This seems to be fairly common amongst the people of Lit.He seems to have major hangups around sex and enjoying sex. It’s gotten better over the years but I’ve tried so hard for so long that I’m kinda done. Who knows how I’ve contributed as I’ve asked and not been answered.
What would happen if you told her you wanted to be “a big slut” before you die?I think this has been a bit of a barrier with my wife n I. This past Valentines Day wife had a few drinks and admitted thst after I die shes gonna be a big slut..."because then shed 'be free'" sounds alot like the condition of shed tell me what she really wants but thinks id be freaked out. Time to time little tid bits of her hirny thought sneak out. You'd figure after 20 years of marriage shed just tell me
I asked her why wait and she clammed upWhat would happen if you told her you wanted to be “a big slut” before you die?
Maybe she has some ideas of how to achieve that. You know, put it on you so she can feel more open.
Time to break out the booze again?
Yup!Time to break out the booze again?
I had a nagging feeling I missed an opportunity to say something interesting last night, so I went back:
Nah... lets stick with "hung like snuffleupagus"
Wouldn’t that mean only you can see it?
Omg. No!!!I had a nagging feeling I missed an opportunity to say something interesting last night, so I went back:
Are you saying because he’s hung like a stork? Are storks well hung?
When you think of a stork you picture long dangling legs and big, stiff, hard beaks, so saying someone is hung like a stork should maybe be a compliment. On the other hand, who has ever seen a stork’s dick?
Hopefully no one.
I’m not sure if we should make “Hung like a stork” a thing or not.
These prudish hips. Gotta stretch more if I want to get folded like a lawn chair.
Yoga. It's not sexy but necessary.
Good question. I think I value the things my partner values in my appearance and spend time and energy on those things. I don't think I'd survive long in a relationship where someone didnt prefer me as I am and decided to give me a list of ways I could change to be more attractive. If you want someone who looks different, go be with someone different.
I try to be. I found discussion about or around sex and sexual topics important, interesting, and often just as arousing as plain dirty talk. Im much more the talker though in my marriage. He needs a drink or two in him.
In my marriage, I am significantly more sexual than him - for both reasons I understand and reasons I do not. We've gone through ebbs and flows. Life happens but I always feel better when my intimacy and kinky needs are met.
Openness.
Absolutely - both what we could do better and what really really worked. Its a team sport and I think when we talk about it as a team and less "here's what you need to do to make me happy" there's no hurt feelings.
He's admittedly pretty vanilla and that's been the struggle of our sex life. He used to be kind of ugly about my preferences but has done a little work on understanding. And I have to respect he's not into it. Though I suspect he and I like similar things which is the problem.
Back to the stretching? Im not saying I'm a life changing fuck but I'm open minded and enthusiastic. I haven't had many complaints - but Im fairly good at picking partners that are right for me. I suspect the wrong person would not enjoy me at all.
So I think this still counts as "real" sex. Shared erotic energy is sex. And of course, Ive watched and asked and learned and vice versa. I think mutual masturbation might be one of the hottest, most underrated things. Learning how and where my partners touch themselves is informative and permanent spank bank material.
I agree. Talk is hot, especially when it leads to other things.
I'm sure I have many. But who doesnt? Noone is perfect. Not even @Lord Pmann
sex is about exploring, and fun and communication. If that is there, then you can work around anything.
ok. I didn't answer this before, cos I don't have a partner. I would always try to be considerate to them. But what attracted them to me in the first place? Don't lose sight of that.
yes..much more so than communicating my wants and needs. Although in my experience, even if you do communicate it, it takes a very special person to actually listen. More than half heartedly. Before their selfish self takes precedence.
i feel like they always THINK they put more efforr in. The amount of times i hear 'your pleasure is what's important,.my needs are secondary ' - yeah. Ok. That's not my experience. Maybe I've just been unlucky.
again, i dont have a partner, so... I'll leave this for now.
As before. Communication is key. It doesnt need to be deep. It can be fun. So yes..of course.
N/a
I practice yoga. Do not underestimate how fun it is to be flexible. As to anything else. I am, of course, devastatingly aawesome at sex.
Isn't this just normal?
I’ve said a similar thing before, but mine goes “your pleasure is what’s important, I already blew one in my pants”.
That's preferable to what actually happened. At least if you've already knocked one out, you might last a little longer...I’ve said a similar thing before, but mine goes “your pleasure is what’s important, I already blew one in my pants”.
lol
Every girl’s fav topic.
Hey, who told you I was a one pump chump? Anyway - my short comings are more in the emotional relationship department. I got great yelp reviews on the sex part, very bad feedback on the relationship part. And that’s saying something since this was in the 90’s. And we barely had internet much less yelp.
Communication. Really heads off issues before they happen or helps while it’s happening.
Quite a bit. It’s fairly important.
We learned that pretty quickly on after getting together. We were both very open about it.
It’s pretty joint effort. My needs are pretty simple and she knows what she wants and I learned to give it.
Bad day for this question because of life. My bad.
Yes, na, yes
Nope. She’s very vanilla.
Less stress, more sleep, more exercise, better diet.
I think you should always be communicating during sex, which includes all the non verbal stuff.
I like vanilla. It’s a great base flavor. It’s consistent. Sometimes all you want is vanilla.
I like vanilla too. I don’t understand how it became associated with bad sex.
Too sticky!!I like vanilla too. I don’t understand how it became associated with bad sex.
A hot chick covered in vanilla ice cream and ready to be licked sounds really sexy to me.
Ice cream or cum. Which one is stickier?
Ice cream? Especially if we're talking letting it stay there for awhile.
I’m willing to find out.
