I guess i have a small issue...

[Valley Lilly]

Im in my 20's, and still a virgin. I consider myself a nice, cool girl, and why not, i'm cute too.

The thing is, no guy ever wants to get close to me. And i don't know why. It's not like i've decided to wait, but it's just, guys never want to hang out with me.....

I've thought of myself as a 60 yr old virgin, alone, with 30 cats. I just want a normal sexual relationship as the rest of people of the world.

 

[Straight-8]

Not much to go on. You're in your twenties - still lots of time to meet your SO. Better tell a bit more about the reactions you get and the issues you have if you want any feedback.

 

[NaughtyLil1]

Where do you go to meet guys? I can understand your frustration, but you are so young...don't give up hope.

 

[pleasteasme]

Oh, don't get cats!


I'm sorry, I couldn't resist...

 

[Emerald Eyed]

Have you dated much?

 

[BrenVarouse]

..........

 

[Azuldrgon]

Im in my 20's, and still a virgin. I consider myself a nice, cool girl, and why not, i'm cute too.

The thing is, no guy ever wants to get close to me. And i don't know why. It's not like i've decided to wait, but it's just, guys never want to hang out with me.....

I've thought of myself as a 60 yr old virgin, alone, with 30 cats. I just want a normal sexual relationship as the rest of people of the world.

First of all, don't be in such a hurry to lose your virtue. Sometimes, it is based on what you believe whether you are on the right timetable or not.

So a few questions to help:
1. How important is losing your virginity to you? Are you wanting to lose it with Mr. Right or Mr Right Now?
2. How important is sex to you? Is it something you think about more than 30 times a day or just when a guy you crush on is around?
3. How open and friendly are you? Does your demeanor say come and say hi or get the fuck away from me?
4. What is your social life like? Do you go out or stay in? Do you go to dance clubs, bars, ball games?

It will happen when the time is right. Don't rush it. I regret my first time because it wasn't what I wanted it to be.

 

[emap]

What Azul said, you have to tell us why your having a problem losing your virginity.

Though I have a couple idea on how you can lose it if you just want to have sex, go to a club or bar, take the drinks offered to you and talk to the cute guy who comes up, assuming there is one. He will most likely ply you with drinks until your sloshy, then he will suggest you both move to his or your place, do so, when you wake up in the morning, you won't be a virgin.

That is of course assuming your shy, alchohol has a wonderful way of making you not shy and not that choosy, though beware the morning cause you can wake up next to a dog, and i'm not talking furry.

If your not shy, well then i'm wondering why you haven't done it already, go up to a guy you think is cute and just plain ask, will you fuck me now.

Those both are assuming you just want to have sex, if your not wanting to just have sex, patience is a virtue. get out and about, make it known your looking for your special guy, do personals in the paper and online, trust me you will get responses, most will be instant tossers, but you will get diamonds in the rough and downright my god why is he single responses.

 

[M's girl]

That is of course assuming your shy, alchohol has a wonderful way of making you not shy and not that choosy, though beware the morning cause you can wake up next to a dog, and i'm not talking furry.

Wonderful advice.....

How to loose your virginity and regret it the next day while dealing with a bad hangover and as a big bonus trust issues for the rest of your life

 

[Ahh_lex_A]

losing it

......if it means a lot to you, at your age, then you must make some adjustments when it comes to socializing with guys. I dont know what type of person you are, you might need more hanging out with places you like.
Whichever pleases you and meet guys.and enjoy....

......And while you're there, dont exert effort, let it cum to you naturally. make it effortless and by then, im sure, you'll get into it without pressure.
=)....Just chill....

 

[Valley Lilly]

I have many boy friends. But that's all: friends. We get out, chill, etc. But we're just friends. Guys only want to see me as a friend.

I get out the weekends. But my tall, beautiful best friend gets all the attention. It's so easy to her to be flirty. I don't know if i am picky or what, it's just... once a guy tries to get close, i get shy. I guess im too much of a chicken when it comes to talking to a new guy.

I guess i feel im losing the time. Im 26, and i feel i haven't done anything sexually related.

 

[BrenVarouse]

.............

 

[LadyJeanne]

I have many boy friends. But that's all: friends. We get out, chill, etc. But we're just friends. Guys only want to see me as a friend.

I get out the weekends. But my tall, beautiful best friend gets all the attention. It's so easy to her to be flirty. I don't know if i am picky or what, it's just... once a guy tries to get close, i get shy. I guess im too much of a chicken when it comes to talking to a new guy.

I guess i feel im losing the time. Im 26, and i feel i haven't done anything sexually related.

It's not that hard to get a guy's attention. LOTS of eye contact, particularly if accompanied by a smile. A little physical touching - a touch on the arm, brushing against him as you leave the table to go to the rest room, etc. Maybe an upgrade in wardrobe if you always go out in jeans and t-shirt - try a skirt now and then, or an attractive blouse with a V neckline that shows off your collar bones and maybe a little cleavage, as well as highlighting your face. A V neckline sort of frames your face and draws the attention to your eyes or mouth or whatever your best feature is.

And you do have to flirt a little, ask questions and be interested in who they are.

Good luck!

 

[taolanes]

I have a similar issue. In 20s, still virgin. I am actually a pretty good looking guy and a smart person. My issue though is that I am way too picky. Beyond that I give off a "this is awkward" vibe whenever I talk to someone new. I think my issue, and maybe yours as well, is that your personality is not fit for meeting someone. I know that a girl will catch my interest so much more just by having a good personality. I just wish I could figure out how to give off a better vibe to girls that would make them come talk to me