I fucking hate being ignored

[lilminx]

The worst is on aim. I know this person is at his computer (his aim isn't showing he's idle), and he hasn't answered the question I asked an hour ago.

I don't like that. I can obviously take the hint, but I told him last week that if he wasn't interested to let me know. He said he most definitely was. I feel like I'm being jerked around.

I guess my point is... mean what you say.

 

[Romial]

The worst is on aim. I know this person is at his computer (his aim isn't showing he's idle), and he hasn't answered the question I asked an hour ago.

I don't like that. I can obviously take the hint, but I told him last week that if he wasn't interested to let me know. He said he most definitely was. I feel like I'm being jerked around.

I guess my point is... mean what you say.

I know how you feel. Tell him to answer you now or to forever hold his peace.

 

[curious2c]

Being ignored anywhere sucks. I don't think you will be ignored here lilminx...heh heh

 

[December]

It's the internet. Why do you let people online trouble you so?

 

[Trail48]

waiting for someone to respond just sucks

 

[sexy-girl]

that sucks ... i can't understand how some people can be so weak they would rather ignore someone because they are afraid of actually saying something isn't working

 

[April]

He's jerking you around. No way does it take an hour to answer a question.

 

[lilminx]

It's the internet. Why do you let people online trouble you so?

Because it's someone who expressed interest in meeting me.

Yes, yes, I'm one of the losers who has to resort to online personals to get a frickin date.

 

[bknight2602]

The worst is on aim. I know this person is at his computer (his aim isn't showing he's idle), and he hasn't answered the question I asked an hour ago.

I don't like that. I can obviously take the hint, but I told him last week that if he wasn't interested to let me know. He said he most definitely was. I feel like I'm being jerked around.

I guess my point is... mean what you say.

I know what you mean, No one likes to be ignored either online or in RL.

People need social habits

 

[bad kitty]

With some people it just pisses you off, but with others, it hurts.

Sounds like he is playing games.

 

[lobito]

Because it's someone who expressed interest in meeting me.

Yes, yes, I'm one of the losers who has to resort to online personals to get a frickin date.

LOSER? WTF?

I was chatting with someone this morning, and was told, wait a moment please... They've now vanished into thin air apparently. It says they are still online, but they've not responded to me in more than 4:30 hours. Good thing I have other things to keep me busy right now.

 

[December]

Because it's someone who expressed interest in meeting me.

Yes, yes, I'm one of the losers who has to resort to online personals to get a frickin date.

You don't have to, you choose to.

 

[sexy-girl]

Because it's someone who expressed interest in meeting me.

Yes, yes, I'm one of the losers who has to resort to online personals to get a frickin date.

you're not a loser at all ... and nothing wrong with trying online dating except when you run into people like this LOSER guy who don't take it seriously

lilminx you rock and are way too good for him

 

[lilminx]

You don't have to, you choose to.

Well, it's either that or stay in every weekend. Which would you choose?


Sexy-girl, thank you.

 

[Nora]

Ok, from someone who often goes silent on IMs...

Is he at work? Perhaps he was called away from his desk. It's possible that there's a process running on his computer that's keeping him from showing as idle. Or, it's possible that he simply has to do some work and there's someone standing behind him. It's possible for him to be away and not show idle for a lot of reasons.

Now, that being said, there are rude people out there. I had a guy go out of his way to contact me once, saying that he was going to call me at work to go out while he was in Austin. When he didn't call I assumed that he just got bogged down with work and couldn't make it. Then I got home and saw that he'd been posting for the past 2 hours about how bored he was. Rude twonk.

So, you gotta ask yourself, is it in character for this guy to be an asshole, or does what you know of him so far lead you to wonder about another reason for his lack of response?

Don't assume negative intent, minxymuffin!

 

[ma_guy]

Is it possible yer bein' a little quick on the draw there?

Doesn't AIM have one of those configuration settings that you can check off so that you don't show an idle status?

I used to run AIM on my desk at work all the time but never showed up as idle and quite a few times I came back after a 2 or 3 hour meeting to find a meessage box from someone that had IM'd me while I was out.

 

[La Principessa]

vent time

I agree. It does suck and people need to learn some manners.

Like when you give someone a shoulder to cry on when they are going through a difficult time in their life and then once things are better you PM them and they don't even answer the PM.

Here you've spent all your time listening to their tale of woe and now that things are better they don't even give you the time of day??? That's just rudeness. Thoughtlessness. Inconsiderateness (is that a word?)

This in no way is in response to anyone that I chat with here at Lit. It's something else entirely.

 

[Nora]

Is it possible yer bein' a little quick on the draw there?

Doesn't AIM have one of those configuration settings that you can check off so that you don't show an idle status?

I used to run AIM on my desk at work all the time but never showed up as idle and quite a few times I came back after a 2 or 3 hour meeting to find a meessage box from someone that had IM'd me while I was out.

I don't use AIM, but in the config on Trillian for it, there is a "allow users to see how long idle" setting. And mine's not checked off. I would assume that means that it wouldn't show me as idle to an AIM user, but I dunno.

 

[lilminx]

Nora and ma_guy- he's not at work. He stayed home today. I'm not sure about the idle thing. Oh, and I use Trillian so I can see how long they've been on for and how long they're idle for.

It's annoying b/c he inititated contact with me, we've talked on the phone a few times and he said he was interested.

Prinicpessa, that does suck. Sorry that you've had to deal with people like that.

 

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[lilminx]

^^^^saddo

No sadder than someone who consorts with and puts up with insults from Hanns.

 

[modest mouse]

Minx, some people turn the 'idle' feature off. I have idle turned off on all my messengers so if i am off and on it doesnt matter, it only shows me as on.

 

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[lilminx]

since when do I consort with him??

and we tolerate each other


anyway, making things up will not successfully divert my attention away from the SADNESS of going online to pull

are you ugly, or fat, or both?

Neither.

Thanks for the tip, MM.

 

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