer of incest stories. I've never had a reader tell me "I can tell you're not really into it."

I scraped around MomCest a few times, in the room, watching, doing some things, but not all of it. The Kensingtons and Date with Mom blew it all out of the water.

 

[Five_Inch_Heels]

They always end up TG+TG because I freeze at the blank page,

I'm trying to decide if I'm going there in a part 2 or maybe 3.

 

[ElectricBlue]

That's how I write...

but don't finish... .

Carry on!

 

[FrancesScott]

I get the writers' challenge bit, but I don't get the, "I'll try that to see if I can," approach. What's the point if you're not tickling your own fancy? Seems like a waste of time to me. I mean, every hot woman in her forties doesn't need to be your mom, and Dad's not the only one who knows how to drive .

I only do this kind of experimentation in short stories. I couldn’t sustain the effort across a novelette, let alone a novella.

 

[FrancesScott]

As mentioned in a post up above, about writing a gay encounter into a story when it could just as easily have been cis, I got to fuck myself. Both characters were incarnations of my writer's alter ego, one aged now, the other the younger me. Vicarious double pleasure.

All my characters, straight, gay, bi, have bits of me in them (maybe an injudicious way to express that thought given the site).

 

[iwatchus]

All my characters, straight, gay, bi, have bits of me in them (maybe an injudicious way to express that thought given the site).

Same here, at least fr MC, regardless of gender as well as orientation or interest.

 

[Djmac1031]

I once wrote a story that featured some BDSM stuff, inspired by a friend who wrote a lot about that kink.

While I suppose if pressed on the matter I'd have to say it's "Not My Kink." That said there are some aspects of it that do work for me, many that do not.

I also wrote a story about a businessman with a Mommy kink. Again, while not my THING, I did find myself getting some of the control, or loss thereof, aspects of it.

 

[ChuckWolf]

Same here, at least fr MC, regardless of gender as well as orientation or interest.

Most of my stories are CFNM/femdom and I have 3 upcoming stories tat use the trope of dominant & sexually charged women forcing or trying to force the main character (a guy who is straight) into engaging in humiliating m/m activity in public.

In each story, this is done through a different method: witchcraft mind control, pharmaceuticals and blackmail.

Not into gay or bi erotica, but I do find the idea of a woman forcing or threatening to force a guy into engaging in this, humiliating him, kind of hot.

It doesn't really happen in 2 of the stories, but in the 3rd stuff happens, but the guy is able to "escape" before actually cumming.

 

[SimonDoom]

but don't finish... .

Carry on!

I've finished 64 stories, which is a hell of a lot more than I would have imagined when I started publishing in this crazy place eight and a half years ago. And I have over 12 million views for those 64 stories. I'm OK with that.

 

[Areala-chan]

I am neutral about feet sexually. I understand, in a kind of clinical sense, that for some people they are erogenous zones. That doesn't necessarily mean having characters engage in foot rubs or pedicures or toe-sucking will trigger sexy thoughts for people whose feet are part of their love-play, although they might find it easier to empathize with the characters than others do. But if I'm going to include some shenanigans that I hope will appeal to such fetishists, what's the trick (or what's the best practice, if you think the word 'trick' is disrespectful) for doing so?

I think the real trick, no matter the fetish or kink, is to just be respectful and caring when doing the writing. The MC in Kendra doesn't necessarily have a foot fetish, per se, but she happens to think her partner's are quite cute. There's a part during one of their love scenes where she enjoys them briefly before things get heavier. I just tackled that the way I did with every other turn-on my characters might have that I don't share, including my two incest stories.

 

[KittyOfSteele]

Heidi goes into two areas I've only barely touched on before. Heidi 2, once I finish it will go a bit further.

I'm trying to decide if I'm going there in a part 2 or maybe 3.

Context? I'm a bit confused.

 

[dirk2024]

I gave this a shot, writing a 500 word BDSM scene. I liked what I had written, so I added another 1400 words to flesh out the scene. I actually enjoyed it and submitted it for publication. It's up now: https://www.literotica.com/s/alls-well-that-ends-well-3

Now that it's published and I've read it again, I have found a few more things I could have added to it, but I'm leaving it as it is and getting back to my other WIP's.

 

[Five_Inch_Heels]

Is Dad/Son(CD) a bridge too far?

I scraped around MomCest a few times, in the room, watching, doing some things, but not all of it. The Kensingtons and Date with Mom blew it all out of the water.

I'm trying to decide if I'm going there in a part 2 or maybe 3.

How does Dad feel about his third 'daughter'?

Does Mom step in?

 

[ElectricBlue]

Is Dad/Son a bridge too far?

Without the cross dressing, a son/dad fuck got me my lowest ever chapter score for about a decade (3.86), in Erotic Horror, what's more. Seems like even those guys can get a major squick! That chapter was getting so many comments, I took pity on the punters with a squick warning in the Comments of the previous chapter.

Curiously, that chapter has slowly crept up to around 4.06, so subsequent readers haven't been so delicate. Maybe the squick warning attracted the GM kink meisters!

Other stories have scored lower since, 750 worders, so one gets to expect that.

 

[Yogma]

As others have said, I think there is a big difference in writing for kinks that you don't share as opposed to kinks that you have a negative reaction to.

For me there are three reasons I have written about kinks that I don't share. First is that I tend to write primarily for emotion and I have come to believe that honest emotion can transcend gender, sexuality or even kink.

The second reason I sometimes write about things that I haven't experienced is that it is fun. Heck, my sci-fi or fantasy stories wouldn't get very far if I only wrote about what I have experienced

The final reason is that sometimes I'm curious. Other than some light light roleplay, I've never really been into BDSM, but I've written about it from the perspective of a dom as I was curious to explore something so far from how I normally am, whilst being in the safety net of fiction. I'm also now curious to write from the perspective of a sub. It's not something I would contemplate doing in real life, but as a mental exercise I'm interested in examining what might lead a person to seek out this form of fulfilment.

 

[dirk2024]

a major squick!

the squick warning attracted the GM kink meisters!

I can't help it, these terms make me laugh!

 

[dirk2024]

As others have said, I think there is a big difference in writing for kinks that you don't share as opposed to kinks that you have a negative reaction to.

For me there are three reasons I have written about kinks that I don't share. First is that I tend to write primarily for emotion and I have come to believe that honest emotion can transcend gender, sexuality or even kink.

The second reason I sometimes write about things that I haven't experienced is that it is fun. Heck, my sci-fi or fantasy stories wouldn't get very far if I only wrote about what I have experienced

The final reason is that sometimes I'm curious. Other than some light light roleplay, I've never really been into BDSM, but I've written about it from the perspective of a dom as I was curious to explore something so far from how I normally am, whilst being in the safety net of fiction. I'm also now curious to write from the perspective of a sub. It's not something I would contemplate doing in real life, but as a mental exercise I'm interested in examining what might lead a person to seek out this form of fulfilment.

Yeah, I can understand this. I have an idea for a transgender love story rolling around in the back of my head.

 

[DeMont]

I was just talking to another writer about this. My latest story is narrated by a man who has a pregnancy / lactation fetish. I won’t bore you with why I decided to write this, aside from a mixture of real world inspiration and my tangled psyche.

My point was, that people often write what turns them on personally (I do too), but do you ever set yourself the challenge of writing about kinks other than your own, as I did with this story?

I said to the other person that I think I understand obsession, and that I can then write the object of that obsession as being something totally different from my own experience.

@FrancesScott,
I will admit, quite freely, that I rarely stray outside of personal experience. I think that trying to "fully imagine" something that you have not experienced yourself can, more often than not, come across as rather "wooden" and unconvincing. Perhaps that is simply a "kink" I have in my writing. I can embellish somewhat with the best of them but not to the point where I can make something believable enough to pass muster.

I envy writers whom can make this happen and I'd wager that the majority of sci-fi and horror genre writers would heartily disagree but here, for this audience, I feel there has to be a definite element of truth and experience involved.

Just my two cents worth.
Respectfully,
D.

 

[Belegon]

Yeah, scat and deliberate physical or emotional harm are a line I'm not going to cross. I have a story about an obsessed stalker and that was already a weird enough headspace to be in.

I so totally get this! I had a story I wrote this spring based on a specific request that was very difficult for me, although my readership seems to be okay with it. I guess I eventually managed to put enough alternative motivation in the chartacters actions that it worked. But I found the process difficult at best. I was fighting directly against my own instincts, of not completely against my own desires. It was a difficult headspace to be in.

If I were to expand that to be something against even my secret desires, I don't think I could manage to get "words on paper."

 

[Belegon]

I heard some people do this thing called “planning” or “outlining”. As an avowed pantser, that’s a writing kink I definitely do not share.

When I took it upon myself to write a novel, I found that I had no hope but to dabble in the headspace that I feel must be what someone who works off an outline does. It was a strange way to proceed compared to my normal writing, but in order to bring all my diverse threads to a place where I could weave them together, I found I had little choice.

Simply put, 80,000 plus words of pantsing froced me into an outline of sorts. But I do feel the result was worth the discomfort and I also discovered that I had more avenues available to me than I had previously believed. I now believe I can work off at least a general outline if I need to, and this can be comforting in a way, although I much prefer my original method.

 

[DeMont]

Yeah, scat and deliberate physical or emotional harm are a line I'm not going to cross. I have a story about an obsessed stalker and that was already a weird enough headspace to be in.

@StillStunned,
I find myself in complete agreement with you dear colleague. There are, and I think there need be, lines for everyone. What those "lines" are and "where they are" is not for me, nor anyone else to judge. Having said that there a certain subjects that I will NOT write on and I will NOT read on. Not because I'm judging the author but because my own personal predilections and views simply don't ever go there.
Respectfully,
D.