How many AH participants take delight in male physicality?

[AG31]

Obviously there are a lot of such folks reading and writing in the GM genre, but the only GM author I've noticed here in AH is @KeithD. If I'm missing people, would you speak up?

And then there's me. A male MC (a good looking one) is essential in what I read and write. Neither I nor my stories are gay oriented (although there are hints, and some would say blatant homosexualtity. But I don't agree.).

Here's why I'm curious. I'm 80 now and almost all of my life I had a low libido. My sexual relations were more romantic and interpersonal than erotic and physical. A not un-common experience for women, I think. Then, 3 and a half years ago I had an experience that suddenly opened up the world of appreciating male physicality. The example that most describes this, I think, is that I undress men with my eyes. In places like church and the subway. Their faces don't have to be particularly attractive, but as long as they aren't chubby I can get a happy image. I imagine this is a little more like life is for men. Well, anyway, to hear my hubby tell it.

This was a gift, and, in general, I feel more whole than I ever had before.

But I've noticed that I don't find much written or discussed about simple appreciation of male physicality, on the order of what you find regarding female physicality. It feels pretty healthy and I'm just wondering if I'm just not looking in the right places.

Let me know what you think.

 

[AwkwardlySet]

Yeah, women often say how we men are visual beasts and how we focus on the physical attractiveness of our female partners. As far as my experiences go, women are just as much visual creatures, although they do focus on somewhat different physical traits than men. Somewhat different but mostly similar.

 

[desecration]

My sexual relations were more romantic and interpersonal than erotic and physical.

In my experience, this is the case for most people. They want companionship and sex is part of that, but they are not as motivated perhaps as your average erotica enjoyer.

 

[orangecurious]

one of mine is in GM.

Some of the others have a bisexual (both ways) attitude, the Developing Friends series certainly has.

 

[TheRedChamber]

I've written five gay male stories (out of fifty+).

I don't know that I take particular delight in male physicality though - my stories tend to be more about the act than the bodies.

 

[TarnishedPenny]

If it’s that appreciation in Literotica stories, I might point you at my Model Garden series.

 

[NotWise]

Do you mean "physicality" or "physique?" The former would be a man's actions or state of mind, and the latter would be his appearance. A chubby, ugly man can do things with a lot of physicality, though their physique isn't what you're looking for.

I usually squeeze in some description of a male character's physique, but I don't usually dwell on it. The same goes for female characters.

 

[AG31]

Well, I wish I could put into better words why I prefer physicality. Maybe the distinction lives only in my head. Physique makes me think of body-building. Which I'm not particularly fond of.

 

[AG31]

If it’s that appreciation in Literotica stories, I might point you at my Model Garden series.

Thanks for this. I went to your link and realized that I'd happily already read it. We know for sure because mine is the latest comment from 3 months ago!

 

[AG31]

one of mine is in GM.

Some of the others have a bisexual (both ways) attitude, the Developing Friends series certainly has.

Which was more important? Your satisfaction at your writing skills or your delight in the body(ies) you described?

 

[orangecurious]

Which was more important? Your satisfaction at your writing skills or your delight in the body(ies) you described?

the story was important

 

[AG31]

Do you mean "physicality" or "physique?" The former would be a man's actions or state of mind, and the latter would be his appearance. A chubby, ugly man can do things with a lot of physicality, though their physique isn't what you're looking for.

I usually squeeze in some description of a male character's physique, but I don't usually dwell on it. The same goes for female characters.

I thought about this some more. I decided to post here that it's precisely because of the actions implied that I prefer physicality. Although I must say I do like photographs and paintings of naked men.

But then I went to WordHippo.com and was presented with this. It's perfect.

The essence of being physical, involving carnality, sensuality, and animality
The quality of being palpable

 

[MrPixel]

My outlook has changed a bit as I get older. It's not black-and-white any more. Sexual preference, or rather, experiencing sexual pleasure is on a spectrum. In recently spending increasing time around the "lifestyle" community, I have discovered straight does not necessarily mean "exclusive". A straight man can enjoy the physical stimulation offered by another straight man, frequently in the company of a woman they are pleasuring together.

I write about this, and the more I write about it, the more sense it makes. For both genders.

 

[KeithD]

Yes, I envision male physicality when I'm writing a story, and I both envision and tend to give the males some arousing physical attribute(s) even if they otherwise have serious imperfections. I write a lot of young/older stories and have to produce justification for the younger being attracted to the older. If a female is key to the story, I'll envision her as well--all as nude, yes--although females don't usually play key roles in my GM stories.

This probably comes from real life, where I spent a good deal of time in sports locker rooms and also in male-dominated tropical danger zones where clothing was sparse--and it was brought out when men there were coming on to me and responding to my physicality--initially much to my surprise as I was too wrapped up in myself (which included looking good) to catch on to what they wanted quickly.

 

[pink_silk_glove]

I'll say this very bluntly: the lit-verse needs more detailed sexy male characters. The vast majority of male characters (certainly in stroke stories) are faceless or even invisible. People complain about weakly written female characters, but at least the girls get measurements and hair color and a short skirt or something. The men are nothing but a big dick. Now certainly sexiness involves more than just the physical, but this is erotica and erotica centers on pleasures of the body. Those characters who are merely emotionally and intellectually sexy are fine in romance but romance is only a small slice of erotica. Where are the sculpted abs? the chiseled cheekbones? the thick bedhead hair? Where are the confident guys? the daring guys? Where are the lifeguards? the covert spies? the race car drivers? Most stories just have a faceless dick that gets lucky. As a female reader it gets very disappointing.

 

[StillStunned]

I enjoy describing my male characters in terms my wife would use. She likes my hands, my legs, my arse, my scent, my voice. So those are the things that I let my female characters notice about men.

 

[Jorunn]

I write most of my stories from the female perspective, and have described bull riders, farmers, Vikings, older men, and younger men. I see physicality as the male character actually doing 'male stuff'. To better define that, the male character will usually initiate physical contact, and that contact can be more physical than vice versa. He will roll my female characters over, pick them up in his arms, and sometimes show off his physique. Through the eyes of my female characters, I usually describe those male characters, though I have gotten away from the unrealistic 'bull-sized cocks' descriptions.

And I agree with earlier comments, physique and physicality are different. Physique is when you want (or don't want) someone to touch you. Physicality is when they do.

 

[Seadog777]

physique and physicality are different. Physique is when you want (or don't want) someone to touch you. Physicality is when they do.

BINGO!!!

@Jorunn you hit the nail on the head.

I have a "dad bod" and I've been pulling people out of raging flood waters, collapsing buildings from tornadoes, etc, etc, for almost 2 decades now, THAT is "physicality".

 

[pink_silk_glove]

To better define that, the male character will usually initiate physical contact, and that contact can be more physical than vice versa. He will roll my female characters over, pick them up in his arms, and sometimes show off his physique.

(fans self)

 

[AG31]

Do you mean "physicality" or "physique?" The former would be a man's actions or state of mind, and the latter would be his appearance. A chubby, ugly man can do things with a lot of physicality, though their physique isn't what you're looking for.

I usually squeeze in some description of a male character's physique, but I don't usually dwell on it. The same goes for female characters.

I keep thinking about this.
Physique doesn't evoke swelling, and hardening, and rippling. Physicality can.

 

[karina_jayde]

It's been a bit since I've written something other than lesbian sex or heterosexual sex from a male POV, but I'm really trying to amp up the descriptions in my current WIP, which is a reverse harem sort of situation. Really trying to show off a broad array of men's body types, ranging from muscular barbarians to fit, slender scholars and husky gladiators with a lot of meat and heft on their bones.

In fact this thread inspired me to backtrack a bit to the introduction of said muscular barbarian, to rewrite a bit and be more clear and alluring about his physique.

 

[AG31]

It's been a bit since I've written something other than lesbian sex or heterosexual sex from a male POV, but I'm really trying to amp up the descriptions in my current WIP, which is a reverse harem sort of situation. Really trying to show off a broad array of men's body types, ranging from muscular barbarians to fit, slender scholars and husky gladiators with a lot of meat and heft on their bones.

In fact this thread inspired me to backtrack a bit to the introduction of said muscular barbarian, to rewrite a bit and be more clear and alluring about his physique.

Let us know when it's published!

 

[OffNSFW]

Male physicality? Like a handsome, well-groomed cock shuddering in delight? Coiled pecs and biceps you could just live in forever? A trail of pubic hair from navel to shaft to run your fingers through? That slight burn on your chin from his stubble to remind you of him? That kind of physicality?

 

[AG31]

Male physicality? Like a handsome, well-groomed cock shuddering in delight? Coiled pecs and biceps you could just live in forever? A trail of pubic hair from navel to shaft to run your fingers through? That slight burn on your chin from his stubble to remind you of him? That kind of physicality?

Yes. Exactly that kind.

 

[Kumquatqueen]

Part of it is people writing for a male audience who want to imagine themselves in the place.of the male character. Apparently that's why men in heterosexual porn are usually mostly off-screen apart from their dicks, and when they do appear, are pretty non-descript.

Loads of Lit stories describe FMC in detail and the MMC hardly at all - even less if it's a male narrator character.

I do write a fair bit about men's appearance, cos female gaze, innit. Especially if it's their bodies that are particularly attractive, as opposed to them looking OK but the personality pushes them over the line into being desirable. GM and other categories of my stories are available.