I could use some help plz

magnus01

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My girl and I are getting into a S&M relationship to try out the waters so to speak. I'm looking for a few rules to define this. My question is what are the rules for a good rlationship in this. I mean if your a master what rules does your slave need to follow.
 
Just a wild guess on my part but, you got your education in American public schools, didn't you?
 
magnus01 said:
My girl and I are getting into a S&M relationship to try out the waters so to speak. I'm looking for a few rules to define this. My question is what are the rules for a good rlationship in this. I mean if your a master what rules does your slave need to follow.

You will find ideas by looking through the library.

Or, you and your girl could read some of the stories here at lit. Talk about the stories that make you hot, make you want to explore this and go from there.

It is hard to recommend specific rules without knowing what your interests are.

When you know what it is that motivates you and your gal in this direction, then you will find your way.

Take care,

MissT
 
There are a lot of materials out there on the net to read for ideas and introduction to opinion and experiences of others. There is no set rules, no S&M bible that gives a lesson that works for everyone. This left me a bit confused as to your reference to S&M and using the terms Master and slave? What is it about yourself that you recognize as wanting such a relationship?

So many people are into the "bedroom submissive" arena and not into the BDSM lifestyle outside of that room, there is nothing wrong with that as long as you know that is your interest and can admit that.

If you seek guidance and learning in the lifestyle of BDSM or D/s or havin a M/s relationship then the avenues of exposure are endless just be sure you know what it is you are interested in and be familiar with the terminology enough to seek the information best suited to your needs.

(slave) enigma
 
Checklist

Also....be sure to find a good interests checklist. There are many sites that have them. It is a good tool for both of you to examine where your interests lay and to identify areas that are completely off limits. Not to say those limits won't change as time goes by, they might, but it is a good starting point.

If you need a link, pm me and I will send you one!
 
i think setting your own boundaries within your relationship is what counts. The most common general rules are a) make sure all acts are comitted with the consent of the other, b) educate yourselves about any activity prior to engaging and c) communicate with each other honestly throughout your explorations. Since you mentioned your relationship would be one of S/M (Sadism/masochism), i have not addressed any aspects of Dominance/submission. i've also provided some links from our Library which may also be helpful.

Bondage

Chastity

Checklists

Discipline/Punishment

Explorations

Humiliation

Limits

Pain/Sensory Play

Ritual

Safewords

Scenes

Spanking

Submission

Techniques

TPE - Total Power Exchange

Feel free to put forth more specific questions concerning your S/M interests. Good luck to you both.

lara
 
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