Tonight is a big night for me, I have a dinner date with a man I met online, on a vanilla dating site, ironically. I have been at this since my divorce and I have gone on two dates since then, neither went anywhere. Now, I am hoping I am onto something. Using very careful writing and code words, I have successfully weeded out non-dominant men. I have already been down the road of marrying a man who was looking for an equal partner, and even though he is a marvelous man, that didn't end well. My need for a dominant man to lead me is too strong and I don't care to put my children, another man and myself through another train wreck. So far the signals I get from this man make me very optimistic. He comes across as very assertive and decisive, and very importantly, he is local. I need a drink sooooooo bad and I can't reach my sponsor, I can not blow this!
Back on point, Am I being stupid excluding vanilla people from my dating pool? The pool of men that meet my list of wants and needs is very, very small. Am I better off with bi-weekly seesions from my current married Dom and dying alone or being married to a vanilla man? I'm so confused, please wish me luck!
Back on point, Am I being stupid excluding vanilla people from my dating pool? The pool of men that meet my list of wants and needs is very, very small. Am I better off with bi-weekly seesions from my current married Dom and dying alone or being married to a vanilla man? I'm so confused, please wish me luck!
Deceptively vanilla in appearance, but oh so delicious and not vanilla in flavor.
. I would describe him as being no-nonsense and very direct. We went to a very nice restaurant and he had told me to wear a dress and heels. We ate, talked for two hours after dinner and then we went to his house nd talked until 11:00. His house is large and nice, but it is just him there so if has an empty feel to it. He showed me everything except a locked room in his basement that you have to pass through his gym to get into. He told me "If you're good, you will see the inside of that room, in time." Iwas trembling slightly at that point. He asked a lot of questions, some of which made me wonder if he comes here. I answered honestly, even when he asked if I might have a drinking problem, I would rather enter a new relationship being honest than have it fall apart later because of lies. He complimented me on my looks and I caught him glancing my cleavage and nipples, which I didn't pad so they were sticking straight out in all their glory. I could tell by his bulge he was fully aroused, but he was a gentleman, he took me home and gave me a knee buckling kiss on my porch and said good night. Not that I wouldn't have "put out" but I'm glad he didn't make any moves. In the course of our discussion he all but said he is a Dom/sadist. He said he believes a man has a duty to use corporal punishment on his wife. He made reference to some "method" maybe the "Roberts method(?)" where couples punish each other and said it would be wrong for a wife to discipline her husband. I tried to subtly say I was a sub/masochist but I was also being very careful not to say anything too stupid. So far I am trying to be realistic and keep my feet on the ground. We have a date for next weekend and I can't wait!
and doing something Sunday... 
