how to prolong an ejaculation

[Guest]

my girlfriend and i, have an active sex life, and it is good, but most of time, just as she is "nearing thie finish line" so to speak, i lose control and blow my load, leaving her and myself a tad annoyed..

so can anyone please tell me some methods of prolonging the male orgasm..

we both would really appreciate it.
T.I.A

 

[The Gimp]

Practice makes perfect. If it feels like you're going to reach the finish line a tad early then do something different. You can slow down, change positions, or even completely pull out and go down on her for a while, then after a few minutes you can go back to work.

 

[Bob_Bytchin]

Having her (or you) press down on the very base of your shaft...the part just below your scrotum can delay your orgasm. Once you get close, just press on this area and continue, it should help you greatly.

 

[Timeus]

Having her (or you) press down on the very base of your shaft...the part just below your scrotum can delay your orgasm. Once you get close, just press on this area and continue, it should help you greatly.

What Bob says works.

What worked for me when I was younger was to spend more time on oral sex foreplay. This does two complementary things---
First, it gives the male time to relax and not be so wrought up that he comes too soon. Being relaxed he can control the stimulation.
Second, it excites the lady a lot so she doesn't have that far to go to the finish line once you get into her.
Another thing I've noticed is that certain thoughts and images while fucking make me incredibly excited and unable to wait. If humping in the missionary position, looking back and seeing her legs spread wide or enclosed over my back just sends me over the wall. So I don't look if I don't want to come yet. Then when I'm ready, I do....and it's great.
Also, have her try riding you. It is likely that the position during riding she finds most stimulating is not as stimulating to you.
Finally, if you get into a habit of being anxious about this problem, you will only make it worse. Talk with her about it and spend more time in foreplay.
As a last resort, if you think you are going to have sex that evening, wank-wank-wank an hour or two before. That will give you time to recover--but also increase the amount of stimulation you get.
--I'm sure you will get over this...Most men do. Take your time.
T.
PS: By the way, count yourself lucky she can come from penetration at all....most (approx. 75%) of women can't.

 

[DevilBoy79]

my girlfriend and i, have an active sex life, and it is good, but most of time, just as she is "nearing thie finish line" so to speak, i lose control and blow my load, leaving her and myself a tad annoyed..

so can anyone please tell me some methods of prolonging the male orgasm..

we both would really appreciate it.
T.I.A

that happens to everybody, no big deal, try not to think about wanting to cum, for a few seconds, as she" is nearing the finish line" it helps sometimes with me i know that

 

[Wizard]

Cockring........................

 

[methpez]

2 things

Yes the cock ring helps but only a bit for some. I have found that if you masturbate and stop your self righ before cumming this helps too.

 

[Miguelito Breathstealer]

Negative stimulation might also help.

I have found that if I am about tho go off too soon, the best way to slow down is to think of something else. The closer you are, the farther your mind has too be. But letting your mind drift in general is not the answer, you have to go somewhere specific.

A place I often go is one full of writhing maggots that sting when they touch your skin. Ants crawl in and out my ass. A giant log grinds into my skull driving me to painful insanity. Still feel like you are about to cum? Didn't think so.

Of course, you never tell her you are thinking of these things. Chances are, she will never notice. What she will notice is that even if she tries, she can't make you cum first. This boys is the true secret to staying power.

The other thing you might try is REAL pain. Discretely scratch your back -- really dig in those nails. Or even better, convince her to do it. Tell her it really turns you on. Unless of course it does, in which case forget I mentioned it.

 

[the3rdchimp]

I agree with Methpez' comment about 'controlled' masturbation. Over time (and with much practice) I've found that it's the best way to build up a resistance.

The trick is a LOT of practice but...hell... it's also a lot of fun .... particularly if you practice together.

The only downside (?) is that it's turned me into a exhibitionist. I now find I enjoy being watched. Now - if i could only find a lady who enjoys watching........... (and being watched)

 

[dickE]

I have to agree with Miguelito Breathstealer..........I've always used that method and it works.


Just at that first strong urge, instantly switch your concentration to a very non-sexual thought....like the work you need to catch up on or the trash that has to be out tomorrow morning and after the first urge passes, the second and third urges will be much less strong and easier to stave off.

Then to cum, switch back on the lil porno VCR in your brain and let'er cum.

It's all in our minds........yours and hers. Sex organs merely dispense the liquids and generate the feelings.

It's a trick I picked up from an "older woman" who was kind enough to instruct a goofy teenager once upon a time.

dickE

 

[solid_]

I have to agree with Miguelito Breathstealer..........I've always used that method and it works.


Just at that first strong urge, instantly switch your concentration to a very non-sexual thought....like the work you need to catch up on or the trash that has to be out tomorrow morning and after the first urge passes, the second and third urges will be much less strong and easier to stave off.

Then to cum, switch back on the lil porno VCR in your brain and let'er cum.

It's all in our minds........yours and hers. Sex organs merely dispense the liquids and generate the feelings.

It's a trick I picked up from an "older woman" who was kind enough to instruct a goofy teenager once upon a time.

dickE

So true u got it spot on that tecniquie as never failed me

 

[huskie]

What's wrong with just cumming twice? If she's understanding that is she knows the first time you cum it will be quick and that after a short break your up and ready to go for a much longer haul.....
Generaly if the girl is really understanding in this then the whole sexuale experiance for you should be even better. You get to cum two times instead of just once (time allowing of course). I mean why not? Normaly (and I know not all women) most women will cum bunches of times during a night of sex. Why can't you be aloud to cum at least twice??

 

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[SailorC272002]

Math problems have worked before. Start with 2 double it, double it again, then again as many times as necessary. Sounds kind of stupid but it does work. Sometimes too well.

 

[ICUP]

I heard that males can do kegels to have better control over their ejaculations

Just squeeze and relax your bladder muscles. Also, if you pull out switch positions, you can take that time to re-arrange and compose yourself. I hope it helps

 

[Saint Peter]

THINK BASEBALL!!!!!!