How many of you met your S.O. on the internet?

[Guest]

I'm new here but am on a spirally slope. I have been in contact with an Indian man for 2 years through the net. We have stayed in contact through chats, e-mails and calling each other daily. I am now considering to go and visit him and am wondering how it has worked for other couples?

I know everything about him, have talked with his best friend, and am ready to make that "big step". I am planning on going to see him due to visa/work constraints on his end. We do care a lot about each other, but want to make sure it is "real".

Any advice, comments or true stories?

Calista

 

[Latinababe]

I will be meeting mine in july for the first time. So after that I can help ya.

 

[Shaq]

I met my P.O because of the internet...

 

[Guest]

We are both in graudate school and he has yet to do his project. He lives in Europe and not in India and as for the "sweet talking green card-whore"....do you think after 2 years he couldn't find someone else if that is all he was interested in? maybe someone who was more gulliable? Also an American would be a lot better then a Canadian, esp with the economy! Is that what crossed your mind with your husband that he was just out for a green card? Why is every single guy who is "interested" in a citizen of another country seen as seeking a green card? And the whore part was uncalled for.

He would prefer I live oversea's actually and why invest in a fiance visit if your not at that stage yet?

I would be interested in more practical and supportive opinions/advice if they exist.

Calista

 

[Xander]

I did.

 

[sexy-girl]

we met for real but had to stay in touch via the internet and phone ... i know its not the same as just meeting on the internet though


for me i believe internet could be a great way to meet someone but i think you need the reality of meeting them to know for sure ... everytime my gf and i would meet having a holiday together it would take our relationship another step forward ... i dont think we could of made those steps by just chatting over the net


maybe you should just have a holiday or something together and see how it gos without to much expectation

 

[Ms_Lilith]

I met my ex-fiance on the internet, and for a long time, it was a good relationship. Then it went downhill. But that's okay, cus when that ended, it freed me up to meet my current SO, (also from the internet), and he's just a doll. I've heard of a lot of couples meeting and clicking, and sometimes you get a long, but not lasting relationship, sometimes you get a short relationship, sometimes you get just a fuck or two... and sometimes... sometimes it might be forever...
GOod luck to you.

 

[Guest]

originally posted by Calista
We are both in graudate school and he has yet to do his project. He lives in Europe and not in India and as for the "sweet talking green card-whore"....do you think after 2 years he couldn't find someone else if that is all he was interested in? maybe someone who was more gulliable? Also an American would be a lot better then a Canadian, esp with the economy! Is that what crossed your mind with your husband that he was just out for a green card? Why is every single guy who is "interested" in a citizen of another country seen as seeking a green card? And the whore part was uncalled for.

He would prefer I live oversea's actually and why invest in a fiance visit if your not at that stage yet?

I would be interested in more practical and supportive opinions/advice if they exist.

Calista

To whom are you responding to, exactly?

 

[GlitterJezebel]

I'm meeting a guy for the first time sometime this fall. I'm 18, and will be a senior this year, and he is almost 22. I live in the States, and he lives in Canada. I've never felt such a strong bond with someone in my life. I'm used to guy using me for sex now. Hell, I use them for sex as well. But I think what me and this guy I met on the internet have is amazing. So we're planning on meeting this fall. He's gonna stay here for a couple weeks, and if everything goes all good and dandy, we're planning on moving somewhere together.

 

[Lovepotion69]

Met my current partner via the internet. We just click right away over email. We kept emailing every day, and it was scary that we emailed around 2am all the time. Looooooong emails. It was great. Then we decided to meet just for the heck of it a couple of weeks later, went ok, he said it felt like meeting an old friend he'd known for years. Later started calling each other, and finally decided to give things a try.

 

[Guest]

hi, newbie here! yes, i've met my significant other online. last week was our one year anniversary of being together. when we first met, we only talked online for like a week before we were on the phone. we ended up talking almost every day for like 3 or 4 hours a day. i live in united states and at the time she lived in australia. in december she moved to the phillipines and phonecards are harder for her to get there and the ones i get here dont' give me as much time so now we only get to talk about 20-60 minutes a day(IF we can talk everyday that is). still, a fantastic relationship full of great conversations, planning for the future...and phonesex!

 

[glamorilla]

This place really throws the scale off on people successfully meeting each other off the net. In real life all of my friends...especially my girlfriends have the hardest time meeting people this way. In fact it seems to be like a fad that's passed. I found for me it's easy to meet guys just for sex. The AOL chatrooms alone are filled with literally hundreds of guys in my immediate vicinity just looking to trick. I've had some very good dates and sex as a result of them but I've also met an equal amount of bullshit so I pretty much only use the internet for the occasional late night booty call. Sex is easy...it's getting to the other stuff that proves to be a challenge and the nature of the internet lets our fantasies roam and there isn't much room for that in real life.

I can't name the source material but I do specifically remember reading about two years ago that successful (hetero) internet couplings make up about 2% of the way couples meet (friends,bars,clubs,social clubs,church,dating services etc.) I remember becouse it was the very last one.

It's why I like it here so much. It's safe for me. I don't sleep with girls,the guys don't want to sleep with me,I get to make people laugh and make some new friends and it's really a nice not-complicated way to spend my time waiting for my next big break.
I don't think there's much chance of me finding anybody here...even just for cyber fun.

Congrats on the couplings that have happened as a result of this place. with all that goes on here I'd imagine that's something that makes Laurel's heart swell up.

 

[glamorilla]

In closing I just wanted to say i think I want to marry bratcats brother even though I've never met him.

He's a doctor dontchaknow.

 

[hatara]

I met my love on the internet. We are in the same country though over 1000 miles apart. We have spent time together real too. My advice is this. There is an LDR thread in the Playground section of the Lit personals. We have a lot of people in Long Distance Relationships on lit. Many on that thread are dealing with the same different country issues you are. Go there and post and someone that has been through this will help you out.

Good luck!!

 

[Guest]

 

[glamorilla]

I thought it proved you really like being a girl.

 

[Cheyenne]

My mom told me my uncle has met a women from the internet. They both signed up on one of the personals services, and have been dating. He is a widower, and thinks this may be the woman he wants to marry! My mom likes her, too.

There's hope. If my late middle aged uncle can find a wife on the internet, and our family accepts it as normal, maybe someday if I introduce someone as a friend I found on the internet, they won't flinch. Maybe.

Even scarier? MY UNCLE was out trolling for women in the personals! EWWWW! I never want to run into a relative like that online...

 

[Siren]

 

[Silverlily]

A good friend of mine met his current wife through an online dating service. I never really put much stock in that sort of thing until I saw how happy they are together.

 

[joolushko]

My husband and I both met in 1995 while mudding. Well, we were both coded for the MUD at the time. Talked online and on the phone for 2 years before we ever met in person. We got married in 2000. So far, we are hornily ever after.

 

[Private Vasquez]

I met my stepson online.

I also met some pretty hot Transformers, Power Rangers and a Beanie Baby or 6. But that was just for fun.

 

[Siren]

SLUT

 

[Private Vasquez]

yeah...plastic and beans everywhere. IT was a mess...but the sound those Transformers make is just too much...I couldn't help myself.

 

[Guest]

Origianlly posted by yayati
I posted as Calista before and someone recognised my style

You were Cynthia the last time, me thinks.

Orignally posted by Glam
I thought it proved you really like being a girl.