How do you

[Guest]

help a hurting heart? Caring and loving someone , but can't seem to stop hurting one another or meet in the middle ? Not always arguing , but not always *talking* either.
When you have had *heart hurts* and are sad , how do you go about getting passed it or making it better?
I know it's vague , but it's a question going through my head.

 

[TNRkitect2b]

If I knew how, I'd tell you... but unfortunately I don't. I too am interested in suggestions... so, please share!

 

[SnowCrash101]

i know what you mean. I am on the same boat. Been together long enough to start hating each other but not able to leave as well.

 

[Bad101]

For me I try to think of the things and people that I enjoy and make me happy. It is hard and the mind plays powerful games while you think things out.

 

[Guest]

I love him very much .. hate doesn't even play into it.

 

[Bad101]

So why doesnt he talk to you? But it is hard to understand what your needs are.

 

[SnowCrash101]

I love him very much .. hate doesn't even play into it.

Hate is not the word I supposed. Its that thing that hangs over two people who have been together for too long.

 

[pw27]

You have to talk to the person or someone you trust about the pain, I know some think this is b/s but you have to communicate with your partner or SO. That's the only way I know to help and if the partner or SO won't or can't talk about the problem with you then they need someone to talk with, maybe couseling or something. Sorry I can't be much help, hang in there.

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

I just try to remember all the fun times

 

[English Lady]

I think its a time when you need to do some serious thinking yourself. Can you pinpoint why this is happening? why the heart-hurt is occurring? I think if you go through things in your mind, you might be able to see if it is a phase or not.


In the end you're going to have to talk to your partner, if it's hurting you,it's probably hurting your partner. The only way to sort it out is to talk it out!

As for short term fixes...try ice cream,chocoloate and a soppy movie....pig out and cry your little heart out....freshens up the soul everytime

 

[Carnus]

I truly wish I knew sweetie, then maybe I could heal my own, if you find a way let me know.

Carnus

 

[Zurich]

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Any relationship has ups and downs, so give it time.

 

[BlueElf]

help a hurting heart? Caring and loving someone , but can't seem to stop hurting one another or meet in the middle ? Not always arguing , but not always *talking* either.
When you have had *heart hurts* and are sad , how do you go about getting passed it or making it better?
I know it's vague , but it's a question going through my head.

Hi, Mistress *hugs* I'm not sure exactly what the situation is that you are talking about, but overall I would say some therapy would be nice and a way to practice up communication skills. It would help open up avenues of discussing instead of arguing. I hope either you or whoever you know with this problem is able to work things out and stop hurting and being hurt.

BlueElf

 

[Guest]

Re: >

Any relationship has ups and downs, so give it time.

I will , no worries . I will

 

[Zurich]

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You know how I feel.

 

[Guest]

help a hurting heart? Caring and loving someone , but can't seem to stop hurting one another or meet in the middle ? Not always arguing , but not always *talking* either.
When you have had *heart hurts* and are sad , how do you go about getting passed it or making it better?
I know it's vague , but it's a question going through my head.

I so wish I had the answer to this question. I'm in a similiar situation. I've never considered counseling before but will begin therapy on Monday in hopes to answer this question. I'll let you know if I ever find the answer!

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[Blastasbird]

Every relationship has it ups and downs sometimes it may seem more downs that up and when I am in this kind of situation I just think about all the good times we had and the happy times and then I tend to forget about all the down times.