How to relax

[sosexy]

I get aroused very easily when I'm alone, but with a partner I get very tense, cause I get nervous. Any tips on how to get more relaxed so I can let my true sexual self out more?

 

[Eilan]

Do you have a SO/regular sex partner? I was just curious because of how you said "with a partner."

My experience has been that if I trust my partner and am comfortable with him, I'm better able to "let go."

 

[covariant]

I get aroused very easily when I'm alone, but with a partner I get very tense, cause I get nervous. Any tips on how to get more relaxed so I can let my true sexual self out more?

I've been there, it just takes time. You might try going to bed without any particular expectation of sex. Just hold each other and talk, sex will happen in time.

 

[KarenDee]

I've been there, it just takes time. You might try going to bed without any particular expectation of sex. Just hold each other and talk, sex will happen in time.

Yes, what he said. Don't try to force it, just enjoy the moment. Sometimes those are the best sexual experiences of all, since they lead into the rest of it totally unscripted and unplanned for.

 

[SweetErika]

I get aroused very easily when I'm alone, but with a partner I get very tense, cause I get nervous. Any tips on how to get more relaxed so I can let my true sexual self out more?

Okay, but what's causing the nervousness?

I think you have to figure that out and challenge it before you'll be able to get the results you want.

 

[NewAndEager]

I am the same way, except that my boyfriend turns me on like crazy. The reason for my nervousness, I believe, is that he's my first boyfriend and my first experience with EVERYTHING. he's really experienced, and the best I can come up with is that I feel inadequate or like I won't match up to other girls he's been with (also really really experienced).

While he's always made good indications about what I do for him, and has told me numerous times that I'm prettier/better/whatever, it's still hard to let loose.

I would also appreciate some tips on loosening up. Whatever he does to me feels sooooo good, but i've never been able to let myself go enough to orgasm.

 

[sosexy]

The reason why I'm nervous is mainly cause I've had bad experiences in the past, and I don't want them repeated. Also I'm afraid of not liking it and not being able to say no, I'm afraid of letting go. And I'm really horny for sex, but often then person I'm with will do something that turns me off and then I'm in a complex situation, i want sex but not with him. Story of my life. Arggh!

 

[KarenDee]

I would also appreciate some tips on loosening up. Whatever he does to me feels sooooo good, but i've never been able to let myself go enough to orgasm.

It takes time to build a level and trust in someone, so much so that you will find yourself totally relaxing and enjoying sex to its fullest. As you become more experienced and more trusting, you'll also discover that the best feelings come from "giving" and not "receiving." The most erogenous zone is the brain. Don't expect miracles overnight. Enjoy what you are doing right now with the realization that it will get better...lots better...but only if the two of you become totally committed to each other.

Letting yourself go is your ultimate goal, but only when he lets himself go will the two of you begin to see what fantastic sex is really all about. It takes 100% of both sides...don't rush things. The enormous pleasure is there, but you have to let it happen on its own...you can't force it.