How do men view sluts?

I only use the term slut if they hearing it, but I look it more as a woman/person who lives thier life for themselves. I’d rather be married to a slut than a nun! I have a nun now and doesn’t want any type of physical touch.

I’d rather have someone that is open minded and willing to explore.
I agree with you there's nothing higher than being married to a kinky slut.
 
I'm sometimes looked down upon when I talk about my situation as a submissive wife. They argue based on their moral standards based on their religion. But the facts show that men who claim to be very religious are actually very morally corrupt. They use religion as a mask to justify their actions. I've had sex several times with my husband's friends, who he says are very pious and religious at home. It turns out their sexual fantasies are very wild, and they seek outlets for those fantasies outside the home. Because their wives can't keep up with their fantasies... please give me your opinion... thanks.
My wife and I are regular swingers, she openly calls herself a 'Cum Slut'
 
I'm sometimes looked down upon when I talk about my situation as a submissive wife. They argue based on their moral standards based on their religion. But the facts show that men who claim to be very religious are actually very morally corrupt. They use religion as a mask to justify their actions. I've had sex several times with my husband's friends, who he says are very pious and religious at home. It turns out their sexual fantasies are very wild, and they seek outlets for those fantasies outside the home. Because their wives can't keep up with their fantasies... please give me your opinion... thanks.
I'm not totally sure what you meant by "the facts show that men who claim to be very religious are actually very morally corrupt". But I don't think anybody comes to Lit looking for an extended logical or semantics argument/discussion, I'll assume it was meant to be taken in a way that was likely to spark such an argument/discussion.

That being the case, here's my take on it. I don't think that a person claiming to be very religious is indicative of moral corruption. But, in my experience, part of human nature is that when you're doing (what you consider) 99% of everything right, it's very easy for someone to give themselves permission to do something else wrong. Especially when you feel surrounded by a bunch of people doing a whole lot wrong, which ends up reenforcing the feeling of - 'yeah, I'm not doing everything right, but I'm the best one here'. I joined the military after college and was in for a huge culture shock. I was a 'very nice guy' before joining, and made an effort to be (because I thought it was the way we're supposed to be). But everyone around me seemed to suck. One of the reasons I was happy to get out after my 4yrs was up was because, while I wasn't acting a whole lot different that I did before joining, I was definitely thinking way differently than before. I think if I stayed in any longer, I would have not liked myself because I knew I was starting to have that feeling of giving myself permission to fuck up. Like I had guys wife's come on to me (not flirting, actually ask me to fuck them and tried to arrange it), and I started considering it. Where as the old me would have immediately dipped out of the situation.
So, I think it's particularly easy to give yourself permission to do something 'wrong' sexually, when you get that feeling of - I'm doing 99% of everything right, so I deserver a reward.

You're situation with your husband and his friends sounds kind of odd though. Just to clarify, does your husband claim to be pious too, or is it just some of his friends that he's 'lent' you to? I'm also curious as to what you mean by their sexual fantasies are very wild. Like when you've had sex with them, what have they asked you to do?
 
I'm starting to think women can judge just as harshly. I'm seeing this older guy, with his wife's approval, she developed MS and wanted him to have a sex partner that she trusted. He doesn't seem to care or question my partners, but his wife sure does. She's always asking me if I've been with anyone else, as if she's wanting reassurance that I'm still the sweet, innocent girl that I appear to be. It makes me uncomfortable so I always answer no. I get this vibe like she'll definitely judge me if I do, and figured it was a boomer thing. Then one time I overheard her talking on the phone to her friend and she mentioned that I was still being his "good little slut" because she thinks that her husband is the only guy I'm sleeping with, but yet she apparently still thinks of me as a slut nonetheless. I didn't take it too personally, I mean, I guess I am. She's still like a second mother to me, so I'm trying to avoid her judgmental side. No one else I know really asks me those kinds of questions and I don't talk about my sex life outside of here, but I do feel the need to lie about my sex life if anyone does ask. Maybe I'll start letting people think that I'm a virgin.
I think the wife could have just meant that since you're obviously not involved with him to get married (which most dating relationships have the potential to turn into), and when you remove future investment from the equation, then that means the 'reward' of the relationship is all about the present interaction. So, by calling you his "good little slut" she might just be saying it to communicate/define the desired boundaries of the relationship, i.e. he (ad apparently his wife) want you to fulfill his sexual needs/wants, and you're happily doing so. It might have just been a matter of fact, comment. Rather than a judgmental one. I mean I would have had to have heard her tone when she said it to make a better guess, I'm just saying it's a possibility.
 
Back
Top