How sex clubs work (since I've gotten PMs)

[erotiquegirl]

By invitation only. Mostly for wealthy people since we use our homes. You have to be approved by all the members. Photos and interview required. Testing, at your expense, required. Have to have it at every gathering. Women (single or lesbian) can join by themselves if attractive. Men can't join by themselves. You'll find the best sex clubs are like us. Kelly is the founding member by the way. Summer is a slower time. I'd have to ask if we're taking new members. Not sure if any of us make less than $75k a year. 21 or older is required. Some won't allow felons either. We require a background check ($75).

Once accepted you have to sign a liability waiver, have health insurance, pay a fee and maintain a membership. If you host a sex party, no fee. Food & drink fees if not. It is 6 big parties a year and many smaller ones like lesbian and a bi (men) party.

They sound fun but you have to be real comfortable having sex among others and watching a SO have sex with others. Interview finds that out usually. Be honest too. You don't want to destroy a marriage over trying something new.

Many have fees. We do after your approved.

A lot of sex clubs exist in the world but be careful. If they don't require testing, I'd pass on it. If you start one, definitely require testing and have a liability waiver and interview.

Good sex clubs only allow these types of people to join:
1. Couples (including lesbian couples).
2. Single women

Bad sex clubs allow single men or just one spouse join.

Gay clubs will let single men join but same rules really apply if they do it right.

If you try:

1. Jealous feelings do happen. Talk about it. Seeing a wife/gf/hubby/bf fucking someone else is a turn-on but not with everyone.
2. Be nice.
3. No means no. (I saw a guy get his ass beat severely over that. It's also a crime.)
4. If you get a STD, tell the leader and get medical care.
5. Follow the rules. If a guy doesn't want a guy touching him, don't. If a girl doesn't like anal or DPing, don't push it. (Again, saw a guy get his ass beat over touching a another guy.)
6. Have your STD test with you every time. If not, you should be kicked out.
7. Yes, you can ask to see the STD tests of other members. It promotes confidence.
8. No drugs. (if they allow it, they are stupid)
9. NO RELIGION. (actually had a couple join one years ago to witness to us...lol)

Note: if you call a sex club and they say join in, don't. Just asking for an STD or AIDS.

The Interview:

1. Sexual preferences.
2. Jealousy.
3. etc.

Rejection: if ain't personal. That group ain't for you. If you have an STD, most reject.

NEVER, EVER PAY TO JOIN A SEX CLUB unless a pro outfit (NYC has many). Fees are okay once accepted.

Some sex clubs are invite only. Why? Members know who should be there more than anyone. Say if I invite someone to my sex club, chances are 99% they will be in.

Sex clubs I know don't want hookers or call girls or gigolos in them. STDs the main reason. Sex for hire is the other.

A lot of work should go into a sex club to make it safe and pleasurable to members. Ones I've been in rent hotels, travel, etc. It can be expensive. Yep, in some locations, you can run into the law. Age check is very important.

If the cops show up: (we retain a defense lawyer for this reason)
The host/hostess should deal with the cops at the door.

1. Don't be ashamed.
2. They can bust it up for noise or the hotel wants you out.
3. Unless fucking is illegal, cops can't come in unless they have a warrant.
4. Be nice but firm.
5. If ya got drugs, ya probably going to jail. (I was busted once but released after the cops did a piss test and found it was just a couple that had done some coke. Having a lawyer works. They were kicked out of that club.)
6. Cops have to let you dress.
7. Call your lawyer regardless.
8. Cops can't go searching cars on private property either. They can when the leave but have to have reasonable suspicion of a crime.

You would think some pervert cop would like to look but they don't. LAPD & NYPD knows better. If you're in a liberal city, you're fine. If not, you could be harassed.

Keep in mind a sex club could hurt you in the local community or at work. Should be private.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Your "sex club" sounds like an overly-regulated, uptight bummer scene.

 

[quicksylver69]

If I was joining one I would rather have all the regulations and rules. STD's are not sexy. And neither is not feeling safe in an environment where you definitely need to.

 

[erotiquegirl]

If I was joining one I would rather have all the regulations and rules. STD's are not sexy. And neither is not feeling safe in an environment where you definitely need to.

Exactly. You can't really have fun if you're worried about STDs & business associates finding out. It's a blast.

Our full party happens once a year and having sex all night long is absolutely fantastic because no worries. Sleeping with 30+ partners one night a year leaves me horny the other 364 days.

I've literally had cum all over my body at sex parties in the 3 years I've been with them. One guy last October did manage to fuck all of the girls for 5 minutes each in a row without cumming. It took him the rest of the next day to recover from two orgasms before to just one in the last woman--Kelly. He won the men's trophy. Kelly has never lost her women's trophy. She wins that by taking all the guys, 22 last year, cums in her mouth then swallowing. About two glasses full. It was hot. I've drank a glass but 7 was my most.

 

[infinity706]

The only thing I'd have to object to is the whole blanket banning single guys. I've heard of serveral clubs that let them in without problems. They just screen for problems and keep a check on the male to female ratio.

 

[Dr_O]

Exactly. You can't really have fun if you're worried about STDs & business associates finding out. It's a blast.

Our full party happens once a year and having sex all night long is absolutely fantastic because no worries. Sleeping with 30+ partners one night a year leaves me horny the other 364 days.

I've literally had cum all over my body at sex parties in the 3 years I've been with them. One guy last October did manage to fuck all of the girls for 5 minutes each in a row without cumming. It took him the rest of the next day to recover from two orgasms before to just one in the last woman--Kelly. He won the men's trophy. Kelly has never lost her women's trophy. She wins that by taking all the guys, 22 last year, cums in her mouth then swallowing. About two glasses full. It was hot. I've drank a glass but 7 was my most.

Do the guys just line up and jerk off into Kelly's mouth, or does she blow 22 guys in a row? That would be pretty impressive.

 

[Tmmldr]

Exactly. You can't really have fun if you're worried about STDs & business associates finding out. It's a blast.

Our full party happens once a year and having sex all night long is absolutely fantastic because no worries. Sleeping with 30+ partners one night a year leaves me horny the other 364 days.

I've literally had cum all over my body at sex parties in the 3 years I've been with them. One guy last October did manage to fuck all of the girls for 5 minutes each in a row without cumming. It took him the rest of the next day to recover from two orgasms before to just one in the last woman--Kelly. He won the men's trophy. Kelly has never lost her women's trophy. She wins that by taking all the guys, 22 last year, cums in her mouth then swallowing. About two glasses full. It was hot. I've drank a glass but 7 was my most.

It was hot? Somehow the way you describe it doesn't do anything for me. And really, in a way what you are saying makes no sense whatsoever. If it was so hot for you to get 7 off or 22, then why would that have been fun for the others? They'd be left with spent partners. And you said it was just couples, right? But 7 or 22 guys, if that's so hot shouldn't you just invite the college football team over?

I guess I'm just having some trouble seeing how it would be hot in a group situation with equal numbers of the sexes. Maybe it's just your way of describing things though.

 

[infinity706]

Most likely, all 22 guys start off fucking one of the women. If they cum, they're eliminated. After 5 minutes, they switch to the next woman in line.

As for the womens' trophy, I'd assume the women suck off the guys one at a time and spit the cum in a glass. Then, after they're done, they drink the glass.

 

[sereneone4u]

Oh good god, one does not have to have money to join a sex club. Maybe your sex club, but not usually.

I have friends that belong to a sex clubs. No one gives a shit how much income someone has coming in.

 

[SweetErika]

The first post is full of so much bullshit that I don't even know where to start.

OP, it's fine to speak for yourself and your specific club, but you're giving wildly inaccurate information when you talk about "how sex clubs work." There are many different types of sex-positive groups and clubs. Most of the major ones don't have a laundry list of qualifications and requirements, as your specific club apparently does. And being exclusionary certainly doesn't make a club good; in fact, a lot of people appreciate clubs that welcome everyone who can follow the rules and treat people with respect. Most swingers clubs exclude or restrict the number of single males, but plenty of other clubs are happy to have all types of people at their events.

Frequent STI testing is certainly a good idea, but negative results definitely don't guarantee a person is healthy. Many STIs have incubation periods. Tests can be wrong. A lot of STI panels aren't comprehensive and men aren't tested for HPV. At ANY club, the responsibility for health and safer sex should be on the participants. It's patently stupid to rely on someone's word or piece of paper. The best clubs promote safer sex practices, personal responsibility, communication and common sense.

 

[bone251]

I don't think I would join a club that would accept me as a member.

 

[orange_sky]

It's nice to know how sex clubs work. At any rate, things/rules that promote self-preservation of health is always the key to having and maintaining the fun.

 

[Tmmldr]

The first post is full of so much bullshit that I don't even know where to start.

OP, it's fine to speak for yourself and your specific club, but you're giving wildly inaccurate information when you talk about "how sex clubs work." There are many different types of sex-positive groups and clubs. Most of the major ones don't have a laundry list of qualifications and requirements, as your specific club apparently does. And being exclusionary certainly doesn't make a club good; in fact, a lot of people appreciate clubs that welcome everyone who can follow the rules and treat people with respect. Most swingers clubs exclude or restrict the number of single males, but plenty of other clubs are happy to have all types of people at their events.

Frequent STI testing is certainly a good idea, but negative results definitely don't guarantee a person is healthy. Many STIs have incubation periods. Tests can be wrong. A lot of STI panels aren't comprehensive and men aren't tested for HPV. At ANY club, the responsibility for health and safer sex should be on the participants. It's patently stupid to rely on someone's word or piece of paper. The best clubs promote safer sex practices, personal responsibility, communication and common sense.

I second that. And it sort of sounds like the description of getting of 7 and 22 guys and drinking the glass as "Hot" is ....

Well it is totally contrary to having equal numbers of men and women, unless some people were controlling the action and staging, eg, "directing".

So you have what seems like some control freaks running the show. I can imagine being in the group, and there being a really hot babe I've been dreaming about for months that I want to approach, and someone gets up and starts telling the group what they are going to do and how they are going to do it.

Nothing could be more of a turn off.

 

[roomfor1more]

At least from my perspective STD / STI testing proves nothing. Reason why I feel this the test is a snapshot at the time the test was taken and not every disease, such as HIV will be caught on a single test. Plus, it excludes diseases that may be out there and for whatever reason has not been caught by the test. This means the results only say at the moment the blood was drawn the person was free of most STD / STI and only repeated tests over a period of time can show a high probability that the person is free of any detectable STIs / STDs.

In addition to further compound the problem, medical privacy laws prevent others to find out about the results and in a lot of cases the test are done on an anonymous basis in order to protect the identity of the person requesting the test. This means it would be almost impossible to independently verify if the results are correct and thereby calling into question about the reliability of such tests to prove someone is disease free.

It is therefore my opinion that requiring a STD / STI test to prove someone is disease free leads to a false sense of security. Instead I feel extensive questioning about previous sexual practices, previous STD / STI history, number of partners, drug use history, drug screening, and other screening measures can yield a similar confidence about someone being STD / STI free.

 

[Tmmldr]

At least from my perspective STD / STI testing proves nothing. Reason why I feel this the test is a snapshot at the time the test was taken and not every disease, such as HIV will be caught on a single test. Plus, it excludes diseases that may be out there and for whatever reason has not been caught by the test. This means the results only say at the moment the blood was drawn the person was free of most STD / STI and only repeated tests over a period of time can show a high probability that the person is free of any detectable STIs / STDs.

In addition to further compound the problem, medical privacy laws prevent others to find out about the results and in a lot of cases the test are done on an anonymous basis in order to protect the identity of the person requesting the test. This means it would be almost impossible to independently verify if the results are correct and thereby calling into question about the reliability of such tests to prove someone is disease free.

It is therefore my opinion that requiring a STD / STI test to prove someone is disease free leads to a false sense of security. Instead I feel extensive questioning about previous sexual practices, previous STD / STI history, number of partners, drug use history, drug screening, and other screening measures can yield a similar confidence about someone being STD / STI free.

Yep. But for a club with 30 couples, that's a bunch of possibles.

Probably the way to handle it would be to look at countries or places where prostitution is legal, copy the methods they use for testing the girls. It's not perfect, but it would be much better than trying to think it out yourself.

 

[swtrthnhoney]

Competition takes all forms. This does not seem all that attractive when presented here. Certainly not the way I would want my fantasies to be played out. Makes me appreciate the sanctity and safety of my cyber world.

 

[infinity706]

It sounds super attractive to me, though. Of course, it probably is to anyone that likes orgies/gangbangs.

 

[Tmmldr]

I'm not thinking that gangbangs and orgies can't be hot. But whether someone directing the action makes it hot for the participants. Not every gangbang or orgie ranks 8 or 9 on a scale of 10.

 

[JRaven]

There are about as many ways to do a sex club as there are number of sex clubs. Hubby and I belong to 5 in the area.

1) A local bar is rented for a private party. This clubs allows couples only. There is no sex at the party, but if two (or three) couples decide they want to play, there is a hotel a short 5 minutes away. This is considered a "meet-n-greet" in that finding and meeting other swinging couples is the whole purpose of the party.

2) Another bar party. Predominantly another meet-n-greet, it does work in conjunction with a local hotel. Reduced room rates and the pool/hot tube is open later than their normal hours and reserved for the "special guests". If we don't hook up with a couple at the bar, climbing into the hot tube with 10-12 other couples always gets things rolling.

3) Hotel party. Couples only, held at a hotel. There's a themed dance in a ball room. The club (not the hotel) provides security. Some of the themed costumes may not include enough cloth to be legal in public. This lasts until about 11:00pm. The party then moves to one of the wings of the hotel that has been completely reserved for the club. Large curtains block the view of the hall way and club security keeps it private. I usually wear heels and panties during the hall party.

4) More like a happy hour for swingers. The bar is open to the public, but members of this club enjoy a discount. There will be a bunch of us there, but there is also a number of singles guys for me to play with. Once, a guy offered his hotel room across the street for us to have a threesome. Hubby wasn't that interested, another lady was under the table, giving him head. But he didn't mind me going alone with the guy.

5) House parties. The club we're in, there are usually anywhere from 4 to 15 couples that attend the monthly house party. Having sex with everyone is very rare. Having sex with more than one is the whole idea! These are a lot more intimate, a bit more personal.

X) No club at all. Sometimes, the best sex is when a couple invites us over to their house or we invite one over to ours. Just four naked bodies having sex, resting, having sex, resting...

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Jenny