How do you know when you love someone and care a lot about that person?

[spiderman09]

How do you know when you love someone? I really don't know, all I know is that lately, I have one person, one person only in my mind. I don't know if it is love, I don't know if it is that she drives crazy (in a good way), I don't know if it is because she makes me feel good and makes me laugh, I don't know if it is because she is sweet and wonderful, and beautiful. All I know that I cann't stop thinking about her, all I know is that I can't sleep thinking about her, all I know is that I get butterflies when I speak to her, all I know is that I pray for her so she can be doing good during the day, all I know is that I missed her a lot. The sad part is that we both live in two different worlds, she lives in the East and I live in the West. I also know that I miss her, I desire her, and sometimes I wish that we could be together at least for one night. A night of happiness, A night that we could spend together enjoying our company, our laughs, and each other. how do you know when you love and care too much about someone... are these the symptoms that I'm having? can anyone tell me...

 

[glamorilla]

thats easy and not so easy. when you're in love you just are. sometimes you realize it, sometimes it sneaks up on you...sometimes its easy getting caught up in the feelings. for me love or "true love" has only happened once. i have had what i consider crushes that fall along the lines of what you've described and they're usually with people i can't really be with which feeds into the fantasy and desperation of it all and i've also found in these cases the fantasy of it is much better than the reality. i think love goes a little deeper than that.

in your case the easiest advice to give and the hardest to follow is to bite the bullet and simply ask her out but whatever you do don't let it go on for long if you don't plan on doing anything about it anf for gods sake dont become a stalker!

 

[Cleopatra]

I think to really know if you're in love, you need to see the person at all points, their best, worst, normal, strange, sick, drunk, tired...

And that requires physical interaction.

I agree with glam about the feeding into fantasy. Be careful.

 

[spiderman09]

thats easy and not so easy. when you're in love you just are. sometimes you realize it, sometimes it sneaks up on you...sometimes its easy getting caught up in the feelings. for me love or "true love" has only happened once. i have had what i consider crushes that fall along the lines of what you've described and they're usually with people i can't really be with which feeds into the fantasy and desperation of it all and i've also found in these cases the fantasy of it is much better than the reality. i think love goes a little deeper than that.

in your case the easiest advice to give and the hardest to follow is to bite the bullet and simply ask her out but whatever you do don't let it go on for long if you don't plan on doing anything about it anf for gods sake dont become a stalker!

I really appreciate your advice... very nice and sweet of you... and believe me... I would not become a stalker...I've been stalked before by someone else ... so I would not wish anyone to go through that....

 

[SnoopDog]

Well judging from what you wrote....it sounds that you are.
Good luck with her....I hope it works out for you.

Snoopy,

 

[Epiphany]

If it's not love, it's a major crush...and those are so much fun!

Take things slow...day at a time...and if it works out that y'all get to meet and hit it off in person...then who knows...the sky's the limit!

Enjoy the good feelings.

 

[DreamWeaver]

Well judging from what you wrote....it sounds that you are.
Good luck with her....I hope it works out for you.

Snoopy,

I agree with Snoopy

Good Luck spiderman09

 

[Paendragon]

Does she feel the same way?

How far away are we talking here? What state to what state?

And is there the chance to relocate?

I've always believed that love is love. You know it when you feel it. No matter where you meet, or how.

Usually, it's the practical that gets in the way. Jobs, families, etc. And as shitty as those things are to think on, they're the real necessity.

Good luck.

 

[Roseanne Rosannadanna]

How do you know when you love someone? I really don't know, all I know is that lately, I have one person, one person only in my mind. I don't know if it is love, I don't know if it is that she drives crazy (in a good way), I don't know if it is because she makes me feel good and makes me laugh, I don't know if it is because she is sweet and wonderful, and beautiful. All I know that I cann't stop thinking about her, all I know is that I can't sleep thinking about her, all I know is that I get butterflies when I speak to her, all I know is that I pray for her so she can be doing good during the day, all I know is that I missed her a lot. The sad part is that we both live in two different worlds, she lives in the East and I live in the West. I also know that I miss her, I desire her, and sometimes I wish that we could be together at least for one night. A night of happiness, A night that we could spend together enjoying our company, our laughs, and each other. how do you know when you love and care too much about someone... are these the symptoms that I'm having? can anyone tell me...

how do you know when you love and care too much about someone... are these the symptoms that I'm having? can anyone tell me...

it's when a pen makes you smile
it's the song you hear them singing
it's the mutual emotional inability to deal with the end of anything
it's being able to be friends and surviving each others' insanity

 

[mysticsunwolf]

Those feeling you have for her sound wonderful! Good luck with this new found love of yours.

 

[LadyG]

You just know.

 

[nitengale]

You just know.

Exactly.

 

[spiderman09]

how do you know when you heart is broken?

 

[mysticsunwolf]

how do you know when you heart is broken?

It's the worst feeling in the world. You want to die. Because the only thing that matter to you is gone.

 

[spiderman09]

It's the worst feeling in the world. You want to die. Because the only thing that matter to you is gone.

no shit...

 

[mysticsunwolf]

no shit...

Sorry!!! that you are hurting!!

 

[sunstruck]

Here's some really really, really really, really really, good advice.

Do not overcomplicate what is actually a very simple situation.

You like the girl. Ask her out.


Wait...you have actually met this person right?

 

[Paendragon]

no shit...

Is this the same person who you thought you might be in love with?

 

[spiderman09]

Is this the same person who you thought you might be in love with?

yes.. the same one... is sad... but just take a look at the AV....confusion.. is going through my mind...

 

[spiderman09]

Is this the same person who you thought you might be in love with?

yes.. the same one... is sad... but just take a look at the AV....confusion.. is going through my mind...

 

[Paendragon]

yes.. the same one... is sad... but just take a look at the AV....confusion.. is going through my mind...

I'm sorry, man.

Heartbreak can be the single most painful experience in the world.

Especially after you've taken a risk to let your feelings be known. Makes ya feel like you shouldn't have even bothered, doesn't it?

Had to take the chance though. Had to. Otherwise you would have regretted it for a long, long time. Trust me on that.

 

[spiderman09]

I'm sorry, man.

Heartbreak can be the single most painful experience in the world.

Especially after you've taken a risk to let your feelings be known. Makes ya feel like you shouldn't have even bothered, doesn't it?

Had to take the chance though. Had to. Otherwise you would have regretted it for a long, long time. Trust me on that.

Hey thanks man.... I know ...but what are you going to do?... things would get better... I can't blame anyone but myself.. its ok... sometimes we meet people for a reason, for a season or for a lifetime..... I'll survive... it just that it hurts.. but I think that it was better to wake up from that dream... but I wouldn't change it for anything if I had to do it all over again.. it was beautiful for the short time...

 

[sunstruck]

Seriously, did you actually meet her?

 

[spiderman09]

Seriously, did you actually meet her?

we talked a lot on line... and pics...

 

[sunstruck]

we talked a lot on line... and pics...

Ok, I'm not saying you can't fall in love online or anything, but it happens a lot less frequently than people think. Odds are you just got yourself wound up over what you perceived to be a perfect woman simply because you could not see her normal everyday flaws on the internet.

Did you even talk on the phone?

It sounds like maybe you need to take a very large step back from the situation and rethink it.