How do you let someone know you have a crush on them?

[Ms_Lilith]

Y'see... this person... he just grabbed and held my attention, and earned my respect, and he turns me on rather often, without knowing that he does it. I don't think he really knows I exist. But, as I respect him, and as I am a submissive (which generally means I'm timid), I dont really want to intrude my crush on his life.


How do I let him know?

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Let things fall into place ... or you might give him little hints here and there..

Good Luck.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Let things fall into place ... or you might give him little hints here and there..

Good Luck.

*sigh* Patience is not one of my virtues. But thank you for responding..

 

[Semler]

Just send me a PM

 

[Ebonyfire]

Y'see... this person... he just grabbed and held my attention, and earned my respect, and he turns me on rather often, without knowing that he does it. I don't think he really knows I exist. But, as I respect him, and as I am a submissive (which generally means I'm timid), I dont really want to intrude my crush on his life.


How do I let him know?

If he is online, and he posts, you could send him a pm or email, letting him know that you read his posts and admire his thoughts. Strike up a conversation, and get to know him. He will get the message.

Of course, it needs to be a truthful Pm, cause it never is good to start off with a lie.

Eb

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Re: Re: How do you let someone know you have a crush on them?

If he is online, and he posts, you could send him a pm or email, letting him know that you read his posts and admire his thoughts. Strike up a conversation, and get to know him. He will get the message.

Of course, it needs to be a truthful Pm, cause it never is good to start off with a lie.

Eb

Yes, but I'm a chicken. *grin*

 

[MsDemeanor]

I dunno.

If you figure it out, let us all know.

 

[~*EroticKiss*~]

have someone PM him for you...that you trust...
but, I would just tell him.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Re: Re: How do you let someone know you have a crush on them?

Yes, but I'm a chicken. *grin*

Remember the old quote, "A faint heart has never won a fair maiden?"

Well, it can go the other way, " a faint heart has never won a fair man either."

Or perhaps, "Nothing ventured, nothing gained " is more apt?


What is the worse thing that can happen?

Eb

 

[bunny bondage]

ok, i was in your boat not too long ago. the man - my english teacher. time elapsed before i said anything - WAY too fucking long. so one day, i just made up my mind to flirt with him, and i spent all day trying to do it. i guess i made myself obvious, because he kissed me that very night. so my advice here is, DON'T blow it by letting him slip by, i almost did and would have spent the rest of my life beating myself over the head. act and act now. you're a woman, use your feminine wiles! just joke around with him playfully, if he's interested, he'll take the hints.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

This is an online, flirting interest, rather than someone I'd like to pursue a real life relationship with. I'm in a relationship in real life, and have no interest in endangering it. I just happen to have noticed this person online, and would like to get to know him better, and would like to explore his mind and his feelings, and... it doesn't hurt that he excites the hell out of me...

 

[christcat69]

Well Vix, throw him over your knee and spank him.

 

[Ebonyfire]

This is an online, flirting interest, rather than someone I'd like to pursue a real life relationship with. I'm in a relationship in real life, and have no interest in endangering it. I just happen to have noticed this person online, and would like to get to know him better, and would like to explore his mind and his feelings, and... it doesn't hurt that he excites the hell out of me...

So then be truthful, tell him this.

Eb

 

[Ms_Lilith]

*grin*

*fear of rejection*


Jesus, I'm silly.

 

[Ebonyfire]

*grin*

*fear of rejection*


Jesus, I'm silly.

*grin*

Eb

 

[Freya]

Don't enter into it in a sexual fashion. Let him know you find him interesting and his manner attractive - and if there's disinterest on his part, it'll show through pretty much right away.

I'm bad for letting them make the first move though.

 

[bunny bondage]

ok, so let's say he rejects you. if you're both adults about it, you can easily continue a friendship with no snafoos. or, in the worst case, he acts like a big baby and doesn't want to talk to you after you hit on him and in that case, you didn't want him anyway. and infact, you might actually planting a seed that his rejection won't be able to stamp out. he might get to thinkin "hey, i do want some of that pie" and then you've got a delayed reaction kind of thing. the worst thing you can do is nothing. you don't want to look back and say "goddamnit, i missed my chance" because that is something you will kick yourself for forever. if you singlehandedly murder everything that might be between the two of you by failing to act then you have only yourself to blame.

so...yeah, say something.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

*tries to gather her nerve*

*it falls all over the floor*


*thinks she'll just cyber-stalk for a little while longer*

*sigh*

You're right, bunny, but at the same time.. *wry smile* he doesn't know I exist. It's not like we're friends, it's not like we PM or even converse much at all. I just happen to follow him around some. *grin*

 

[Cuckolded_BlK_Male]

*grin*

*fear of rejection*
Jesus, I'm silly.

Here's how I got over my fear of rejection. Walk up to a large group of young women and ask the prettiest one to dance. If she deigns to grace you with a turn on the dance-floor, proceed to shake your groove-thing in earnest. If she shoots you down, no matter how brutally or how much her friends giggle, excuse yourself and immediately turn to the next prettiest one in the very same group and ask her to dance.

repeat.

As every salesman knows, every no brings you that much closer to a yes.

 

[Cuckolded_BlK_Male]

double post.

 

[P. B. Walker]

Well Vix, throw him over your knee and spank him.

I agree with christcat... us men are retards lol. Sometimes you gotta hit us over the head with it. Especially in a place like this. I mean, this isn't exactly like being in a bar... there are no body-signals or anything.

Good luck hun.

PBW

 

[Ebonyfire]

I agree with christcat... us men are retards lol.

And that is why you make such good toys...

Eb

 

[Ms_Lilith]

*grin*

Well, he knows. And I think he took it pretty well!

 

[Ebonyfire]

*grin*

Well, he knows. And I think he took it pretty well!

Now, was that so bad?

Eb

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Now, was that so bad?

Eb

no.. *grin* he gave me a rather nice window of opportunity to tell him.

*is happy*