How do you handle disappoint?

[pink]

I am so sad, I mean really sad. It's not depression just a great deal of sadness. I wanted something badly and it's not going to happen. No, it's not a relationship, I get over those pretty easily. This is just a life disappointment.



I cried last night, today I feel rather numb.


Are you ok with life disappointments? How do you handle them?

 

[Disgustipated]

Two chicks at the same time.

 

[great lover]

I am so sad, I mean really sad. It's not depression just a great deal of sadness. I wanted something badly and it's not going to happen. No, it's not a relationship, I get over those pretty easily. This is just a life disappointment.



I cried last night, today I feel rather numb.


Are you ok with life disappointments? How do you handle them?

Just shut myself in a room and sleep it off. When I wake up, I am feeling great. Also going to Church helps me a lot.

 

[BubblyBookworm]

I am so sad, I mean really sad. It's not depression just a great deal of sadness. I wanted something badly and it's not going to happen. No, it's not a relationship, I get over those pretty easily. This is just a life disappointment.



I cried last night, today I feel rather numb.


Are you ok with life disappointments? How do you handle them?

I'm sorry you're hurting. Sending you a hug. I usually watch funny movies, and call friends.

 

[BotanyBoy]

Two chicks at the same time.

http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mc9ztv5T351rjt9oyo1_500.jpg

 

[great lover]

Two chicks at the same time.

https://tse2.mm.bing.net/th?id=OIP.Me4b310c924c9afbfc1e4b5406daa1158H0&pid=15.1

Yeah their cuteness will make you feel better!

 

[FGB]

Well, it's not like I'm not use to it.

I just keep on keeping on to the next outrage.

 

[Oh_That_Guy]

"Life disappointment" is a pretty broad term. I did not win the powerball and I chalk that up to a life disappointment but I don't dwell on it even a little bit.
On the other hand I once did not get a job I really wanted and even decades later I will think of it and get just a tiny bit pissed.

 

[Hard_Rom]

Are you ok with life disappointments? How do you handle them?

Not okay with them and handle them poorly. When is someone going to get around and change that rule that says life is not fair. Terrible rule!

 

[pink]

Not okay with them and handle them poorly. When is someone going to get around and change that rule that says life is not fair. Terrible rule!

You're right, life isn't fair. Sometimes I forget that.

 

[pink]

"Life disappointment" is a pretty broad term. I did not win the powerball and I chalk that up to a life disappointment but I don't dwell on it even a little bit.
On the other hand I once did not get a job I really wanted and even decades later I will think of it and get just a tiny bit pissed.

Yes, this is a lost job.

 

[pollynova]

I am so sad, I mean really sad. It's not depression just a great deal of sadness. I wanted something badly and it's not going to happen. No, it's not a relationship, I get over those pretty easily. This is just a life disappointment.



I cried last night, today I feel rather numb.


Are you ok with life disappointments? How do you handle them?

*Hugs!*

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I wish I had some advice for you.

 

[Noor]

Hugs Pink!

I don't give up easily and I look at most disappointment as temporary.
I feel it for a while, accept that is what it is then pick the next thing to go after that.

Byron death was a big disappointment as well as being heartbreaking. We made plans for living and work projects that can never be.
I really didn't expect to be living here now, but I had to do something so I made new plans, and started following them kind of by rote until they started to become real.

Disappointments change you so you really need something new to focus on because you can't go back to before.

Good Luck!

 

[Noor]

Yes, this is a lost job.

Get a better one?

 

[silver gurl]

I remember when I was laid off. I went for a job that was a perfect fit. The interviewer said I had the job but he still had scheduled interviews during the day that he had to conduct.
After two weeks, I contacted him as I had heard nothing...I was told I did not get the job and it was on Christmas Eve. I was extremely disappointed.
Better things will come your way Pink. There is a reason for everything.

 

[parodyluvr75]

I hold onto the thought that there is something better waiting for me down the road. I'm sure there is a better opportunity waiting for you.

 

[Ishmael]

I am so sad, I mean really sad. It's not depression just a great deal of sadness. I wanted something badly and it's not going to happen. No, it's not a relationship, I get over those pretty easily. This is just a life disappointment.



I cried last night, today I feel rather numb.


Are you ok with life disappointments? How do you handle them?

No, I'm not OK with them. They wear on your soul, and the more you 'want' the greater the wear.

Me? I go out hunting and if there is no hunting season I go shoot trap. It's like the old "break some dishes" rooms. Relieves the stress.

Ishmael

 

[Setanta84]

I've lived a pretty hard life--I grew up poor, had abusive parents, have a lifelong history of cancer, watched my brother die over the course of several weeks from illness, had the economic collapse happen my senior year of college, and recently had another serious bout of cancer and my fiancee withdraw from our engagement while cheating on me in response to that news. So, I know a few things about disappointment.

When it comes to dealing with that constructively, I've found a lot of solace in the works of Seneca, the teachings of Buddha and Christ, Rilke, and Neil Gaiman, among others. A basic message from each that has helped are itemized below.

Buddha and Rilke on death, loss, and disappointment: Embrace loss and even the very concept that you will someday die. A lot of our anger and disappointment come from the denial of these realities. Accepting them is not defeat or loss but gain and the ultimate victory. In naming what we love and lose, we can hear the Song of Nature and our sense of self, our love, our compassion for others and our appreciation for life itself will deepen and widen.

Seneca and Buddha on anger: Anger is both the result of unrealistic expectations and damaging. Accept loss, let of anger, and try to enjoy what life has to offer before it ends.

Christ on loss and anger: Anger cuts you off from your dialogue with God. Let it go. Accept loss and let your death to the world transform you.

Gaiman and Rilke on art and disappointment: Pain is actually the driving force of art. Use it to make good art.

 

[Aella_]

Mine was the opposite: mollycoddled by my parents.
I used to handle disappointment so badly. My parents wanted me to be a superstar, and I used to care about what other people thought. (narcissism in a nutshell, I know).

But several unpleasant life events made me shift my views and made me interested in other things. Things that can't be easily changed by the day-to day nit'n grit of existence.
Like a friend of mine said: "It might sound a bit gratuituous or harsh what I'm saying right now. But suffering makes you a better person, and a stronger one."

As unpleasant as they were, I'm glad that I had those hurdles in my life. And I would gladly repeat my friend's words of consollation, to anyone else who is in pain, or even to myself, in case it happens again.

 

[bronzeage]

I am so sad, I mean really sad. It's not depression just a great deal of sadness. I wanted something badly and it's not going to happen. No, it's not a relationship, I get over those pretty easily. This is just a life disappointment.



I cried last night, today I feel rather numb.


Are you ok with life disappointments? How do you handle them?

I'm waiting for life's appointments.

 

[LadyVer]

I am so sad, I mean really sad. It's not depression just a great deal of sadness. I wanted something badly and it's not going to happen. No, it's not a relationship, I get over those pretty easily. This is just a life disappointment.

I cried last night, today I feel rather numb.

Are you ok with life disappointments? How do you handle them?

I can't say I handle disappointments consistently. Some are easier to handle than others. It's been my experience, though, that the older I get, disappointments don't almost destroy me as when I was younger. I don't know how to describe it. What destroys one at 20 or 40, is a blip at 60. At 60, one's mortality and making peace with life is more on the horizon than anything else. Hope this makes sense. And at 60, most people have pretty much been beaten by life that they've learned that disappointments in life are the norm, and that everyone at some point will disappoint us, and that the main person who disappoints us is ourselves.

 

[Ishmael]

Mine was the opposite: mollycoddled by my parents.
I used to handle disappointment so badly. My parents wanted me to be a superstar, and I used to care about what other people thought. (narcissism in a nutshell, I know).

But several unpleasant life events made me shift my views and made me interested in other things. Things that can't be easily changed by the day-to day nit'n grit of existence.
Like a friend of mine said: "It might sound a bit gratuituous or harsh what I'm saying right now. But suffering makes you a better person, and a stronger one."

As unpleasant as they were, I'm glad that I had those hurdles in my life. And I would gladly repeat my friend's words of consollation, to anyone else who is in pain, or even to myself, in case it happens again.

A dear friend once asked me if I could turn back the clock, what would I change? I told him I'd get back to him on that. But that was a nagging question that I thought long and hard about. After a week or so we were at his place playing guitar and singing. During a break I said, "Remember that question about what I'd change?"

He nodded affirmatively.

I said, "Nothing. Not a damn thing. I'm the sum total of everything I've seen, heard, tasted, and felt. I thought about the things I missed and the trade offs I'd have to make have missed them. If that much had changed in my life it's improbable that we would be sitting here tonight having the fun we're having. I'm content with being me."

He nodded and asked, "Wanna play "Thunder Road?"

Ishmael

 

[pointless]

if it wasn't for disappointment i wouldn't have any appointments.

 

[Aella_]

A dear friend once asked me if I could turn back the clock, what would I change? I told him I'd get back to him on that. But that was a nagging question that I thought long and hard about. After a week or so we were at his place playing guitar and singing. During a break I said, "Remember that question about what I'd change?"

He nodded affirmatively.

I said, "Nothing. Not a damn thing. I'm the sum total of everything I've seen, heard, tasted, and felt. I thought about the things I missed and the trade offs I'd have to make have missed them. If that much had changed in my life it's improbable that we would be sitting here tonight having the fun we're having. I'm content with being me."

He nodded and asked, "Wanna play "Thunder Road?"

Ishmael

Good points, and the last sentence added a nice touch of humour.

I hate that mindset when one looks towards the past and either blames oneself, or regrets things, instead of looking into how one could improve the future. It eats you from inside.
I used to do it all the time, whenever I experienced disappointments or I was in a bad mood. I hope that I'm better at it, now.

 

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