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[Philly_artist]

I was wondering in all reality how is the best way to meet a girl that isn't looking for something serious... Basically she wouldn't mind being friends with privilages and doesn't have much shame... I mean it sounds too good to be true that you could just meet someone like this... So the question is how?

 

[Lust Engine]

Seems like you want a fuck buddy.

The best way is to strike up a conversation, get to know someone pretty well, be honest & frank with them. If she doesn't deck you right there you might be alright.... or at least appreciate your honesty. You seem to be asking for a magic formula & there isn't one. Each person (you included) has certain expectations & desires. You need to communicate as much as possible & as acutely as you can be. It's a dicey subject but if you're to succeed, you gotta put yourself out there.

 

[Anais_14]

There are plenty of girls out there that are interested in sex without attachments. I agree with the poster above who said to be honest and put yourelf out there. Back when I was dating, here were some tips that I learned:

1. The time to discuss being "fuck buddies" is before the fucking ever takes place. Both parties need to know what they are getting into.

2. Throw jealousy out the window. Just being "fuck buddies" doesn't give you any claim on the other person - they may (and probably will) continue to date, sleep around, etc.

3. Put the other person's feelings first. If you can tell that they are getting emotionally attached, and you still don't want a committed relationship, suck it up and call it off. Immediately. It makes it so much harder to get out of later!!

4. Fuck buddy is two works - fuck and buddy. You have to treat that person like a friend. They are not just some toy at your dispoal (most of the time!)

Anyway, good luck. Most of my girl friends have had casual sex relationships while we were younger and in college. Girls want is just as much as guys do!

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[pecan9676]

Rules,Rules,Rules

The first thing you that you must establish with a FB is the rules that you two will operate under. Don't assume anything, if you are not planning to do anything other than have sex then, don't start to act is if you are dating. If you don't want to share anything other than a bed then, keep all conversations fairly general. But number one rule which shouldn't need to be mentioned CONDOMS

 

[Philly_artist]

Well if there is anyway to prove you can trust me i will.

 

[pecan9676]

Well if there is anyway to prove you can trust me i will.

you will what?

 

[Philly_artist]

Not you pecan right above you

 

[pecan9676]

K

 

[Lipstick]

I think A14 said it all.

The real problem here is that women don't want the jerk who walks up and says, "Wanna fuck?" even if in their hearts they think they do. There's got to be something else that gets two people to strip and make their bodies mate. I think that something is what makes each of us individual and attracted to only certain people--and not everybody.

All this said, the bottom line (the one with you and a girl horizontal on a stable surface) is to find a buddy and then express your wishes. What's going to happen? She'll either say "yes" or "no." If no, accept and decide whether to move on or pursue friendship. If yes, well, end of story. Maybe. Just be careful....protection both of mind and spirit.