How to ask a guy for sex...

[tbs230]

without seeming too forward...

I know that most guys wouldn't see this as a problem, but I don't really KNOW how he would take it.

So, any advice?

And if this has already been asked...a link will be greatly appreciated!

Thanks everyone!

 

[fenghuang]

Most guys would probably respond fine to the blunt approach - "I want to fuck you!"
But you might want to try something more subtle, just in case - absent mindedly stroking his arse in public (or in the kitchen or wherever) - if he backs off then you know he's not up for it. If his hand mimics yours you can just go with the flow.

I really doubt you're in danger of failure, it's just a case of confidence.

 

[subwannabe]

Since we don't know anything at all about him or the situation it is almost impossible to give you advice. The blunt approach might work just fine or he may run for the doors. Tell us more about the him and the situation.

 

[elib257]

All sorts of questions need to be asked:

How well do you know him? How long have you known him? What sort of relationship is it? What sort of relationship would you like (i.e. just sex, a full on relationship, a fuck buddy...).

Have you talked about sex or sexual matters with him?

Are you both virgins?

Are you ever in a situation where sex would be appropriate?

There's probably more but it's late and I'm tired.

Give us some more info and we'll be happy to help .

 

[DRoc]

Best thing to ask a guy is "What would you like for breakfast in the morning?"

 

[pongomax]

say

vous le vous avec coushet moia



willyou lay on the couch with me

 

[wickedlady31]

asking for sex?

Well I've never had to ask...but if I did, I am not that tactful.....

"Hey, I'm fuckin horny..want to go have sex?"

 

[Quinn71]

Well I've never had to ask...but if I did, I am not that tactful.....

"Hey, I'm fuckin horny..want to go have sex?"

Exactly!

We don't like to beat around the bush(pardon the pun) with certain matters

 

[wickedlady31]

I know

Why go through song and dance when we know what they want before they can vocalize it...?

 

[akazie]

Just get him drunk and take advantage of him lol (just joking). I would just be forward and ask.

 

[baronvonschtupp]

I had a co-worker once invite me to her birthday party. Her parting shot as she left the room was "If you show up, I'm fucking you."

Did I go? http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a349/BaronVonScthupp/Emotes/naughty.gif

 

[Mansa Musa]

Best thing to ask a guy is "What would you like for breakfast in the morning?"

IAWTP. It's forward without being brazen. don't forget to stock up on condoms!

 

[rydia57]

I had to do that once. It was my first time being ravenously horny, and I had to ask an ex bf at work. He really enjoyed it . But If I could suggest anything, it would be to get him relaxed and aroused and he may ask you instead!

 

[SimpleGifts]

Probably the most memorable thing a woman has ever said to me was the one who exclaimed, during rather heated (in the sense of passion),

"OK, I just HAVE to fuck you."

I took it as a compliment. And I just asked her when and where, and made sure that I showed up as agreed, clean and neat and smelling good.

The remainder of this story is left as an exercise for the imagination of the reader.

SG

 

[EjAcKuLaToR]

Sweet TBS...I think what I would do if I were you is I would do something pointed, but not overt.

In other words, I would purposefully wear a short skirt or something and I'd be purposeful about exposing myself to him in such a way as you perceive he would get the hint without question.

That may mean you find a way to bend over and give him a glance of your panties...and a knowing smile...or to be much more forward, you don't have any panties on.

You could do something MUCH more low level if you want. Just put on some great perfume and ask him to smell the inside of your wrist...or if you want to be a little closer to him, say your elbow...or your neck. That will get him just as quick as doing something overt like masturbating in front of him...well maybe not just as quick, but it should get the point across...hehe.


Essentially what I'm trying to say is to do what you have to do to make it HIS idea to want to have sex with you. (Not that it has to be his idea, but for the purpose of this discussion where you don't know whether or not he is interested...).

Good luck!
Jack

 

[fenghuang]

If I could suggest anything, it would be to get him relaxed and aroused and he may ask you instead!

One in the eye for the feminists! (No pun intended.)

A little OT (for which I apologise) but that kind of reinforces the idea that women aren't alowed to ask for sex. IMO there's little more likely to get me up for it than when my partner once said "fuck me hard and deep", with the possible exception of if she'd said "i want to fuck you till you can't fuck any more".

 

[CordTallos]

I think the previous posts about needing more information on the situation are valid.

If you are looking for a purely carnal relationship then absolutly go the direct route. Go the painfully direct route and ask him in the most nasty crude manner you can think up. If he is put off by that directness, he is not the type of person to get into a purely sexual relationship with.

If on the other hand you are worried that he will think you slutty or cheap, or if you are serious about him and think he would think it is purely physical then it pays to stroke his ego a bit. Just be responsive. Find excuses for physical contact. Make the first move if necessary for the little stuff like making out. Once you get that far, just lose yourself in the experience and let him know you like it whenever he takes things a step farther.

The first girl I was ever with I was terrified to make a move of any sort. She kissed me first. When the time came all she had to do was give a little moan while we were making out and I was off to the races. And when I got the nerve to let my hands start exploring a little more she made a bit more noise and pressed against me a little harder. I very quickly got the understanding that I was free to do as I pleased, and my confidence was greatly enhanced that I could invoke such a reaction.

 

[shiny5437]

If a woman asked me for sex I would probably run a mile; that said I'd still want to have sex with her. You gotta persevere if he's a shy guy, but he'd probably do anything you wanted.

 

[GoldenGams]

I am of the belief that the best lovers don't ask -- they show. Look hot to death and use your eyes, hands, etc.

 

[redpaint]

Speaking as a guy, and one that has had it done to him lead him on and make him think it was his ideal. he wont complane and his manhood wont be hurt. I would not have had anytrouble with it if she would have just asked me.

 

[kiba]

ahem..."do you wanna?"

 

[thetwolezz]

I don't ask...I take.

But I'm a lez so I wouldn't take from a dude

 

[pinkeden]

"So, when are we heading back to your place?"

 

[infinity706]

Well, I'll tell you a story. It was only a few months ago. There was this pretty hot chick I worked with. I knew right from the start that she really really wanted to fuck me. I flirted with her and got her really worked up. Of course, she was definately the type that openly admitted she wanted to be as good as any guy. Anyway, she asked me out, did things with me, etc. I was good to her, bought her a few things and was generally nice to her. I never once openly hit on her, though, even being that she tried wearing tube tops, skin tight jeans, answered the door a couple times in her underwear, and once in nothing but a tshirt. To make a long story short, she never got to fuck me in over 3 months and finally gave up totally on me. That wasn't really the goal, though. If only she'd just asked me, I wouldn't have said no. I even had condoms and a vibrator waiting for her if she had. Ok, so I'm not really normal, but sometimes "Get over here and fuck me good" will work better than anything else.

 

[Primalex]

without seeming too forward...

I know that most guys wouldn't see this as a problem, but I don't really KNOW how he would take it.

So, any advice?

If you are good looking, he is thinking about doing you anyway. So all you need to do is to indicate that you won't call the police if he touches you.