how to make my wife fall back in love with me
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Somehowyou
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Your wife's name is Marge? There is really nothing you can do. It is not very likely you can make someone fall back in love with you. There is some brain chemistry that you cannot compete with when it comes to new romance. The best thing you can do is show her you are strong and can do without her. People want what they cannot have. Be ready to move on because no one likes a spineless jellyfish that is crying "take me back." This is a turn off.
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Clarifying question: how will gathering for four mouths fix a marriage? The family that gathers for mouths together stays together? I have not heard of this approach before.
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I don't know...gathering for 4 mouths might not be so bad. I can immediately think of 4 places offhand that would love to have a mouth on them.
Maybe Marge feels differently? She may be a "one mouth only" kind of girl.
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Keep at it Homer....Marge still desires you!
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Good advice...especially if he wants to save his homer and marge.
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Very true. It takes work, and you need to show that you love her and are committed to her in the marriage, give her the freedom to flourish, AND flourish in your own right. If any of those are missing, it's not a death sentence to the marriage, but everything becomes harder.
Invite her to do something fun that you've never done together, like the zoo or a high school soccer game, or rent a tandem bike for a picnic, or take her dress shopping. Tease her a little and flirt. Start there and keep your fingers crossed. And as someone else said, getting all weepy and needy is a huge mistake.
Good luck,
J
Invite her to do something fun that you've never done together, like the zoo or a high school soccer game, or rent a tandem bike for a picnic, or take her dress shopping. Tease her a little and flirt. Start there and keep your fingers crossed. And as someone else said, getting all weepy and needy is a huge mistake.
Good luck,
J
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As a woman who slowly 'fell out of love' with her first husband, I can say that almost nothing is going to save this.
People grow and change - and if she's grown away from you, that's pretty much it.
During my first marriage, my husband grew and changed into a complacent, boring, do-nothing-except-watch-tv kinda guy. No more fun, no more going out, no more spending time together simply for the enjoyment of being with me.
I tried everything I could think of, but eventually had to accept that he really wasn't ever going to be any different - it was almost like the wedding meant he no longer had to try.
I changed too..... I wanted more depth, more communication, more attention. I also wanted to be recognised as more than just Mrs Simpson. And I wanted a husband who still saw me as someone he had to make an effort for, like I did for him.
When he finally realised I was moving away from him, he then decided he might have to actually work at our marriage.
And by then, it was already too late.
I was never going to be able to see him as anything other than what he had become - dull, regardless of what he tried.
We have stayed as friends. And as it turns out, we are better friends than we ever were as partners.
Good luck, but don't put your life on hold for something you might never be able to get back.
People grow and change - and if she's grown away from you, that's pretty much it.
During my first marriage, my husband grew and changed into a complacent, boring, do-nothing-except-watch-tv kinda guy. No more fun, no more going out, no more spending time together simply for the enjoyment of being with me.
I tried everything I could think of, but eventually had to accept that he really wasn't ever going to be any different - it was almost like the wedding meant he no longer had to try.
I changed too..... I wanted more depth, more communication, more attention. I also wanted to be recognised as more than just Mrs Simpson. And I wanted a husband who still saw me as someone he had to make an effort for, like I did for him.
When he finally realised I was moving away from him, he then decided he might have to actually work at our marriage.
And by then, it was already too late.
I was never going to be able to see him as anything other than what he had become - dull, regardless of what he tried.
We have stayed as friends. And as it turns out, we are better friends than we ever were as partners.
Good luck, but don't put your life on hold for something you might never be able to get back.
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Just do what you did when you first got together, and try to keep doing it repeatedly.
The worst thing you can do is to take her for granted.
But based on what you've said, you may have already missed the window of opportunity to repair things.
The worst thing you can do is to take her for granted.
But based on what you've said, you may have already missed the window of opportunity to repair things.
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vibes
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She did reference a gf. He just might...have one and a wife?
Or she ignores that he's married the gf
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This is equally as important as seeking Balance within yourselves & each other.
Balance between Open Communication & Surprise and Anticipation for each other...
Between being a Friend, Significant Other, Lover, Cheerleader/Supporter, Financial Aide, Individual, and Employee...
The effort is well worth it... I cheer you on & believe that the two of you can make your marriage even stronger because of this!
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prowelerrz: if she said she's fallen out of love with you, you're asking the wrong question. the question you should be asking is why. are you or she the same people you were when you first got married?
odds are pretty high you aren't. i don't know how long it's been but these things don't happen overnight.
if she's interested in talking about it--and it's entirely possible she isn't--i would suggest asking her to compare/contrast how she sees the difference between who you both were then and who you both are now. i think that's absolutely key. only with that information will you know whether there's even a glimmer of hope, or if the fork's been stuck in it already.
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odds are pretty high you aren't. i don't know how long it's been but these things don't happen overnight.
if she's interested in talking about it--and it's entirely possible she isn't--i would suggest asking her to compare/contrast how she sees the difference between who you both were then and who you both are now. i think that's absolutely key. only with that information will you know whether there's even a glimmer of hope, or if the fork's been stuck in it already.
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