How to spot a dom?

[Xswfx]

Why can't someone who's not a sex worker be "in the lifestyle?"

What do you think, do you think that regular people who are kinky don't sometimes proudly or subtly display the trappings of their kinks and symbols of their relationship and their dynamic?

The idea that someone who does must be "not normal" and equal to a whore is... Uninformed, at best. There are other labels I could put on it but


you know what, idgaf. You're asking how to spot people and rejecting some sound advice. Whatever, good luck

And you know what, equating sex worker with "whore" is NOT what i did . That was all you pal

 

[Crystal_Dust]

Well, you’ve certainly shown you have no idea what you are talking about. I would suggest at least learning basic terms

 

[Britva415]

And you know what, equating sex worker with "whore" is NOT what i did . That was all you pal

For rhetorical purposes, yes, that's what I did.

What YOU did was equate "the lifestyle" with sex work.

Pal.

 

[Xswfx]

how much do you know about the BDSM scene in your area?

nada

 

[Xswfx]

Well, you’ve certainly shown you have no idea what you are talking about. I would suggest at least learning basic terms

For rhetorical purposes, yes, that's what I did.

What YOU did was equate "the lifestyle" with sex work.

Pal.

um, i know the bdsm lifestyle is not sex work

 

[Xswfx]

what do you want out of a Dom?

like a person who is dominant in the relationship. not a paid dom.

 

[barefootgirl69]

The best way to meet someone is simply by getting to know people. I bet there are people you know who are in the lifestyle. No, not everyone in the LS is already in a relationship, they could be between partners.

Someone mentioned finding a local group on Fetlife, and that's a great start. Attend a Munch - which is a generic dinner where you meet and talk to people.

Take your time getting to know anyone before jumping into submitting for them.

 

[J D Danger]

nada

you have been given good advice by people who most likely have more real life..club and BDSM experience then I do

so I will simply echo what they have said

if I were you I would learn what I could of the BDSM scene local to you(if there is one)

Fet life can be a good resource although you will have to navigate around the content creators and sex workers

but there are some very good groups that could lead you to munchies and other gatherings that are just regular people with kinks trying to be a part of a community