I have some Questions....
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lilredwolph
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hi 
you need to ask the questions in order for us to answer them
you need to ask the questions in order for us to answer them
lilredwolph
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your PM box is full
here is the answer i just tried to PM you:
you would be better off posting your questions on the board, that way you will get a varity of answer from people with differant veiws and have all questions answered. we are a friendly group and pretty helpful
here is the answer i just tried to PM you:
you would be better off posting your questions on the board, that way you will get a varity of answer from people with differant veiws and have all questions answered. we are a friendly group and pretty helpful
lilredwolph
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Where do you go to meet a partner? there are personals sites online (links are on the board in the library) or you could look into munches and groups in your local area
Is it hard to find a partner that will be willing to teach someone new to the seen? you must be willing to help yourself thru research and reading, there are many that will help you as mentors
The role of the Dom and the sub both turn me on,,,,can this work? that would be called a switch, and yes for those comfortable with it it works
you need to empty out your PM box (both sides in and out messages)
Is it hard to find a partner that will be willing to teach someone new to the seen? you must be willing to help yourself thru research and reading, there are many that will help you as mentors
The role of the Dom and the sub both turn me on,,,,can this work? that would be called a switch, and yes for those comfortable with it it works
you need to empty out your PM box (both sides in and out messages)
Etoile
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Wow, how'd his PM box fill up so fast? I'm going to assume that what lilredwolph posted are his questions that were sent by PM or something.
Where do you go to meet a partner?
Lots of places. There's Lit's own Personals, there's Alt.com, there's a bunch of places.
Is it hard to find a partner that will be willing to teach someone new to the scene?
If you're a sub, it's a lot easier than if you're a dom. Dominants are the ones largely responsible for safety, so they're the ones who need to know things before they get into playing. It's still possible if you're a dom, though. Doing some reading and possibly finding a mentor are good steps in the right direction.
The role of the Dom and the sub both turn me on,,,,can this work?
Here is the Library section on switching.
Where do you go to meet a partner?
Lots of places. There's Lit's own Personals, there's Alt.com, there's a bunch of places.
Is it hard to find a partner that will be willing to teach someone new to the scene?
If you're a sub, it's a lot easier than if you're a dom. Dominants are the ones largely responsible for safety, so they're the ones who need to know things before they get into playing. It's still possible if you're a dom, though. Doing some reading and possibly finding a mentor are good steps in the right direction.
The role of the Dom and the sub both turn me on,,,,can this work?
Here is the Library section on switching.
Etoile
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I posted the above, and within minutes I got this PM:
http://www.amanita.net/images/smilies/look-away.gif
http://www.amanita.net/images/smilies/look-away.gif
Etoile
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Slave_Boy, I'm posting this here because I don't want to send you another PM. Please stop trying to use this thread as a way to find people to talk with you privately. Some of us are happy to help answer questions, but are not interested in private discussion. If you want to find somebody to chat with, go to the Personals or Playground parts of this forum. As for showing you the do's and don'ts around here - I already did with my first PM, where I said you would have better luck posting in the thread you started. If you can't handle that, I'm sorry, you'll have to find somebody else to hold your hand. (Or your dick, whichever.)
AnelizeDarkEyes
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Welcome to the Community, Slave_Boy. Looks like you've made quite the impression, the hard way. Tsk, tsk. You might want to have a look at this sticky before you go jumping in where angels fear to tread again. It'll give you the low-down on the rules and regs around here, and will also give you links to some great essays on stuff like SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) and online predators. It's a must read, if just for the rules.
You also might want to check out the Personals, if you're on a people hunt. There are other BDSM personals sites out on the web as well. Bottom line is: Don't do it here. We welcome threads on any subject you like in the Cafe, and topics related to BDSM in the BDSM Talk Forum, but personals are out.
Last, but not least, check out our Library, it's loaded with threads on every aspect of BDSM you can think of, and we're always adding to it. There's a lot of info in there, for new and old folks alike.
Good luck, and welcome.
~anelize, BDSM Librarian
You also might want to check out the Personals, if you're on a people hunt. There are other BDSM personals sites out on the web as well. Bottom line is: Don't do it here. We welcome threads on any subject you like in the Cafe, and topics related to BDSM in the BDSM Talk Forum, but personals are out.
Last, but not least, check out our Library, it's loaded with threads on every aspect of BDSM you can think of, and we're always adding to it. There's a lot of info in there, for new and old folks alike.
Good luck, and welcome.
~anelize, BDSM Librarian
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Etoile said:
I didn't post and I got the same PM.
ToxicForce
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Patience Slave Boy
Nothing in this lifestyle happens over night..Nothing that will last anyways.
Try this...Have a tee shirt made that tells what you looking for. Wear it to places, you might be suprised at what might find you!!!
It has worked for Me a few times
TF
Nothing in this lifestyle happens over night..Nothing that will last anyways.
Try this...Have a tee shirt made that tells what you looking for. Wear it to places, you might be suprised at what might find you!!!
It has worked for Me a few times
TF
lilredwolph
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you could have had mine, but they have been deleted also
deezire1900
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Nice way to step up and admit your error...you may be forgiven, but probably not.
It is not when, but where...read above for the boards that are more geared toward PM's and finding what your looking for.
It is not when, but where...read above for the boards that are more geared toward PM's and finding what your looking for.
niteshade
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Slave_Boy said:
Welcome to the boards.
In general, I have found that most people here receive PMs gracefully if you are asking a specific question that you are perhaps not comfortable with posting on the boards, or if you want to ask a personal question that is related to the subject at hand. I have PM'd people when I was looking for something and couldn't find it, didn't want to start a whole thread for one simple question, and figured that the person I PM'd would know the answer.
Basically, IMO, PMs are ok if you don't jump right in and start PMing women that you don't know asking them for what basically amounts to a play session.
I am sure a certain amount of flirting goes on in PMs around here
, but not without first figuring out who is open to that kind of thing, and who is not. I would advise you to do the same thing I did... Lurk a bit, ask a few questions in your thread, or others, and try not to be offended by the answers you get when we decide to be bluntly truthful. Some of them will be nice, others not so much.
If you hang around a bit, you will figure out the rules soon enough.
Good Luck.
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Etoile said:
LMAO.....this is my first time at this thread and I received the same PM.
catalina_francisco
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Slave_Boy said:
Well I don't think Slave_Boy has got the message really as he has PMed me in the same style as others. I seriously doubt he is a slave anything except for one of those we are used to who pretend and think it is the place to come to get their rocks off. Must be sad to be so unwanted.
Catalina
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Dammit, I didn't get a PM, and I feel...well...rather good about it, actually!!
catalina_francisco
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Johnny Mayberry said:Dammit, I didn't get a PM, and I feel...well...rather good about it, actually!!
And so you should...this boy would have better luck trying to pay for it I think...at least it would show a degree of honesty and openness. LOL
C
NekoBakamegami
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I just joined yesterday... and 2 minutes after, I got a pm from the guy... it kinda turned me off from the site...
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NekoBakamegami said:I just joined yesterday... and 2 minutes after, I got a pm from the guy... it kinda turned me off from the site...
nono! don't leave! we're not ALL like that! in fact, as far as i can tell, it's just this one guy...
so stick around! pleeeeez!
