How to get it in?

[Alexandra_CD]

I have a butt plug, but I can't get it in to the point where it will stay. It's too big, maybe, or I'm too small. It feels great, so how can I get it in without hurting myself?

 

[SweetErika]

How big is the plug, both length- and diameter-wise?

What does it feel like the problem is? For example, does it feel like the tip is hitting something, or that it's just stretching you too much, making it too painful to continue? Is the problem getting it in fully, getting it to stay in, or both?

It could be lube, the shape of the plug, the angle of insertion, not having enough warm-up/stretching beforehand... It's just hard to say without more info.

 

[Alexandra_CD]

It's only about 4" long, but it's wider than I am. I just can't get it in past it's widest point, so that it will stay in.

 

[SweetErika]

Try tensing for 15 seconds, then relaxing fully over and over. Then, taking deep breaths, relax, bear down and start to insert it very slowly. When the muscles tense, give yourself a little break, then force them to relax again. Each time you do this, push it in a little more.

You might also try stimulating your clit, reading a story or watching porn while you do this; it's very helpful to have something to distract me from thinking about my ass (if I do, I tense up and penetration's either extremely painful or impossible).

It could also help to work your way up with smaller plugs, dildos or vibes (which seem to help me relax more than anything). That also addresses the mental component that's often present; when you have pain/difficulty in the past, your body anticipates it and automatically tenses up.

 

[BiBunny]

Something to think about--even if you get it all the way, there's no guarantee it'll stay in, anyway. I always require duct tape, a crotch rope, or a pair tight panties to keep plugs in, even if they're fully inserted. So don't stress too much about it.

 

[M's girl]

Duct tape? Ouch!

 

[Barbara_Talbot]

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[christian1971]

You really need to relax and I know its hard but you also need to relax your butt muscles. Then use a WATER based lube place a little all around the plug and then some just one the outside of your butt. Then slowly push the plug in if you feel any resistance STOP relax a little more and if you feel like you can push in more try. But dont force, if you still can't then maybe what you can do is buy the next size down. Then once your use to that one try the one you have.

What I do is since I have 1 med and 1 large I wear the med for about 20-30 min then I feel I can use the large. And if slides in with little presure. try my thread also on BUTT plugs.

 

[The Gimp]

Why are you so concerned about getting it to stay? Half the fun of a butt plug is putting it back in after it slips out of place