How to ..... Forget?

[jaF0]

I don't want to remember.

 

[JayJams78]

You can't forget. You can do the emotional and mental work of changing the soundtrack attached to those memories that keeps playing in today's reflections of them in events and feelings. You can go back and start telling yourself the TRUTH about yourself or the situation, replacing the lies that circumstances and events make seem the reality. Change your beliefs about those events, you change your beliefs about yourself. Change your beliefs about yourself and your past, you think differently about the present. You change the soundtrack. You change the soundtrack, emotions and feelings follow, and those memories cease to be a curse. Sometimes they even become a blessing.

This, by the way was one of the hardest life lessons for me to learn and apply.

 

[LourdMorpheus]

Forgetvin

It's amazing how few people can even begin to understand the need to forget so much.

Memories can be your worst enemy, regardless of who, what or how long ago.

Senility may be your best friend when your memories are your worst enemy.

I do know of some people that have been dealt serious piles of shit in their life. They are confidences I will never reveal. One person in particular is an amazing human that has overcome her trauma and is one of the most wonderful human beings I’m privileged to know. I’m sure she wishes she could forget. Weekly or daily. I’m sure there are triggers that bring it all back. I also know that time heals. Doesn’t make it go away, but the sting of death is healed. Doesn’t mean we don’t weep or explode in anger again…. But each day, each personal victory of success….brings healing. We are not defined by what we were yesterday, but by what we are after the sun sets.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

I can't help ya with the selective memory loss---but loss of memory in general I can show a way to start your research.

I fell out for a nap at lunch time at work. When I fell out I had a neodymium magnet about a inch in diameter setting on my third eye chakra on my forehead. I woke up without any knowledge of who I was, where I lived, how I got where I was or how to get home. I got out into the aisle way and started walking and some drunk guy stopped and asked if I was going to the office, I said yeah and asked him who he was. Fortunately for me he was a member of the same team as me and he was able to clue me into who I was and where I lived and everything I need to know before the end of the shift. It took me the next four hours to put all the pieces back into order.
Now--, yes mine episode was temporary but yours plan doesn't have to be temporay.
If you looking to disappear, go get you a bus ticket to some place you have never been and don't know anyone. Get you a neodymium magnet and a half a pint of liquor. Drink it all down and before you pass out place the magnet on your forehead secure it with a bandanna and go to sleep.

 

[gunhilltrain]

I can't help ya with the selective memory loss---but loss of memory in general I can show a way to start your research.

I fell out for a nap at lunch time at work. When I fell out I had a neodymium magnet about a inch in diameter setting on my third eye chakra on my forehead. I woke up without any knowledge of who I was, where I lived, how I got where I was or how to get home. I got out into the aisle way and started walking and some drunk guy stopped and asked if I was going to the office, I said yeah and asked him who he was. Fortunately for me he was a member of the same team as me and he was able to clue me into who I was and where I lived and everything I need to know before the end of the shift. It took me the next four hours to put all the pieces back into order.
Now--, yes mine episode was temporary but yours plan doesn't have to be temporay.
If you looking to disappear, go get you a bus ticket to some place you have never been and don't know anyone. Get you a neodymium magnet and a half a pint of liquor. Drink it all down and before you pass out place the magnet on your forehead secure it with a bandanna and go to sleep.

This is pretty heavy. Are you completely serious? Just saying, I've never heard
anything like this before about magnets. Also, I've heard of third-eye chakras, but I can't confirm that they really exist.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

This is pretty heavy. Are you completely serious? Just saying, I've never heard
anything like this before about magnets. Also, I've heard of third-eye chakras, but I can't confirm that they really exist.

ya don't have to believe in them for the effect I described. Actually the first time I heard of using magnets in this way was an episode of a sound engineer that was trying to discover a way to get high without drugs back in 1970. Only he used a commercial degauser machine on his head. They found him the following day sitting in a chair, brain dead.

 

[Red_Camellia]

There's a lot of pain in these posts. I'm not sure if there is a quick memory trick that will address what you're talking about. I wonder if maybe it's not the memories that are so bad, but the emotions attached to them? The words or lyrics that bring up the thoughts you so badly want to disappear tie in feelings that are overwhelming and just too much? I would suggest finding a good therapist that can see you through this. In my experience, the more desperate you are to forget something the bigger it gets in your mind. It demands that you pay attention. And eventually, it will use even your physical body to signal that something is wrong. If you have someone to guide you through these memories and emotions, my hope for you would be that they can see you through it and that the emotions will become more manageable, the memories not so terrible to handle. And as the pain becomes smaller, maybe you will find more space to allow peace into your life. I don't know what's going on in your life or in your memories, but if it's anything even close to trauma, the more you avoid it, the worse it becomes.

I hope you find what or who you need to get through this.

 

[Wordsworth]

Age. In time, you'll forget all.

Likely, you gave forgotten much of why you started this thread in the intervening years since.

Alzheimer's, if you're in a hurry.

 

[Lady2020]

Debated quite a while about posting this because of some of the stupid useless answers I've seen.

Need real replies, not irrelevant crap.


How do you forget? People, places, events, conversations, etc. There are things I want wiped permanently, never to be recalled again.

Selective amnesia if you will.

I'm not a fan of hypnosis, but if it would work .....

If you live long enough this won't be an issue. I'm not referring to dementia related issues. A bf died in my bathroom when I was 25 from heroin od. I had zero idea he was on drugs. A brother killed himself at 31 by hoarding his AD'S. My first child was a still birth, followed by 3 miscarriages.

Life is hard. One day at a time. One step at a time. That is life.

 

[jaF0]

I need it to go away.


I need it all to go away.

 

[oneblueye]

Age. In time, you'll forget all.

Likely, you gave forgotten much of why you started this thread in the intervening years since.

Alzheimer's, if you're in a hurry.

Alzheimers, yeah there you go...pass me the aluminum shavings please.

 

[NightL]

Life is hard.

indeed "That is life", yet that was a rough deal

 

[njlauren]

The problem with memory is if you keep accessing it ,it keeps it alive ( memory garbage collection is complex, but the brain has mechanisms to clear out short term items you have just glanced at for example, w long term memory it wipes out things you haven't thought about for a while ( not a neuroscientist, not promoting bogus memory pills).

One of the problems is w bad memories we don't allow them to disappear bc we think about them, get pissed at them, etc. I have stuff with my mother in law and the things she did ,horrible things, that I will never forget bc I will not,cannot forgive them.

This is where therapy comes into play. Things like CBT ( not the S and M type!) Cognitive behavioral therapy, teach you to deal with the bad memories, how to handle them. When you do that they fall into the background and then can fade and disappear. Doesn't always work, the memory of literally having to carry my partner out of therapy sessions from the horrific abuse she experienced growing up that MIL was just too much the dutiful Catholic wife to care about, among other horrible things the bitch did,I'll hate her and the Church as long as I live.

 

[jaF0]

This is where therapy comes into play.

Fuck, talk about bad memories .... shheeee -it .....

 

[Lotrgal205]

Debated quite a while about posting this because of some of the stupid useless answers I've seen.

Need real replies, not irrelevant crap.


How do you forget? People, places, events, conversations, etc. There are things I want wiped permanently, never to be recalled again.

Selective amnesia if you will.

I'm not a fan of hypnosis, but if it would work .....

I have heard it said that moments and memories you want to “forget” can only happen if they’re replaced. Obviously, you will never truly be able to forget. They will be subconsciously there whether you realize it or not. But they can be “quieted,” for lack of a better word.

As a personal and somewhat silly example, I used to play WoW with my ex all the time. When we split up, the thought of even going near my gaming PC brought up all the awfulness of that relationship in general.

Eventually, after talking it through with friends, as well as some self-reflection, I took a step back and replaced playing WoW with something completely different.

Again, you won’t be able to forget—it isn’t like flipping a switch—but by replacing those memories with something else, that may help lessen the pain you experience when you think on them.

I hope that helps!

 

[jaF0]

I don't want to remember.

 

[the_single_gal_unconfidential]

I don't want to remember.

forget it -
you can't do it.

 

[magic_rat]

How do you forget? People, places, events, conversations, etc. There are things I want wiped permanently, never to be recalled again.

Simple answer? You can't. The more you try to forget something the more it will nag at you.

What you can do is learn to process the memories and put them into context. They're just stuff from the past. And the past is another country.

 

[jaF0]

Every single memory is tainted.


Every one.


None are clean and 'good'.

 

[jaF0]

Get out of my head.




Get out of my head.



GET OUT OF MY HEAD!!!!

 

[jaF0]

I told you to get lost.




You too.

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[Goldenfinger]

You should start drinking, heavily.

 

[jaF0]

I DON'T WANT TO REMEMBER ANYTHING!!!

 

[Dapperguy]

I’ve a pal who was jilted at his wedding reception. His brother fucked off with his bride. He found the best way to for get was found in two litres of ‘Bell’s‘ whisky followed by the perusal of a wank mag, his favourite was ‘Bladders and Big Boobs’. This therapy took his mind off everything. The chronic wanking was a part of his forgetting.

 

[gunhilltrain]

I’ve a pal who was jilted at his wedding reception. His brother fucked off with his bride. He found the best way to for get was found in two litres of ‘Bell’s‘ whisky followed by the perusal of a wank mag, his favourite was ‘Bladders and Big Boobs’. This therapy took his mind off everything. The chronic wanking was a part of his forgetting.

I'm amazed that he could still wank off after drinking that much whiskey. Usually alcohol has a deadening effect on the male libido.