How Long Do You Wait Before You Reveal Your True Perverted Self?

[Samantha47]

I'm not sure Lit would even exist if we could all fulfill our fantasies at will.

Me either

 

[SPARTAN047]

I am taking my deepest, most perverted self to the grave. My bucket list includes cleaning up my hard drive just before I die.

Just what I thought of doing myself, I'll probably throw my laptop in a house fire when I'm on my deathbed and fuck hookers in groups.

My perverted and dark desires will only be known to the ones who share those thoughts. I'd love to know if you share mine.

 

[Easyvirtue]

It depends. My wife it lasted about 2 years before I woke her up and asked if I could wear her wedding nite panties to bed. She and I had both been drinking and she mumbled yeah. We woke up the next morning and I had to explain myself and spilled the beans I was a closet crossdresser.
Before her I had only dated this girl a month or two and after a weed fueled evening I went to my room and dressed in my bra and panties and covered up with a robe. I walked out and we started making out and she untied the robe and there I was in my favorite white Playtex bra and French cut high waisted panties. She paused a bit and we continued but that was that with her, she told me she wasn’t a fan and we broke up shortly after.

 

[vrswingers66]

For the first year I dated my wife, she thought I was a simple guy. Once I knew that she was the one, I started talking to her about fantasies and slowly opened up to her about my relationship with my sister. She was not happy at all, it took us 6 months of talks and very open communication to get back on track. I dated her for 3 years before we married.

 

[Fune_Meretrix]

Depends on the person. My wife comes from an extremely conservative family so she still doesn’t know everything that I’m into. And we’ve been married almost 4 years.

 

[Noor]

WYSIWYG

 

[smtst5]

You’re supposed to wait? That’s what I’ve been doing wrong all of this time.

 

[old_hippy_46]

Hi all! I'm just curious how long you have to know/date someone, in real life, before you're comfortable sharing your deepest, darkest memories, fetishes, and fantasies. ALL of them. Are you always brazen and straightforward, putting all your perverted cards on the table to start with? Or does it take you weeks, months, or even years to fully bare your twisted soul? I know many, if not most of you out there, are married or are in long-term commitments, so how long did it take before you revealed your final form? Or have you never come completely clean with your spouse/partner, and that's why you love Lit?

Looking forward to all answers. As always, have a horny day!

I reveal my kinky side soon. Sometimes on the first date.
Why?
Because I don't want to get emotionally involved to meet with regret and break up later.
I have met with a variety of responses from being called a perv, which I am, to that sounds interesting.

 

[lily_wall_]

ALL of them.

Even when I'm anonymous it takes me somewhere between never and the day after end of time

 

[Darty20]

I have showed and told her some things. Wasn’t her thing and she finds my past disgusting. Good thing I didn’t share my incest fetish.

Ooops , that is a good job

 

[Darty20]

I am taking my deepest, most perverted self to the grave. My bucket list includes cleaning up my hard drive just before I die.

Good luck on that

 

[MyHappyPlace]

Never reveal you inner-most secrets until you know what is in the other person's mind

It's been 25 years and I still don't know what's on her mind. Either she just really has no kinks (oh the devastation) or she just thinks her fantasies are too much to share (which of course I would prefer to being the case)

 

[Sol41]

It was years (like 7+ years in I think) before my scat fetish came up. He didnt judge me, he didnt recoil. He was just concerned for my health which is more than understandable, even though if you know what you're doing solo play is the safest, but he couldnt know that. Its still very much not his thing but hes never made me feel othered for it.

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Of which hes been as well, very understanding, and even accommodating.
And so far its only really enriched our sex life.
Its not a replacement for therapy, but I live in the states where healthcare is a total hellscape so this is probably as close as I can get

 

[HampshireBoy]

I am taking my deepest, most perverted self to the grave. My bucket list includes cleaning up my hard drive just before I die.

TBH that is one thing that does worry me, when will I know to blitz email accounts and hard drives? I'm not sure I want my wife finding some emails and photos that I hold.

I am one of two people that a female friend has tasked with removing and destroying her sex toys, kinky clothes etc; she is single so has no partner to do this and doesn't want her brother or nieces to find this stuff.

 

[Breastobsessed84]

My wife still doesn't know after almost 10 years because I've only become more extreme.

 

[smooth-boy]

I would say 0 seconds. I'm not getting together with anyone who doesn't know me from fetlife.

 

[Bettytheboo]

My wife still doesn't know after almost 10 years because I've only become more extreme.

That's impressive!

 

[Makreally]

Depends on how the vibe is

 

[tommyt125]

There are only 3 people that I’ve felt comfortable really digging down deep into the kinks with and one of them is best friend tier and we’ve been Fwb for 20+ years.

 

[Bettytheboo]

After being in a relationship or marriage for a while it's only natural for sex to become a bit "samey", and it's nice to be able to open up about kinks, or fetishes. It depends on the couple, but it does add fire to a sex life. I can understand some people being reluctant to share their fantasies. Small steps first

 

[Breastobsessed84]

That's impressive!

I guess. It's made our home life kinda boring. She just wouldn't be into the stuff I am.

 

[Sgts19]

We've got an agreement with our friends. They've got the combo to our safe and the password to my laptop as I have theirs. Anything happens to any of us destroy all evidence of some of the things we've done. Or keep it for masturbation fun

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

Hi all! I'm just curious how long you have to know/date someone, in real life, before you're comfortable sharing your deepest, darkest memories, fetishes, and fantasies. ALL of them. Are you always brazen and straightforward, putting all your perverted cards on the table to start with? Or does it take you weeks, months, or even years to fully bare your twisted soul? I know many, if not most of you out there, are married or are in long-term commitments, so how long did it take before you revealed your final form? Or have you never come completely clean with your spouse/partner, and that's why you love Lit?

Looking forward to all answers. As always, have a horny day!

Right away.

 

[Kolejdayz]

My first wife told me at first that she had five lovers before me. Then one special night several years after we married she confessed to being a real slut before me -- dozens of guys before me

 

[StrongMaster7]

I think about this all the time. I'm married now and love my wife, but if she were to disappear and I was single and free, I would want to be totally open about a lot of my sex preferences right up front. I'm sure I would shock or turn off a woman or two, but I hate being stuck as I am now, unable to suddenly try to expand our existing relationship. And facing the rejection.

I wonder how a woman would react if I just quietly laid out all of the things that I would consider enjoying in my "new sex life". I can't imagine having an honest, open, no shame, conversation about sex. Asking for anal, for toys, for pee play, for pegging, for dirty talk, for fantasies would be amazing.