I get so turned on by giving women oral it aches, but its not a good thing:

[MTBR]

Hey all, got somewhat of a problem that I wonder if anyone else can help with:

Basically, any time I give oral to a woman, I find it the biggest and most unbeliviably powerful turn on. Animalistic wouldn't be a far off description of what its like.

Anyway this, I've found, is somewhat enjoyed by the women too. However I can and have spent up to several hours going down on a girl, but anything else seems to be lesser so compared to it.

As a prime example, several weeks ago I was with a friend of mine. After giving her oral for a fair while, I had sex with her but it just seemed so... Almost dull.

I enjoyed it, but compared to the feeling I get of pleasuring a woman orally, its not nearly as exciting.

This, as you can imagine, is having an effect on what else I do with a girl. I just don't get the kick out of the rest. Now granted its not unusual for people to enjoy something more then something else, but I enjoy oral that much it seems to make everything else boring.

I don't know if anyone has any suggestions on how to handle this, I'd really appreciate it. I want to enjoy other forms of foreplay, sex and other fantasies as equally as I do oral, but I find it difficult.

 

[MatthewVett]

Hey all, got somewhat of a problem that I wonder if anyone else can help with:

Basically, any time I give oral to a woman, I find it the biggest and most unbeliviably powerful turn on. Animalistic wouldn't be a far off description of what its like.

Anyway this, I've found, is somewhat enjoyed by the women too. However I can and have spent up to several hours going down on a girl, but anything else seems to be lesser so compared to it.

As a prime example, several weeks ago I was with a friend of mine. After giving her oral for a fair while, I had sex with her but it just seemed so... Almost dull.

I enjoyed it, but compared to the feeling I get of pleasuring a woman orally, its not nearly as exciting.

This, as you can imagine, is having an effect on what else I do with a girl. I just don't get the kick out of the rest. Now granted its not unusual for people to enjoy something more then something else, but I enjoy oral that much it seems to make everything else boring.

I don't know if anyone has any suggestions on how to handle this, I'd really appreciate it. I want to enjoy other forms of foreplay, sex and other fantasies as equally as I do oral, but I find it difficult.

I mean, this sounds kind of awesome. Are women complaining that you willingly go down on them for a long time? I can't imagine it hurts your popularity much. I don't mind, for instance, water sports interesting, but it doesn't make me feel bad because I don't enjoy everything.

Do you feel it's negatively impacting you that you don't enjoy other things as much? Just because other people think vaginal intercourse is the best doesn't mean you need to do so. You might try 69, that might be a step in the right direction, if you truly do want to change. However, I don't necessarily think you need to. You sound fine to me.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Instead of an hour of oral on one female, how about ten minutes of oral on six females.

 

[PublicAffection]

This honestly sounds... wonderful. Stick with what you like, unless you're getting complaints!

 

[MTBR]

I mean, this sounds kind of awesome. Are women complaining that you willingly go down on them for a long time? I can't imagine it hurts your popularity much. I don't mind, for instance, water sports interesting, but it doesn't make me feel bad because I don't enjoy everything.

Do you feel it's negatively impacting you that you don't enjoy other things as much? Just because other people think vaginal intercourse is the best doesn't mean you need to do so. You might try 69, that might be a step in the right direction, if you truly do want to change. However, I don't necessarily think you need to. You sound fine to me.

It is awesome, its nice when you're with a girl and you can give her that much pleasure she's positively writhing on the bed. I love the feeling of a girl who's in pleasure that way, it literally makes me want to orgasm thinking about it.

But yeah, as you say, its more because I feel I should be putting my full into all of it. I try, but honestly I just don't get the same kick out of it. Its for me and another woman I want to get the benefit for, I want to enjoy sex as much, I want to enjoy masturbation and fantasies as much, I just can't see to.

 

[amofiga]

I can share your love of giving oral pleasure to a woman and it's truly wonderful to have her cum on your face, multiple times if possible. However, I also love having the same oral pleasure returned. If you don't like receiving as much as giving, maybe there are some self-esteem things going on that prevent you from enjoying the gift returned to you. If intercourse isn't the thing that rocks your boat, then stick with the oral and maybe try to enjoy receiving as much as giving. I've actually known a few women (not as many as I'd like) that actually enjoy orally satisfying a man. They don't seem to be in the majority, but they're out there and you shouldn't deny them that pleasure any more than they should deny you giving as well. Different strokes for different folks so don't let the preferences of others color your view of sexual enjoyment.

 

[pplwatching]

There are many men, myself included, who adore giving oral sex for different reasons. It is extremely intimate, erotic, and even intoxicating. I am fortunate that my wife indulges my passion for pleasing her that way. It's almost always a part of our foreplay, and often a part of sex itself.

I think that as with anything the important question to ask yourself is, "Does my desire for oral sex interfere with forming and maintianing healthy relationships." Most people don't think of oral sex as a fetish, but if you can not get aroused or stay aroused unless you're doing it then that meets the textbook definition of a sexual fetish.

If your lover enjoys you orally pleasing her to the exclusion of everything else, then there's not really a problem. My wife indulges my love of tasting her, but for sex to be completely satisfying to her there has to be some form of penetration. She gets the most emotionally from sex in missionary position but loves other positions. While my love of her scent and taste is probably borderline obsessive, I love pleasing her in any position and we have a mutually satisfying sex life.

If you're only having one night stands, then there's probably not much emotional connection. You may be just attracted to the act, but not sexually attracted to any given lover. A considerate and respectful lover makes an effort to meet their partner's needs, tastes, and desires. If a lover needs and wants other sexual intimacy to feel emotionally connected to you, even in short term sexual relationships, then your fetish has the potential to interfere with your ability to function in relationships.

If you find that your love of oral sex is interfering in your relationships or your ability to meet your lover's needs, then I suggest seeking a professional counsellor who specializes in fetishes.

Best,

 

[MsQuote]

Hey all, got somewhat of a problem that I wonder if anyone else can help with:

Basically, any time I give oral to a woman, I find it the biggest and most unbeliviably powerful turn on. Animalistic wouldn't be a far off description of what its like.

Anyway this, I've found, is somewhat enjoyed by the women too. However I can and have spent up to several hours going down on a girl, but anything else seems to be lesser so compared to it.

As a prime example, several weeks ago I was with a friend of mine. After giving her oral for a fair while, I had sex with her but it just seemed so... Almost dull.

I enjoyed it, but compared to the feeling I get of pleasuring a woman orally, its not nearly as exciting.

This, as you can imagine, is having an effect on what else I do with a girl. I just don't get the kick out of the rest. Now granted its not unusual for people to enjoy something more then something else, but I enjoy oral that much it seems to make everything else boring.

I don't know if anyone has any suggestions on how to handle this, I'd really appreciate it. I want to enjoy other forms of foreplay, sex and other fantasies as equally as I do oral, but I find it difficult.

Perhaps it's not you. Perhaps you're with partners who don't put their all into intercourse.

Then again, my perspective and the dynamic I have with my s/o is very different. He's out of this world at giving and I love receiving, but I get to a point where I have to pull him away from what he's doing and tell him, "I want you inside of me!"

 

[Canuck13]

Perhaps it's not you. Perhaps you're with partners who don't put their all into intercourse.

Then again, my perspective and the dynamic I have with my s/o is very different. He's out of this world at giving and I love receiving, but I get to a point where I have to pull him away from what he's doing and tell him, "I want you inside of me!"

I think I get that too.

I am with the opening poster. I absolutely love going down on a girl. I can spend hours down there. Start slow, then build it up, teasing her and just listening to her body, then when its right, let her have that amazing orgasm. Followed by some more. And eventually I get the pull up and the "I want you inside of me."

Problem is its that time of the month and I miss it. Is that weird?

 

[NightL]

However I can and have spent up to several hours going down on a girl

Perhaps you're with partners who don't put their all into intercourse.

Maybe they are just a little worn out and don't have the energy for fucking. Mix it up a little.

 

[silverwhisper]

MTBR: i think that pplwatching is onto something re: the definition of fetish and it isn't clear to me whether your interest in oral sex does or doesn't meet that criteria. i also think that msquote has a good point here about you potentially wearing out your partners.

having said that: my wife enjoys receiving cunnilingus. i've never been with a woman who didn't. i too really enjoy it and it generally works like a charm in shortening my recovery period. but she isn't satisfied unless there's intercourse. the orgasms from receiving oral are nice, but for her, they're the icing on the cake.

therefore, perhaps what might work better is breaking up the routine. yes, do give oral but tease it, do it only for a few minutes at a pop and gravitate towards something else, then return to it.

ed

 

[Ruffian_13]

I just want to know where you guys are all hiding.... I LOVE oral (giving and receiving - it's the only way I've ever cum with a guy, so it's not the icing on my cake, it IS the cake!) but the guys I'm with rarely reciprocate to an equal extent as what I give.

Anyway, my point is that your problem is only a problem if you think it's a problem. If you're happy and she's happy, then no problem! If you're not happy though, maybe try backing off on the oral for a bit and see if you can find other things that stimulate and excite you. You might just need to re-boot your mind, for lack of a better term.

 

[speedr869]

I just want to know where you guys are all hiding.... I LOVE oral (giving and receiving - it's the only way I've ever cum with a guy, so it's not the icing on my cake, it IS the cake!) but the guys I'm with rarely reciprocate to an equal extent as what I give.

Oh, I love going down on a woman. And I'm not hiding!

 

[Ruffian_13]

You may not be hiding, but you're also very far away

 

[MsQuote]

Just one thought of many ...

Do you have time for one long evening with your partner when you can make the emphasis on the journey and not the destination? Perhaps do a sensual or tantric massage? (There are some great videos on YouTube.) Sometimes focusing on parts of the body that aren't so obvious are a great way to find out how to please each other.

 

[ejredlady]

Hey all, got somewhat of a problem that I wonder if anyone else can help with:

Basically, any time I give oral to a woman, I find it the biggest and most unbeliviably powerful turn on. Animalistic wouldn't be a far off description of what its like.

Anyway this, I've found, is somewhat enjoyed by the women too. However I can and have spent up to several hours going down on a girl, but anything else seems to be lesser so compared to it.

As a prime example, several weeks ago I was with a friend of mine. After giving her oral for a fair while, I had sex with her but it just seemed so... Almost dull.

I enjoyed it, but compared to the feeling I get of pleasuring a woman orally, its not nearly as exciting.

This, as you can imagine, is having an effect on what else I do with a girl. I just don't get the kick out of the rest. Now granted its not unusual for people to enjoy something more then something else, but I enjoy oral that much it seems to make everything else boring.

I don't know if anyone has any suggestions on how to handle this, I'd really appreciate it. I want to enjoy other forms of foreplay, sex and other fantasies as equally as I do oral, but I find it difficult.

after 22 years of NO oral - sugar come on down!!!! LMAO

 

[chipcarver]

I love giving oral. It is always a part of our love making, if not the whole experience. I could and have spent hours at the Y.
With my medical condition and medication I rarely climex. Which for me is no problem as long as she is satisfied I am satisfied.
Just wish I was in the position to spread my talent to those who are interested.
Maybe I should start a list so if I ever do find myself in such a position...

 

[peachydreams]

Oh, I love going down on a woman. And I'm not hiding!

<<<<((((Raising hand)))) volunteering for duty sir!!!

 

[MsQuote]

after 22 years of NO oral - sugar come on down!!!! LMAO

22 years??? How did you survive???

 

[MsQuote]

Problem is its that time of the month and I miss it. Is that weird?

Nope. Not at all. It's something my s/o REALLY enjoys and he misses it when I'm out of commission.

And I miss it. Big time!

 

[olarmy1997]

I have almost orgasmed several times hands free while going down on someone. I LOVE going down on a girl. I wish it wasn't considered cheating, and more girls would be willing to just accept it. I like the differences in women's smell, taste, texture, sounds, etc...absolutely intoxicating.

 

[SurrealObsession]

I don't think it is necessarily a problem. Maybe you just need to start thinking of that act as the primary sexual focus for you. That way you don't feel like you have to be guilty about not enjoying the rest as much.

Be honest with your partners and let them know that it is a major source of pleasure for you, as well. Then maybe add things in to help you to make it more the basis of your sex life. For example, more 69ing, or stroking yourself while you do it.

While some women would prefer penetration, I am sure you will find plenty who we be fine with the arrangement of being more oral based.

 

[MadWriter]

I think the issue here isn't so much the love of giving oral sex (a love I share), but the fact that you're hung up on one thing. For some it's getting oral, for others it's getting spanked, or spanking, or wearing a certain thing or sucking toes or .... insert fetish here. It's just that you love that one thing, whatever it is, so much that everything else seems to diminish in pleasure for you.

It's important to remember though that sex isn't just one thing. Unless you find a girl who ~only~ wants to get oral the way you ~only~ want to give it, neither of you will be fulfilled. Until, that is, you are able to demote giving oral from the ~only~ thing you want to simply your ~favorite~ thing to do.

I'm not sure how to do that ... I'm no Dan Savage ... but I might suggest trying a sexual encounter without doing it at all. Tell your partner you're trying to kick the habit ... think about it if that's what it takes to get hard, but don't do it. Bang that girl, get you both off, and then and only then, if you must, go down.

Also, keep in mind that this may be a phase. Has it ~always~ been this way, or just for the last few weeks, or months? If you think about it honestly and feel it may be temporary, maybe just ride it out ...

Not sure that'll help ... just the first couple things that came to my mind.