How do you know when you're found?

[Dillinger]

We all get to that place, don't we... at some time in our lives or another. When who we are isn't who we thought we were - and we are lost somewhere in transition.

So my question is... how do we know when we have finished that transition? How do we know when we've found ourselves?

Yes... yes... yes... I know all things are transitory, everything changes. Zen me if you want, but that's not what I'm getting at here. There are times when we truly feel lost. Uncertain what to do next - or if one should do anything at all, at all. No one want's to stay lost. At least I don't.

So how do I know when I'm me again? Or at least the me I'm becoming?

 

[badasschick]

I said it before....everyone has their koan.

 

[RastaPope]

I got lost round about 5 years ago, I don't know where the fuck that kid went, but I know why.

 

[bad kitty]

All I can tell ya darlin is you will know when ya get there. It is a calm, serene feeling.... until the next time.

 

[Debbie]

Hard questions to answer.
When you feel lost and you don't think there is
light at the end of the tunnel?
Then hopefully someone/ something will come along
with a 'torch' to help you see things better.
It happened to me today, lol I have been feeling sorry for
myself and rethinking what I believe in. How I lead my
life etc.

I had a conversation with someone today and it dawned on me
with just a few words of what they said that I had not lost my way I was just bogged down.

I am getting my optimisitic perspective back.

I hope you find your way dillinger,
just remember you have friends here.

 

[cybergirly]

As you reach that place the place where you are no longer lost, but whole once again, you'll know it.

It'll click in your mind, your soul. And you'll just know.

 

[Tranquility]

We all get to that place, don't we... at some time in our lives or another. When who we are isn't who we thought we were - and we are lost somewhere in transition.

So my question is... how do we know when we have finished that transition? How do we know when we've found ourselves?

Yes... yes... yes... I know all things are transitory, everything changes. Zen me if you want, but that's not what I'm getting at here. There are times when we truly feel lost. Uncertain what to do next - or if one should do anything at all, at all. No one want's to stay lost. At least I don't.

So how do I know when I'm me again? Or at least the me I'm becoming?

You will wake up one morning and just know you have arrived at the place you should be...there will be no questions in your mind as if you are doing the "right" thing you will just know. I was lost and had a lil boy in tow...thank goodness I found my soulmate oneday and knew I was there when he looked at me...sappy I know but its true. Good luck in the hunt for yourself and don't accept anyones defination of it til you find it.

 

[Summery]

I'm not sure words could really express an answer. At least for me, it's more of a feeling inside of myself. A feeling of contentment within. Or perhaps, when I no longer feel the need to ask myself those kind of questions, I have completed my transition of that particular stage in my life, and I have become the me, I want to be at that moment in time.
I've been lost many times, and found again.

 

[sunstruck]

When you're content. You don't have to be perfect. You can't be. But when you're calm and life seems just...ok, you'll realise it. Then the highs and lows can begin again with far fewer extremes.

 

[Dillinger]

Yes... I too believe that you just know.

Which is too bad, actually. Because that means I'm not found yet. I was hoping I had been.

 

[Minkey Boodle]

I think it's when you no longer have to look at your watch to know what time it is and you don't have to spend a lot of time gettin' dolled up in the morning before going out for breakfast.

 

[islandman]

When you wake up one morning, look at yourself in the mirror and like what you see.

That's when you're found.

 

[zipman]

When they take your face off of the milk carton.




There is always a difference between who we think we are, who we want to be, and who we actually are.


The idea is to forget who we think we are, and concentrate on closing the gap between who we want to be and who we actually are.

 

[Rubyfruit]

*dreamy sigh*

You're so wise, Zip.

 

[sunstruck]

Yes... I too believe that you just know.

Which is too bad, actually. Because that means I'm not found yet. I was hoping I had been.

Oh honey. Time. LOTS of time. Be patient with yourself. Whatever it is that is making you unhappy didn't simply appear over night. It will take a while to start to get to a good place.

Patience. Don't push.

 

[bad kitty]

When you wake up one morning, look at yourself in the mirror and like what you see.

That's when you're found.

Well shit, I have never been found then.

 

[bad kitty]

*dreamy sigh*

You're so wise, Zip.

and sexy too.

 

[Pyper]

You know you're found when...

Someone tags you and says, "You're it!" and then YOU have to close your eyes and count.

 

[LukkyKnight]

I think it's when you no longer have to look at your watch to know what time it is and you don't have to spend a lot of time gettin' dolled up in the morning before going out for breakfast.

That's retired.

 

[nasty1]

Hasn't happened, yet.

 

[zipman]

and sexy too.

Words alone are a poor means to express the deep affection that I feel for you and Rubyfruit.

When two of the sexiest and nicest women on the board pay me a compliment like that, all I can say is:


I heart you both!

 

[Desert Amazon]

Re: Re: How do you know when you're found?

 

[Summery]

Yes... I too believe that you just know.

Which is too bad, actually. Because that means I'm not found yet. I was hoping I had been.

It will probably happen, when you least expect it to.

 

[Guest]

Someone once told me that you find yourself when you lose everything else.

 

[REDWAVE]

Finding yourself

Good question. First I'll get philosophical on you, and ask: what makes you think there's an "I" there to be found in the first place? Arguably, a human being is nothing but a bundle of perceptions, sensations, concepts, emotions, a body, etc.-- there is no whole apart from the sum of the parts. The person "I" was yesterday is a different person from the person "I" am today, and the person "I" will be tomorrow will be a different person again.


However, as someone who thinks he's found himself, I'll answer: you'll know you've found yourself, or as least the person you're becoming, when every fiber of your being resonates to the course you've chosen, and it is unthinkable to you to turn around and go the other way.

BTW, what is it about your previous paradigm with which you're now dissatisfied?