how would you react

[Willing and Unsure]

if someone told you that they didnt really want to have sex with you, they just did it to make you feel good?

 

[Wiggles]

I wouldn't have sex with them. Depending on their reasoning, I'd either dump them or send them to counseling.

If it was my boyfriend, in my situation, I'd have to dump him. It wouldn't make me happy being a pity fuck.

 

[MissTaken]

I would tell them to "Fuck off" and remember they were lying!

 

[Summery]

Fuck you, and kick him to the curb!

I agree with what MissT said, they are lying.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

basically... what all of you said, is what i would have said too..


now, here's my little spin on this for now. assuming this was your boyfriend, that really didnt want to have sex but knowing how much you really wanted it did it anyways and then later told you that?

 

[Cheyenne]

There's a huge difference between meaning I NEVER wanted to have sex with you any time we were ever together, and I didn't want to have sex with you THIS time because I was tired/not in the mood/fill in the blank but I did it anyway because I love you and I knew you really wanted it right now.

Version 1 gets kicked to the curb. Version 2 gets a kiss.

 

[Guest]

The truth is a bitch ... move on and forgot about him.

 

[Ishmael]

if someone told you that they didnt really want to have sex with you, they just did it to make you feel good?

Pretty sick fuck WU. Is courtship dead?

Ishmael

 

[Siren]

I am with Cheyenne on this one

 

[Willing and Unsure]

Re: Re: how would you react

Pretty sick fuck WU. Is courtship dead?

Ishmael

was it ever really alive?

 

[Ishmael]

Re: Re: Re: how would you react

was it ever really alive?

It is if you demand it. If he isn't willing to put forth the effort, then he's telling you what he thinks of your worth, isn't he?

Ishmael

 

[InnocentAngel81]

i would feel completely horrible.

 

[BustyTheClown]

basically... what all of you said, is what i would have said too..

now, here's my little spin on this for now. assuming this was your boyfriend, that really didnt want to have sex but knowing how much you really wanted it did it anyways and then later told you that?

I'm with Cheyenne, too. It sounds like he had sex with you because you wanted it and pushed it on him. Which begs the question, did you pressure him too much?

I think people are jumping to conclusions (based on what you said in your first post, which, frankly, was misleading) and calling the guy a bastard. However, if you put too much pressure on him to have sex and led him to do it even when he didn't want to, I'd blame you for putting him in that kind of position.

If that was the case, you shouldn't be angry with him, you should be ashamed of yourself.

Of course, if that was just a hypothetical situation, then this is just a hypothetical criticism.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

I'm with Cheyenne, too. It sounds like he had sex with you because you wanted it and pushed it on him. Which begs the question, did you pressure him too much?

I think people are jumping to conclusions (based on what you said in your first post, which, frankly, was misleading) and calling the guy a bastard. However, if you put too much pressure on him to have sex and led him to do it even when he didn't want to, I'd blame you for putting him in that kind of position.

If that was the case, you shouldn't be angry with him, you should be ashamed of yourself.

Of course, if that was just a hypothetical situation, then this is just a hypothetical criticism.

well, with the way i am, in posing the question (i guess i forget not everyone knows the way i am), i dont want anyone to do anything they dont want to do, so i dont pressure anyone. i'll admit that i prolly didnt word the original question in a very good way, but that isnt the point.

but as for this situation, whether real or fictional, its kind of hard to say that it was the girl pressuring the guy. in most all cases relating me and sex, i'll flirt but i dont initiate because i dont want the other person doing what they dont wanna do. so, assuming he initiated sex in this case and then later came back and said he didnt want to, i would say falls into the first question, even though he is committed to you as in the second.

and dont worry about the criticism... this has just been something on my mind lately

 

[naudiz]

I might ask, "So if you're doing things because they make me feel good, I should probably mention that I would feel ecstatic if you would do the dishes, take out the trash, and take me out to dinner somewhere so expensive you'll still be paying off the bill well into retirement."

Or if it's a lame prelude to a breakup, I might say something like, "And to think I was faking all those orgasms just to make you feel good! Isn't life funny?"

How would I feel? I don't know. It would depend on the situation. I try not to let my ego get too tied up in how sexually desirable someone perceives me to be, but there are moments where 'try' and 'suceed' aren't the same thing. I'm only human, after all.