i got alot to learn in a short time

[madmanmike]

so my new gf is kinky. i knew that thats why i like her. but she wants to try new stuff and i am game for anything. i just need to learn how to do it. thats where you come in.

she wants me to tie up her tits with rope. each one tied seperate of course. they are size D so i got to learn how to do that.

when they are tied she wants me to put icyhot on the nipples. has anyone ever done this?

and any other thing i can think of. she wants to be tied and bound(no problem) and we are buying her a ball gag this weekend and i already got me a blindfold.

however she has bad knees. what are some good positions she should be able to stay in for a while while being gagged and blindfolded and i will need acess for anal and vaginal play.

she wants to feel like shes my toy to be used when i feel like it. any advice would be most helpful. also any ideas would be good. only done light bondage until now.

 

[CutieMouse]

It took a .32 second Google search "breast rope bondage tutorial" to find this site; Homburg has some excellent rope tutorials/advice in his ropework thread; the BDSM Library stickied at the top of the forum has an entire section on Bondage.

Icy Hot might be a bit intense to begin with - I'd suggest plain old mint toothpaste, Tiger Balm or Ben Gay (depending on her skin sensitivity).

As for positions that might put undue strain on bad knees - use common sense. Sticking her in the corner, bound in a stress position with calves tied to thighs is probably less wise than sticking her in a corner, arms bound/legs free. Alternatively - do chair bondage or some variant thereof.

The toy part is relatively easy - you play with your toy however you want - just remember if you break her (emotionally, mentally, physically) you might not get to play with her again.

 

[Kikori]

I don't know about tying or icyhot just yet; CutieMouse has better advice for you there.

For positions, if she has any bad body parts, it's simple; don't make her use those body parts. She won't have to use her knees if she's sitting or lying down. So beds and chairs are your friends here. It's possible for her to lie on her belly and back, or side.

As for 'her being your toy', if you want to use those words directly, use her body parts for your pleasure and make sure she knows it the entire time, particularly without being rough unless she asks. Probably the gentlest and most available ways to make her feel wanted and use her would be to randomly do something mildly sexual at any given time; use her breasts as pillows, pull her hands to your erection, if you have any turn-ons that require her touching you then do them. If she wants to be your toy, it doesn't have to be rough.

 

[madmanmike]

thanks

 

[myinnerslut]

talk to her about what she wants and expects. mabye a checklist is a good idea. google BDSM checklist to find lists of many different things that your gf (and you) can go through and assess how intrested you are in that kind of play.

there is nothing wrong with having to learn something. nobody knows everything at first, and if you feel like you need to learn about something or the safety of it, follow that instinct before trying it and possibly hurting her.

Master's (Homburg) rope thread (http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=543956) has a lot of suggestions for tying as well as for adaptions.