Humiliation, how does it work?

[Minout]

I have been thinking about humiliation a lot lately. It is not one of the things that makes me quiver with delight. I don't like to be humiliated or, even embarrassed. I know from reading here that some of you love it. Here is my question; if you like to be humiliated, if you get a rush from being *forced* to do something that makes you squirm with embarrassment, is it still humiliating? Does humiliation become something else when you *like* it? Is it the knowledge that you overcame your embarrassment that makes it appealing?

Minout

edited for spelling

 

[Rubyfruit]

Interesting topic, Minout.

For me, humiliation is about breaking down barriers, inner reservations, giving myself so completely to another that I have no desire to hide anything from him. I don't get a sexual charge from it however.

I think it was MsWorthy who talked about how she had to wait for her lover to come out of the bathroom after giving her an enema. It got me thinking about my first D/s relationship and how the first time he'd given me an enema, he came into the bathroom with me and fed me his cock while I sat on the toilet.

I'm embarrassed thinking about it now, but after that, he owned my soul.

 

[P. B. Walker]

For some reason, that is super hot to me, Ruby.

PBW "I think I need a 'timeout' now. "

 

[Minout]

Thanks Ruby.

So then is humiliation is more about power exchange and control than it is about sexual charge? Is this true for everyone?


Minout

 

[Rubyfruit]

That's what it is for me, Minout.

PB, go to my room!

 

[P. B. Walker]

That's what it is for me, Minout.

PB, go to my room!

<blush> Might just have to show my subbie side here: Yes Mistress Ruby. <crawling nekkid>.

PBW "Imitating a sundial on Ruby's bed"

 

[P. B. Walker]

Not to hijack... but I did have one small thing to say about humiliation.

I've never used it in person, but I have while playing on the phone and in cyber. To me, it was more about sexual thrill and taking things to the edge. The control aspects didn't enter into it at all.

However, in person, I think the control aspect would definitely become a large factor.

Just my two cents... no worth much I know...

PBW "Sorry for the brief hijacking"

 

[Minout]

Not to hijack... but I did have one small thing to say about humiliation.


PBW "Sorry for the brief hijacking"

'Tis Ok. If you hadn't come in to flirt with Ruby you probably wouldn't have posted. Right? BTW when humiliation was a sexual thrill for you were you the humilator or the humiliatee?


Ok so humiliation as sexual thrill 1

humiliation as power tool 2

Any other votes?

Minout *ain't nothin' wrong flirtin'*

 

[P. B. Walker]

'Tis Ok. If you hadn't come in to flirt with Ruby you probably wouldn't have posted. Right? BTW when humiliation was a sexual thrill for you were you the humilator or the humiliatee?


Ok so humiliation as sexual thrill 1

humiliation as power tool 2

Any other votes?

Minout *ain't nothin' wrong flirtin'*

I was the humilator in all cases. In many cases I would do it to give her a thrill, but now I find that I enjoy it... but I think I enjoy it because it turns them on so much.

I believe I was the humilatee on a few occasions... with one person... and it was very hot.... to let go and be humiliated. I'm not sure how I'd react in person though...

PBW

 

[Rubyfruit]

I'm surprised that nobody but PB and myself have stated an opinion on this topic.

Is humiliation just not a tool that many utilize?

 

[lovetoread]

I do not like it.

It doesnt mean it isnt done,just that I dont like it.

I dont get the thrill. I dont get turned on. It makes me feel bad about myself.

So it isnt something that I have much to do with if I dont have to.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I do not like it.

It doesnt mean it isnt done,just that I dont like it.

I dont get the thrill. I dont get turned on. It makes me feel bad about myself.

So it isnt something that I have much to do with if I dont have to.

I hear you, LTR!

Many people do not.

Eb

 

[A Desert Rose]

I do not like it.

It doesnt mean it isnt done,just that I dont like it.

I dont get the thrill. I dont get turned on. It makes me feel bad about myself.

So it isnt something that I have much to do with if I dont have to.

Someone posted a thread regarding humiliaton not too long ago. I posted to it then and expressed my views.

I feel very much like LTR. I see a correlation between humiliaton and lack of respect, in my mind and in my opinion. It does not work for me.

That being said, Whatever trips somone else's trigger is none of my business and I say carry on if it "does it" for you.

Rose

 

[Rubyfruit]

I've given this more thought and I think what it really comes down to for me is vulnerability in the extreme.

There was a time that I felt that having a man come on my face was humiliating. Now, I look at it as an act of love and trust.

How does everybody else view facials? For men, what's it like to do it? Do you like to? Why? For women, your views please. Is it humiliating?

Ever curiously ....

Edited to add, male views on receiving facials are encouraged as well.

 

[A Desert Rose]

There was a time that I felt that having a man come on my face was humiliating. Now, I look at it as an act of love and trust.

How does everybody else view facials? For men, what's it like to do it? Do you like to? Why? For women, your views please. Is it humiliating?

Not humiliating at all, for me at least. Quite fun indeed.

It's all relative. What I find to be humiliating, the next person will find extremely erotic and vice versa..... carry on.

Rose

 

[Rubyfruit]

What I find to be humiliating, the next person will find extremely erotic and vice versa.....

Yes, absolutely.

 

[unskilled]

I've given this more thought and I think what it really comes down to for me is vulnerability in the extreme.

There was a time that I felt that having a man come on my face was humiliating. Now, I look at it as an act of love and trust.

How does everybody else view facials? For men, what's it like to do it? Do you like to? Why? For women, your views please. Is it humiliating?

Ever curiously ....

Edited to add, male views on receiving facials are encouraged as well.

how does a man that cums on your face show love and trust?

 

[Lancecastor]

Things like facials I find to be a normal, loving act between lovers. If two don't want to lick each other clean and don't find it incredibly erotic....I suspect they perhaps shouldn't be lovers....but that's JMO.

Lance

 

[A Desert Rose]

Things like facials I find to be a normal, loving act between lovers. If two don't want to lick each other clean and don't find it incredibly erotic....I suspect they perhaps shouldn't be lovers....but that's JMO.

Lance

Yes, indeedy.

Rose

 

[MissTaken]

how does a man that cums on your face show love and trust?

That is a great example.

I don't view that as humiliating.

It is very erotic especially when I gently swipe my finger tip over my cheek and taste his juices.


For me, humiliation would be vulgar, derrogatory name calling. i.e. bitch etc. However, even there, there are names that seem vulgar to the passer by that I find highly erotic. "Slut" cna be an endearment.

Urine play is not humiliating. The first time it seemed to be, but I was so aroused that it was just another gestrue, act between the two of us.

So, what I am getting at, is how do you define humiliation? Then, I can respond.

 

[Rubyfruit]

MissT, I think it is indeed very personal. What would be slightly humiliating to you, but something you'd do with/for the right person?

I agree with everybody here that facials are not humiliating....to me....Now that is. There was a time that they were. Hey, it took a long time to get over that "good girl" thing, what can I say.

 

[Skitten]

humiliation, how does it work ?

Facials are cool they are a sense of someone totally trusting the other one not that they are humilating that person. It is a turn on YES. And you are able to know that you partner gives himself totally to you and you feel honored and adored.

Maybe some do not but it can also be a form of acceptance, that you accept him all over you and he is able to give himself to you and know that you are honored to have him there or anywhere he may want to give himself to you.

 

[unskilled]

love and trust

love.. sure.. of course you would love the person to allow them to do that. If it's deep love, and they wanna do that.. of course you are gonna be willing to adjust to their fetish

but.. trust?

that don't equal in. trust what? trust that they won't squirt in your eye? lol.. sorry..

 

[A Desert Rose]

I am just a mellon head LOL

Call me silly but I don't try to analyse it. I just LIKE it.

Rose

 

[Rubyfruit]

that don't equal in. trust what? trust that they won't squirt in your eye? lol.. sorry..

Trust that he will still think you're beautiful, whole, special, worthy, complete, even with semen dripping off your face.