How to... lose HIS virginity?

His_DirtySecret

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hi!
I'm a sexually active 22 year old girl and recently I started dating a 23 year old boy that im totally crazy for and I found out hes a virgin. I've never been with a virgin before and Im curious about any ideas you might have on how to A) tell him Im not a virgin and B) have sex for the first time? like ways to make it perfect with him?
Im sure most of you will take this as an oppertunity to give me your... oddest... virginity fantasies but Im asking this seriously so please keep that in mind
Thank you!
 
hi!
I'm a sexually active 22 year old girl and recently I started dating a 23 year old boy that im totally crazy for and I found out hes a virgin. I've never been with a virgin before and Im curious about any ideas you might have on how to A) tell him Im not a virgin and B) have sex for the first time? like ways to make it perfect with him?
Im sure most of you will take this as an oppertunity to give me your... oddest... virginity fantasies but Im asking this seriously so please keep that in mind
Thank you!

You can try to make it as perfect as you want, but since this is his first time it will most likely be over pretty quickly. After that, then you can get down working with him on what works for the two of you.

As to how to tell him you're not a virgin, if he asks, be honest. If he doesn't ask, it's either not important or he already knows and still wants to be with you. Just be prepared in case he starts asking about when, how many and what were they like .

There is no easy answer. The best you can do is be honest and go at a pace which is comfortable for him and above all, communicate.
 
You can try to make it as perfect as you want, but since this is his first time it will most likely be over pretty quickly. After that, then you can get down working with him on what works for the two of you.

As to how to tell him you're not a virgin, if he asks, be honest. If he doesn't ask, it's either not important or he already knows and still wants to be with you. Just be prepared in case he starts asking about when, how many and what were they like .

There is no easy answer. The best you can do is be honest and go at a pace which is comfortable for him and above all, communicate.
Thank you for your help!
I know it will probably not be a very long or extensive the first time but I just want to make sure I do it in a way he will enjoy the most.
I don't know maybe its weird but I feel.. responsible for this since Im the more experienced
 
First off, don't lie about being a virgin. The truth usually comes out eventually, and it's just generally a good idea to be straightforward.

I lost my virginity to a girl who wasn't a virgin. She had only slept with one other guy before me, so it's not like she was overly experienced, but I still felt a lot of pressure and anxiety.

We got through it, and I can admit that first time was awkward and unfulfilling. After that, the pressure was off and I didn't really think about her being "more experienced" anymore.

So, my advice for his first time is to go in not expecting much and just get through it. Let him find his way, and after that, things should get better with the pressure of that "first time" off.

Another thing that I think helped us was that we also exchanged oral sex quite a bit as well. It's nice to be able to pleasure/be pleasured, only needing to concentrate on one at a time until you're more comfortable with eachother sexually.
 
Thank you for your help!
I know it will probably not be a very long or extensive the first time but I just want to make sure I do it in a way he will enjoy the most.
I don't know maybe its weird but I feel.. responsible for this since Im the more experienced

In a way you are responsible. You are his first and he will always remember it was you he had his first experience with (how's that for pressure?). However, as both. darius and I have said, communicate and go slow. Don't try to rush him through it.

Perhaps once he's situated just stop and let things sink in. Let him feel how warm and fuzzy you are (to use a phrase). If you can lighten the mood I'm sure he'll feel more relaxed. Whatever you do don't ask him how he's feeling. Guys will never admit it but at that moment their hormones are just as screwed up as yours are/were.

So, to sum up: go slow, communicate, have fun. Once you two get comfortable with one another he'll repay you for your efforts (hopefully).
 
I'm a sexually active 22 year old girl and recently I started dating a 23 year old boy that im totally crazy for and I found out hes a virgin. I've never been with a virgin before and Im curious about any ideas you might have on how to A) tell him Im not a virgin and B) have sex for the first time? like ways to make it perfect with him?
Im sure most of you will take this as an oppertunity to give me your... oddest... virginity fantasies but Im asking this seriously so please keep that in mind
Thank you!

Don't work yourself up about making it 'perfect' for him. I'd say that just about any sex you provide him, he will consider 'perfect.'

I lost my virginity to a young woman (now my wife) who'd had previous experience. One evening after a heavy make-out session, she took me by the hand to her bedroom and had her way with me. I was so surprised by her boldness, it took me awhile to get it up. However, I'm glad she did.

Definitely let him know you've had previous sexual experience, but you don't need to go into detail. Sometimes the girl has to make the first move--if you consider him a 'keeper,' go for it. Good luck! :)
 
No matter how you handle it, he is going to be under a lot of pressure to do his best, and most likely will be disappointed in himself. Just be reassuring and patient. That you aren't a virgin may help matters, as you would be able to direct him a little and tell him what you like. He is going to want to do his best, and he will be grateful for directions. In all probability he will finish very quickly, but be reassuring, and if you both feel like it, continue to play after. Once its out of the way, th subsequent times should see him be a lot more confident and will get better for both of you.
 
You can start by letting him know you want him and the more he comes to get it the more you tell him you want him. Then after such an invitation just let him explore you and let him have his way. He has no preplanned idea, those all go out the window when you start getting naked. It just becomes a fantastic time of sensory overload.
Ask him if he would like to eat you? It gives him the chance to get as close to a pussy as he has ever dreamed of. My first pussy was clean and very wet and I fell in love with the taste and still can't get enough!
If he cums to fast and is embarrassed tell him to relax and just hold each other cuddle and slowly caress each other back to form. At 23 that may be almost instant to not very long. I always found talking about sex after to be a great turn on and was ready way faster.
 
Don't work yourself up about making it 'perfect' for him. I'd say that just about any sex you provide him, he will consider 'perfect.'

I lost my virginity to a young woman (now my wife) who'd had previous experience. One evening after a heavy make-out session, she took me by the hand to her bedroom and had her way with me. I was so surprised by her boldness, it took me awhile to get it up. However, I'm glad she did.

Definitely let him know you've had previous sexual experience, but you don't need to go into detail. Sometimes the girl has to make the first move--if you consider him a 'keeper,' go for it. Good luck! :)
Yes I know I for sure wont be giving out a lot of details. Thats NEVER a good idea.
I usually have a hard time with the first move kind of thing but I get so comfortable around him... I hope it turns out as well for me!
 
You can start by letting him know you want him and the more he comes to get it the more you tell him you want him. Then after such an invitation just let him explore you and let him have his way. He has no preplanned idea, those all go out the window when you start getting naked. It just becomes a fantastic time of sensory overload.
Ask him if he would like to eat you? It gives him the chance to get as close to a pussy as he has ever dreamed of. My first pussy was clean and very wet and I fell in love with the taste and still can't get enough!
If he cums to fast and is embarrassed tell him to relax and just hold each other cuddle and slowly caress each other back to form. At 23 that may be almost instant to not very long. I always found talking about sex after to be a great turn on and was ready way faster.

I don't have much to add to that excellent advice. I would recommend that you first masturbate him to an orgasm, so that he won't have as much of a hair trigger. As you do so, tell him that you want him to cum quickly, and he won't be so embarrassed if it happens that way. While he's recovering, give him a guided tour of your genitalia. He's probably never seen a pussy up close and personal, and probably has some preconceptions that need addressing. If you're comfortable masturbating in front of him, do so. I'm sure he'll love seeing it, and showing him what turns you on will help him be a more attentive lover.

Above all, be honest about not being a virgin. If you hide your experience, he's bound to find out sooner or later, and your intimacy will take a hit that it may not recover from.
 
The only advice I can give is to be understanding with him and as somebody above said, it's probably not going to be great for you. I was significantly younger than your guy but lost my virginity with a girl who was more experienced than I was. I think it was over in about 30 seconds but thankfully she didn't say anything or make fun of me despite my apologies and feeling pretty stupid. We just went for round two which was much much better. There was an old saying that "good girls don't do it, nice girls help you get it in." Anything you can do to help would be good.
 
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