How many times a week do you feel a couple have sex

[Cath!]

How many times a week do you feel a couple should have sex

to maintain a healthy relationship??

And this is sex with each other, kids...and in real life..*******/phone does not count in this instance.

I just asked this based on the "Marriage and Sex" thread that said that marriage kills sex...I am curious to see the differences in opinions between the males and females...and also the difference in opinion of the single vs married people.

 

[lobito]

Sex wasn't the reason I got married. Not even the idea of never having to beg other women for the rest of my life, was the reason.

The sexual part of our relation, is shit without, all the other stuff.

I can't even attempt to put a number on how many times they need to have sex, to maintain a marriage.

 

[Herbie Handcock]

What couple are you talking about and is Ruby Fruit in it?

 

[daughter]

for me

Cath--

I hear you. Being single vs. married, young vs. a little older, certainly has changed my view.

In my 20s, I thought seven days a week was normal and when I could, I did.

More than a decade later, two kids, divorce and now committed again, my expectations are different. I don't need nor want sex all the time. I don't want the pressure of having to engage either because I fear my partner will be disappointed if we don't. I think a couple should have sex as often as they can between desire and opportunity.

There are times I want to jump his bones daily. Other times, Four days isn't too long to go without it. Some might argue otherwise, but I think having sex just because your partner wants to isn't necessarily a bad thing. If you're considerate of one another, hopefully more times than not, no one is asking for sex when the other is clearly uninterested.

After all that, my desire fits most stats for married couples. I'd like to have sex 2-3 times a week. Less doesn't kill me and more is always pleasureable.

Peace,

daughter

 

[Rubyfruit]

Re: How many times a week do you feel a couple should have sex

to maintain a healthy relationship??

I think 2-3 times a week is necessary to keep the intimacy alive and happiness flourishing.

Of course, there are times in any long relationship that for whatever reason, you can't reach that goal. When I was pregnant with the twins we didn't have sex for months, but we survived.

 

[freakygirl]

yeah.. what daughter said.

It's exactly what I was going to say..

Thanks daughter... saved me some time.. and my manicure

 

[SLAM]

10 times?

 

[Bindii]

Personally I think the amount of times a couple has sex changes with your environment. Sometimes we have sex everynight (or day), but other times when thigs are not going so well (whether it be through a difference of opinion, finacial worries etc) we forgo our intimate pleasures in favour of hugs and sweet words.
On average though we have sex about 3 times a week.

 

[thumbs2_ca]

I think 3 times a week is very important to me. I don't get it that often but I would like it at least that often. I require the closeness that sex gives a couple. You are busy in jobs and away from each other most of the day and except for 4 or 5 hours a night you lose touch with each other.
I would love the chance for every night but I scaled this back to be reasonable. lol
We are both in our early 50's and I think it gets better with age.

 

[Art]

How many times?

When my wife and I were first going together, it was like three times a day! Later that got down to a more reasonable once a day, and still later, maybe a year or so, it was down to several times a week. But, we were still getting it on quite a bit as we saw it. That continued for a number of years. Gradually it got down to three times a week or something thereabout. These days however, since she was diagnosed with depression and put on SSRIs like Luvox or Prozac, the sex life is down to a few times a year! She can't cum and doesn't get horny at all. Even if she decided she is horny, she still can't cum any longer. Oh, and if she goes on a "vacation" from those wonderful drugs, she is so depressed that we don't do anything anyway - except fight. At my age, 54, I would still like to get it on with her a few times a week - if we could.

 

[Sex The Drug]

Re: for me

Cath--

I think a couple should have sex as often as they can between desire and opportunity.

I'd like to have sex 2-3 times a week. Less doesn't kill me and more is always pleasureable.

Peace,

daughter

Very well Said!

 

[Gilly Bean]

Well, during the normal times in our marriage (ie: excluding late pregnancy of two kids, and postpartum...)... We have sex an average of once a night. Sometimes more, sometimes we skip a night.

Though, we did hit a very dry spell after the birth of Kid #2. While I was pregnant I had no sex drive, so he got laid maybe once a month for 9 months. Ok, that's likely a bit of exageration. But not by much. Afterwards, around 5-6 weeks after birth, I had a sex drive. That only lasted around 2 weeks. Then, I had the Depo shot, and he got laid about once a month (if he was lucky) for around a year. Almost within days of me not getting my next shot, I had a sex drive, and he got laid ALOT. It stayed that way right up until the end of this last pregnancy. Now, though you are supposed to wait 6 weeks before having sex again, it has been barely 2, and he has gotten it twice. Not vaginally, but gotten it just the same. He has absolutly nothing to complain about in the sex department.

 

[freakygirl]

Re: How many times?

When my wife and I were first going together, it was like three times a day! Later that got down to a more reasonable once a day, and still later, maybe a year or so, it was down to several times a week. But, we were still getting it on quite a bit as we saw it. That continued for a number of years. Gradually it got down to three times a week or something thereabout. These days however, since she was diagnosed with depression and put on SSRIs like Luvox or Prozac, the sex life is down to a few times a year! She can't cum and doesn't get horny at all. Even if she decided she is horny, she still can't cum any longer. Oh, and if she goes on a "vacation" from those wonderful drugs, she is so depressed that we don't do anything anyway - except fight. At my age, 54, I would still like to get it on with her a few times a week - if we could.

Have you told this to her doctor?
Yes, antidepressants can change your body.. and it's chemicals.. and make sex not enjoyable anymore.. but it doesn't have to be that way. There are medications (usually in a cream form) that can help. You say she is in her 50's.. has she gone through menopause yet? if so, TALK TO HER DOCTOR.. she may need a supplemental hormone. If not, then TALK TO HER DOCTOR.. she may be getting ready to go through the change and need some hormonal therapy. Her sexual desire.. or lack of is normal.. but it can be fixed..

again.. i say TALK TO HER DOCTOR!..

 

[godofthunder]

Good question

3 to4 times a week is nice and little play inbetween is great G.O.T.

 

[erosman]

Blessed Frequency

Sex is like my wife's cheesecake. When I was 20 y.o., and tasted her cheesecake for the first time, I scarfed the whole thing down and really only tasted the first bite. Through years of cheesecake binging, I have learned to slow down and enjoy each piece...savor each bite. My memory-satisfaction quotient is really high (and I still really enjoy the cheesecake) but I don't 'need' it like before, so now, instead of trying to consume the whole, I relish the whole. Binging to satisfaction can actually produce patience, as long as the binging doesn't consume you.

I need/want to feel connected to life each day. Usually, the cultivation of connection provides the basis for lovemaking which produces the fucking results that fill my life with blessed frequency.

 

[bluntforcemama]

Every day!