How to flirt with a much older person?

[sexualbeing]

Im 23 I wanna know whats the best way to flirt with a much older guy (51)?

 

[midwestyankee]

I can't help with specifics, but I know that being desired is one of the most powerful aphrodisiacs.

 

[jeepman6]

Im 23 I wanna know whats the best way to flirt with a much older guy (51)?

I'm 43. You can practice with me if you'd like Seriously though just about anyway you flirt would be all to flattering to his ego.

 

[Guest]

Im 23 I wanna know whats the best way to flirt with a much older guy (51)?

Smile.

Listen.

Wear a tight T-shirt.

 

[bisexplicit]

You have a problem picking up older men?

Sketchy old men will hit on anything.

 

[sexualbeing]

I dont have a problem with picking up older men at all, It's just this guy is special, he's a friend and I dont want to be to foward with him. He's seems like he wouldnt be the type to approach straight foward, so im going to make a move.

 

[Guest]

I dont have a problem with picking up older men at all, It's just this guy is special, he's a friend and I dont want to be to foward with him. He's seems like he wouldnt be the type to approach straight foward, so im going to make a move.

That's different, then, isn't it?

So - don't be obvious with makeup or dress.

BUT - still listen, and smile. Touch his arm as he talks. Laugh at his jokes. Be interested in what he says.

Good luck. Have fun!

 

[Ravin the Poet]

Take him to a nice dinner at 4:30.

That could help.

 

[bobsgirl]

Take him to a nice dinner at 4:30.

That could help.

Gotta love those early bird specials.

 

[sexualbeing]

Ok how do I know whether to make a move or not what is the sign of disinterest.

 

[Eilan]

How is flirting with an older person different from flirting with someone who's your age or younger?

 

[sexualbeing]

How is flirting with an older person different from flirting with someone who's your age or younger?

I dont really know I guess im intimidated by him because he so much older than me and his interest may be different because of that. For instance if I would approach a guy my age I know exactly how to get them (you know short skirts, tight shirts, ect...) but with a older guy Im thinking ( and this is just an opinion) that they would like a more conservative girl. Hell I really dont know what he likes thats the problem. shoot!

 

[mrs.jeepman6]

I dont really know I guess im intimidated by him because he so much older than me and his interest may be different because of that. For instance if I would approach a guy my age I know exactly how to get them (you know short skirts, tight shirts, ect...) but with a older guy Im thinking ( and this is just an opinion) that they would like a more conservative girl. Hell I really dont know what he likes thats the problem. shoot!

There is no difference at all hun. A man is a man and will always be thinking with his southern head. Be yourself. If you dress in short skirts and tight shirts then continue to do it but be yourself.

 

[sexualbeing]

There is no difference at all hun. A man is a man and will always be thinking with his southern head. Be yourself. If you dress in short skirts and tight shirts then continue to do it but be yourself.

Thanks I will keep that in mind,

 

[Ravin the Poet]

Why do people always think men only think with the down head?

 

[charman]

Good question

I'm 50, be yourself show interest in conversation, dress nicely and sexy. I like cleavage some guys like legs. How far do you wnat to go and is the guy married?

 

[sexualbeing]

He actually isnt married which is a plus because I wouldn't make a move on a married guy. He's a 50 year old nice looking, funny and honest man. I am a 23 year old ebony female. I dress sexy as possible but it's limited because I work in a prefessional enviornment. Thanks for your responses!

 

[jerseyman1963]

I say, at least for me, anyway, that honesty, straightforwardness and the self confidence to make the first move are attractive qualities in a woman of any age. He may not be making a move because he's just not interested in you that way, or he may not be making a move because he's shy that way, or he may not be making a move because it just never crossed his mind that you could or would be interested in him that way.

Whatever the reason, there's only one way to find out, so I say skip the, "Did he get the hint or not?" and the "Am I reading the signals right?" games (which will only make you crazy anyway) and just go for it. Invite him to dinner, dress however feels natural and comfortable to you, and just put it out there that you're interested in pursuing a different kind of relationship with him, or, more to the point, pursuing him!

Since it sounds like you know him in a work environment, do it as politely and discreetly as possible, and leave both of you an out. Make it clear that you're interested, but if he's not, you'd be very disappointed, but be cool about it. It's a sticky situation when someone hits on you that you're not interested in, so just set it up so it's clear you're interested, but are mature enough to handle it if the answer is no.

However, since it sounds like you may know each other well enough by now for you to be friends, or at least well enough for you to know you dig him, I'd say it's at least a 50/50 chance the answer will be yes. I'm always flattered when a woman asks me out, or outright hits on me, and it's at least even odds that he'll have the same reaction.

Good luck!

 

[sexualbeing]

I say, at least for me, anyway, that honesty, straightforwardness and the self confidence to make the first move are attractive qualities in a woman of any age. He may not be making a move because he's just not interested in you that way, or he may not be making a move because he's shy that way, or he may not be making a move because it just never crossed his mind that you could or would be interested in him that way.

Whatever the reason, there's only one way to find out, so I say skip the, "Did he get the hint or not?" and the "Am I reading the signals right?" games (which will only make you crazy anyway) and just go for it. Invite him to dinner, dress however feels natural and comfortable to you, and just put it out there that you're interested in pursuing a different kind of relationship with him, or, more to the point, pursuing him!

Since it sounds like you know him in a work environment, do it as politely and discreetly as possible, and leave both of you an out. Make it clear that you're interested, but if he's not, you'd be very disappointed, but be cool about it. It's a sticky situation when someone hits on you that you're not interested in, so just set it up so it's clear you're interested, but are mature enough to handle it if the answer is no.

However, since it sounds like you may know each other well enough by now for you to be friends, or at least well enough for you to know you dig him, I'd say it's at least a 50/50 chance the answer will be yes. I'm always flattered when a woman asks me out, or outright hits on me, and it's at least even odds that he'll have the same reaction.

Good luck!

thank you for your insight on my issue. I will take your advice and see where it goes.

 

[MagicFingers]

Work on his mind

Talk with him.
Drop sexual enuendoes (sp?) and watch for his response.
Invite him for coffee, or breakfast.
A touch on the arm, a warm smile, while looking into his eyes a little too long.
Since you are both professional, keep it above-board and let him know you enjoy being around him. Respond to every clue he may give you in return.
Don't be trashy, but be sincere and sexy and if he's interested, and not dead, he'll respond in some way, fer sure.

Good luck, and as other's have said, you can practice on me any time.

 

[curious476]

Old men turn on

Old guys are usually fucked out, it takes some thing special to turn us on, let me get a wiff of that pussy and let me know that it tastes better than it smells.

 

[Cathleen]

SB, you can just smack me for this but I've held it in too long - it must come out. (Note that at Lit I'm a senior citizen.)

How do you flirt with a much older person? Loudly!

I had to, I really did.

How are things going? Any progress?

 

[PleasurePartner]

You should also understand that he may have a hard time believing you are really interested in someone that much older, so you may have to work at it a little longer than usual.

Other than that, I think the advice about being sincere and interested (and still professional at work) is the best I've read. Don't worry so much about the surface appearance.