I know you too well to share my kinks.

[hotwords229_A]

My first user name here got me attention I didn't expect, was surprised by and it weirded me out a bit as a result. It didn't take me but a few months to abandon that one and try again...
Call me naive...
I like my nic now. I don't plan to change it or abandon it... I've been told I have a distinctive style/voice, so like Enny, y'all would prolly sus it out.

I don’t remember what name I originally tried to use, but I’m sure it was stupid and I’m glad it wasn’t available. I didn’t like the HW name at first, but I think I grew into it. If I had my choice I probably would have changed my name a bunch of times by now.

I’d like to add to mine.
SMNaughtyFilthySluttyWife
Wanna make sure I have all the bases covered.

You forgot “wonderful” ”sexy” “funny” and “sweet”.

I just wanted a change. I didn’t pick the name Sexybritches in the first place so this time when I came back to lit I just wanted a fresh start with a name that I liked better.

I do kind of miss the SB name because that’s associated with fond memories from when I first joined, but it’s also nice to start anew.

Sexybritches was a great name (and still is), but I think Love is Blonde suits you perfectly. The sexy part of you is obvious, but the loving part is who you really are.

I'm still rocking my OG handle.
There is a lot of pressure to pick a username. I can't think of a better monicker yet.

And I'm having pretty frank discussions about what's ok and not when I'm planning on having sex with someone. I guess for me, because I'm accepting of my own kinks, fantasies and desires I'm able to accept others. I may not be into them, but I'm down for giving it a go most times. Actually... On second thought... Am I? Perhaps not.

And I think I'm less bi than I thought. I also don't know. I'm constantly evolving.

This is a travesty! ^^^ Please keep trying.

 

[hotwords229_A]

https://64.media.tumblr.com/e3cbfa78685a74c788e931d42ee3197c/dadddbd4f0c1cce2-f0/s640x960/37d8c51078a292ec1df8bdcd5ff7d6b2da1ffe15.jpg
Look at those flux capacitors!

Have you ever been body painted?
If you have, details please.
What would you like to be painted if you could?
Is it just for art’s sake or is there a sexual component to it?
Is it a form of exhibitionism?
Would you walk around naked in public if you were painted?
How do you wash that off?

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I've modelled in body paint, yes.

I looked for photos. They were harder to find them I expected ...

 

[Cogan]

Last night I was res-erecting old threads and I found a few that I was a little embarrassed to dig out of the old Lit basement.

It occurred to me that when you are new to Lit it’s easy to walk in and share all kinds of crazy stuff, but as we get to know each other, it may become awkward to overshare.

This is, in my opinion, one of the issues with relationships. You may want your wife/girlfriend to don a strap-on and go to town on your butthole, but you are afraid to admit it, tell her about it or you are concerned that she might not be into seeing her man taking one for the team.

Does this happen to you on Lit?
Do you find yourself not sharing as much with the people you become closer to so as to not tarnish your awesome, carefully cultivated Lit persona?
Are you a little more bi than you let on?
Are you kind of embarrassed to admit you “maybe” looked at the BDSM threads longer than you want people to know.
Have you considered creating another Lit account so you can post in (or create) threads that you are curious about, but you want to do it “anonymously”?

Tell us, we know each other well enough.

In the beginning I was mostly a lurker trying to figure out how it worked here. After a while I dared to comment on pictures and interact on Playground.
I’ve got some good friends here over the years and always tried to be transparent and honest with who I am.
I haven’t done or said anything I feel embarrassed about, yet.

 

[Pad_Foot]

Bah! I think I have over shared my kinks. Just say next kink if one pokes you in the wrong way!

 

[hotwords229_A]

I've modelled in body paint, yes.

I looked for photos. They were harder to find them I expected ...

We will wait . . .
Do you remember what you were painted as?

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Which time?

I had my belly painted as a basketball for a NCAA playoff thing a few years back. I was nine months pregnant, lugging my sorry ass around San Antonio in the searing heat, having the time of my life. I won a free throw consent (baby gave me an exceptional centre of gravity) against these guys who had no idea they were up against a heavily pregnant dark horse. It was amazing!

 

[Lord Pmann]

I keep thinking you should start another thread entitled "I know you too well to share my skanks". That's what I read every time I see this.

https://64.media.tumblr.com/e3cbfa78685a74c788e931d42ee3197c/dadddbd4f0c1cce2-f0/s640x960/37d8c51078a292ec1df8bdcd5ff7d6b2da1ffe15.jpg
Look at those flux capacitors!

Have you ever been body painted?
If you have, details please.
What would you like to be painted if you could?
Is it just for art’s sake or is there a sexual component to it?
Is it a form of exhibitionism?
Would you walk around naked in public if you were painted?
How do you wash that off?

I bet she has a really nice fux capacitor.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I keep thinking you should start another thread entitled "I know you too well to share my skanks". That's what I read every time I see this.



I bet she has a really nice fux capacitor.

Are skanks, by definition, not for sharing?

 

[hotwords229_A]

I bet she has a really nice fux capacitor

I rate her at 1.21 Jizzawatts.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Are skanks, by definition, not for sharing?

That's a brilliant point. Your knowledge of skankery far exceeds mine.

 

[hotwords229_A]

In case anyone missed Trekka’s amazing thread:
https://forum.literotica.com/threads/🧨-whoring-tips-and-tricks-with-trekka-⛓.1570386/

The idea of popsicle insertion has come up and I find it intriguing.
I would have thought inserting something icy into yourself would be unpleasant and possibly dangerous (wet it first?), but apparently it’s what all the cool (get it?) kids are doing.

If your SO wanted to try this kink with you (you are the receiver) would you try it?
Have you done it?
What was your experience?
Is this a definite No for you or a Well . . . Maybe . . .

 

[Orchidea73]

It occurred to me that when you are new to Lit it’s easy to walk in and share all kinds of crazy stuff, but as we get to know each other, it may become awkward to overshare.

It'd the opposite for me. I might share more when I know the people or the place.

Does this happen to you on Lit?
Do you find yourself not sharing as much with the people you become closer to so as to not tarnish your awesome, carefully cultivated Lit persona?
Are you a little more bi than you let on?
Are you kind of embarrassed to admit you “maybe” looked at the BDSM threads longer than you want people to know.
Have you considered creating another Lit account so you can post in (or create) threads that you are curious about, but you want to do it “anonymously”?

Tell us, we know each other well enough.

No. By Lit standards, I'm as kinkybore as you can get. lol

 

[AveryElle]

In case anyone missed Trekka’s amazing thread:
https://forum.literotica.com/threads/-whoring-tips-and-tricks-with-trekka-⛓.1570386/

The idea of popsicle insertion has come up and I find it intriguing.
I would have thought inserting something icy into yourself would be unpleasant and possibly dangerous (wet it first?), but apparently it’s what all the cool (get it?) kids are doing.

If your SO wanted to try this kink with you (you are the receiver) would you try it?
Have you done it?
What was your experience?
Is this a definite No for you or a Well . . . Maybe . . .

A Popsicle in a vag sounds like a great way to get a yeast infection.
Ice play? yes, absolutely. But something involving juice or sugar or fake sugar? Hard pass there.

If your SO wanted to try this kink with you (you are the receiver) would you try it?
Popsicle? No. See above.

Have you done it?
Ice? yes. Popsicle? No. See above.

What was your experience?
Ice is great.

 

[AveryElle]

Last night I was res-erecting old threads and I found a few that I was a little embarrassed to dig out of the old Lit basement.

It occurred to me that when you are new to Lit it’s easy to walk in and share all kinds of crazy stuff, but as we get to know each other, it may become awkward to overshare.

This is, in my opinion, one of the issues with relationships. You may want your wife/girlfriend to don a strap-on and go to town on your butthole, but you are afraid to admit it, tell her about it or you are concerned that she might not be into seeing her man taking one for the team.

Does this happen to you on Lit?
Do you find yourself not sharing as much with the people you become closer to so as to not tarnish your awesome, carefully cultivated Lit persona?
Are you a little more bi than you let on?
Are you kind of embarrassed to admit you “maybe” looked at the BDSM threads longer than you want people to know.
Have you considered creating another Lit account so you can post in (or create) threads that you are curious about, but you want to do it “anonymously”?

Tell us, we know each other well enough.

Does this happen to you on Lit?
No, but I didn't come back after all these years looking for anything in particular so I had no reason to really think about that type of stuff.

Do you find yourself not sharing as much with the people you become closer to so as to not tarnish your awesome, carefully cultivated Lit persona?
No, I don't have a lit persona. I have met people with lit personas, people who are very different in private on skype, for example, and I hate it and hopefully it's accurate that I don't have one.

Are you a little more bi than you let on?
No, I'm less bi than I let on. I'm 110% cis het.

Are you kind of embarrassed to admit you “maybe” looked at the BDSM threads longer than you want people to know.
No, I openly look at them and reply when I have something useful to add based on experience/first hand understanding of something.

Have you considered creating another Lit account so you can post in (or create) threads that you are curious about, but you want to do it “anonymously”?
No. I'm boring.

 

[Dribble]

I want the cake and the frosting too. I want someone that wants to evolve too. That you feel comfortable enough to trust with anything. Otherwise...it is just the cake.

This has nothing to do with anything sexual. Or with sexual preferences. Or desires. It has everything to do with trust.

 

[Lord Pmann]

In case anyone missed Trekka’s amazing thread:
https://forum.literotica.com/threads/-whoring-tips-and-tricks-with-trekka-⛓.1570386/

The idea of popsicle insertion has come up and I find it intriguing.
I would have thought inserting something icy into yourself would be unpleasant and possibly dangerous (wet it first?), but apparently it’s what all the cool (get it?) kids are doing.

If your SO wanted to try this kink with you (you are the receiver) would you try it?
Have you done it?
What was your experience?
Is this a definite No for you or a Well . . . Maybe . . .

Fill all your holes with cum flavoured icy poles!!!

 I would suggest maybe a Pudding Pops type slogan like the one above. However, maybe we should consider someone other than Bill Cosby as the spokesrapist.

 

[PeteyPP]

Lit like anything in life can be a tightrope walk.
You want to let your freak flag fly but don't want to be thought of as a freak.
As you post and start to get response from people. You start to build relationships. With relationship expectations are formed. Then you can go into a preservation mode. Let's keep this ride going at all cost . Even if it's not the ride you really wanted to go on. It's still a ride
I don't exactly remember how I first came to Lit. It was actually under a different persona. I have grown a bit since then and recently started this one. Lit has a way of changing you be it for good or bad if you hang around long enough . It's opened my mind to tons of kinks that I didn't realize I had.. Being here with people .that are so open about there sexuality is quite refreshing but there is still the need for acceptance. There can also be a thin line between what is acceptable and what is the straw that breaks the camel toe
I guess my whole point is that in being here we want people to know that we're kinky but sometimes once we start getting to know them we become afraid to show them just how kinky we really are.

 

[BrownUnicorn]

In case anyone missed Trekka’s amazing thread:
https://forum.literotica.com/threads/-whoring-tips-and-tricks-with-trekka-⛓.1570386/

The idea of popsicle insertion has come up and I find it intriguing.
I would have thought inserting something icy into yourself would be unpleasant and possibly dangerous (wet it first?), but apparently it’s what all the cool (get it?) kids are doing.

If your SO wanted to try this kink with you (you are the receiver) would you try it?
Have you done it?
What was your experience?
Is this a definite No for you or a Well . . . Maybe . . .

Its a no for me. I take nothing in my hole just do the taking but I know many who might be down.

 

[Mei5ter]

It occurred to me that when you are new to Lit it’s easy to walk in and share all kinds of crazy stuff, but as we get to know each other, it may become awkward to overshare.

This is, in my opinion, one of the issues with relationships. You may want your wife/girlfriend to don a strap-on and go to town on your butthole, but you are afraid to admit it, tell her about it or you are concerned that she might not be into seeing her man taking one for the team.

Does this happen to you on Lit?
Do you find yourself not sharing as much with the people you become closer to so as to not tarnish your awesome, carefully cultivated Lit persona?
Are you a little more bi than you let on?
Are you kind of embarrassed to admit you “maybe” looked at the BDSM threads longer than you want people to know.
Have you considered creating another Lit account so you can post in (or create) threads that you are curious about, but you want to do it “anonymously”?

Interesting question.

Let's take your excellent example. If you're married, you have an established relationship, probably financial commitments, maybe kids. Now, people and their tastes change over time, and maybe you didn't like the idea of her donning that strap on when you got married. But while even long term partners constantly surprise each other, if you are absolutely sure that, if you suggest she might go to town on your butthole, she's going to think you are a toxic pervert and will be on the phone to 1-800-DIVORCE just as soon as she's told all your Facebook friends and work colleagues, you're not going to raise it. You compromise.

Lit is somewhere that most kinks can he discussed openly, if not always without judgement. When you are new here, and by definition you don't know anyone, you have no friendships or relationships here which you can fuck up by oversharing. But, over time, because this is actually social media, we form friendships here and that's when privacy matters. We share very personal things here, and we trust our friends' discretion. Oversharing with the wrong person here can have very painful consequences, and just about everyone here learns that soon enough. Doesn't mean I won't discuss my kinks and tastes as frankly as ever - more so, in fact, with the right audience. I'm just more selective in how and where and with whom I choose to do that.

It can be liberating to talk over our issues with a complete stranger. That's Lit on Day 1. But it's our friends who see us through the tough times, and that's a select group on Lit on Day 1001. There's the difference.

 

[LadyLascivious1]

Does this happen to you on Lit?
Not really. Lit is one of the places where I can be even more open about kinks and learn about new ones I should add to my “to do” list. My first posts were a dozen years ago so I am sure some would make me cringe, but it was all part of the road to who I am now so I wouldn’t change it. I also have no desire to go back and revisit them, similar to not listening to my own voice. No good can come of it.

Do you find yourself not sharing as much with the people you become closer to so as to not tarnish your awesome, carefully cultivated Lit persona?
I don’t have much of a Lit persona. I’m pretty much the same all the time with slightly more or less filters only as required. An offline friend recently asked for the name of the site I frequent and I am sure they would be able to identify me from posts that don’t contain personal info. Generally speaking, the more I get to know someone the more I will share kink wise, but I’m a pretty open book about most things if I interact with you 1-1 and even on the threads I choose to engage on here. On the flip side, I am extremely protective of other peoples personal stuff that they’ve trusted me with. So if I hold back specific things or new kinks it’s because I think it might potentially out someone about things they’re not very public with.

Are you a little more bi than you let on?
Considering it‘s on my profile, I think this one is a stated fact.

Are you kind of embarrassed to admit you “maybe” looked at the BDSM threads longer than you want people to know?
I might spend a bit more time on the BDSM threads than people who‘ve gotten to know me in the past would expect, but that’s primarily because I thought I had zero interest when it turns out some of my favorite kinks (and ones I’m very vocal and open about) are actually included in the BDSM world and I had no clue. Lit is so educational. Also, new kinks I’ve discovered and didn’t know were a thing are part of that world too. And as I evolve, who knows?

Have you considered creating another Lit account so you can post in (or create) threads that you are curious about, but you want to do it “anonymously”?
I have never been tempted to create an alt. Heck, the times I‘ve lost my password I’ve gone the easiest route possible and just incremented the number appending my user name. I think that’s mostly because it seems like a lot of effort to have an alt and I’d like less complication in my life. Some newer kinks I might not be ready to share, while others I want to publicly explore. I think those reactions are more about my personal journey than any reputation here. I’d probably rather get things out there in threads so it’s available knowledge than hold most tight to the vest anyway. I guess I could see it being a bit awkward to talk to an old flame and have to announce new kinks, but I embrace the awkward overall. That shit is funny.

Tell us, we know each other well enough.
I don’t know you well, HW, but that little white writing was informative. I’ll admit one of my kinks is that I find that hot AF

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

Does this happen to you on Lit?
Do you find yourself not sharing as much with the people you become closer to so as to not tarnish your awesome, carefully cultivated Lit persona?

~ I do find myself not sharing as much with people because I feel like that’s seen as an open invitation to send me unwanted messages. Sort of the same thing as posting pictures; people often saw that as me saying that I wanted to picture swap or sext or give out my Skype, or for them to explain things to me, or take me under their wing, etc. I’m not interested in that. What I think is silly fun can also be seen as an invitation, so I'm more careful now.

~I know the majority of people do not overstep, but the few who did made me more wary of opening up too much.

~ Also, some days I will be in the mood for one thing, but the next day I’m not. I feel leery of posting that I really like “X” but then later I don’t feel in that mood at all, and then I think people will think I’m not being genuine or I’m being fake or that I’m trying to look a certain way. I’m not. I just like different things at different times. It makes me feel self conscious and uncomfortable when I see posts about how people act one way on lit and another way on Skype or IRL. I’m like that day to day no matter where I am. People are multifaceted, and I feel like once you post something, it’s there in black and white for all to see, and being a person that someone can’t put a label on isn’t well received here. I guess some would say I’m fickle? I yam what I yam.

Are you a little more bi than you let on?
~ I’m not. I wish I was. I feel there is a special bond between women and for that to manifest itself sexually seems like it would be amazing. I find women incredibly beautiful and sexy and I’m in awe of so many women here. But I just don’t feel sexually attracted to women the same way I do towards men. I used to be more playful and joke around about that but years ago, I hurt someone because she thought I was being more serious than I really was. I am very careful to not try and play up that image because I don’t want to send mixed signals.

Are you kind of embarrassed to admit you “maybe” looked at the BDSM threads longer than you want people to know.

~ Not embarrassed. Intimidated. I am very interested in some aspects of BDSM but not all, and I also don’t know everything there is to know. I don’t think I fit a label there and rather than worry about “tarnishing” any image, I don’t want to seem like I’m trying to be something I’m not so I just admire from afar.

Have you considered creating another Lit account so you can post in (or create) threads that you are curious about, but you want to do it “anonymously”?

~I did create one during one of my breaks but the name I chose was “_SB_” bc I felt like I was sneaking around and it made me feel weird. I didn’t post and that account is now deactivated.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I’m not. I wish I was. I feel there is a special bond between women and for that to manifest itself sexually seems like it would be amazing. I find women incredibly beautiful and sexy and I’m in awe of so many women here. But I just don’t feel sexually attracted to women the same way I do towards men. I used to be more playful and joke around about that but years ago, I hurt someone because she thought I was being more serious than I really was. I am very careful to not try and play up that image because I don’t want to send mixed signals.

This is unfortunate. There should be a way to play and explore without hurting someone or having them think you are something that you’re not. On the other hand, how can you find out what you are , or like, if you can’t play? On the third hand, how can you control what others think of you? And fourth of all, you can’t control who is attracted to you. Sometimes people want you to be more serious than you are, they want to be closer to you than you want and get to know you better than you’re interested in. It’s hard sometimes to be nice AND clear that it’s all just for fun.
It’s not your fault that it’s so easy to fall for you.

But while even long term partners constantly surprise each other, if you are absolutely sure that, if you suggest she might go to town on your butthole, she's going to think you are a toxic pervert and will be on the phone to 1-800-DIVORCE just as soon as she's told all your Facebook friends and work colleagues, you're not going to raise it. You compromise.

This would also be a great way to get out of a loveless marriage and into a more butthole-centric one.
Maybe the wedding vows should be updated to something more appropriate. “Do you promise to honor and cherish, in sickness and health and not to freak if he develops an interest in butthole stuff?”

I don’t know you well, HW, but that little white writing was informative. I’ll admit one of my kinks is that I find that hot AF

I’ll admit that one of my kinks is finding you finding that hot AF to be hot AF.

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

On the third hand, how can you control what others think of you?

Good point. People are going to think what they’re going to think. Can’t really control it. It’s hard on a forum like this where most interaction is through text.

 

[Mei5ter]

This is unfortunate. There should be a way to play and explore without hurting someone or having them think you are something that you’re not. On the other hand, how can you find out what you are , or like, if you can’t play? On the third hand, how can you control what others think of you? And fourth of all, you can’t control who is attracted to you. Sometimes people want you to be more serious than you are, they want to be closer to you than you want and get to know you better than you’re interested in. It’s hard sometimes to be nice AND clear that it’s all just for fun.

Yep. All of that.

You're exploring and playing to find out what you like.

They think they've finally found the one other person in the world who will embrace the kink they've been ashamed of for thirty years.

It's the old problem here. You learn someone's kinks before you learn their name, and you think they're your soul mate. When all you have in common is a shared enthusiasm for butt stuff. Asshole-mate, if you will, rather than a soul-mate.

I come here to talk kitchens and kitchenwares nowadays.