how do men feel?
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Yep, I have been there. A 60 yr old woman, who bounced back and forth from Europe and the US no less than 5 times. She couldn't hold a job, she was combative, she owned her sister $17000, it goes on and on and on. I was at fault too, wife had died and i was weak. But heres the kicker for u guys, for three weeks she couldnt keep her hands off me, after three weeks and she had moved in, dont touch me. Finally i got feed up and kicked her out. I said, never, never again....
I wouldn't pay that price. Even if she was a good friends, I'm afraid that her attitude would put me off, especially if she was really obvious about it and didn't learn very quickly that i wasn't interested in paying towards her life like that. It would be the same with a male friend.
However, if you choose to get yourself involved in that sort of relationship with your eyes open, then good luck to you. I guess you could have a fun time together, which you might consider to be a fair price to pay. Paying for her to have fun on her own or with someone else, though I find pretty hard to understand.
However, if you choose to get yourself involved in that sort of relationship with your eyes open, then good luck to you. I guess you could have a fun time together, which you might consider to be a fair price to pay. Paying for her to have fun on her own or with someone else, though I find pretty hard to understand.
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I rarely find a woman who is given her money as interesting as one who earns her money. A loan for a friend in a bind is perfectly fine but I would rather not adopt a full gown adult who can make her own way in life. Sugar Daddy seems a hollow role to me.
I rarely find a woman who is given her money as interesting as one who earns her money. A loan for a friend in a bind is perfectly fine but I would rather not adopt a full gown adult who can make her own way in life. Sugar Daddy seems a hollow role to me.
To Me a women needs to ask for things, and I find it refreshing that she just doesn't go out and do it on thier own. Of course there is always a bit of give and take.
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Only a fool lets himself be used like this. I've known women who try this on but I don't like it. I give freely if its a mutual relationship but if I feel I'm just being strung along so the supplies don't dry up I'll cut her loose immediately.
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In my limited 60 yrs on this planet, the constant needy woman ,i.e.; sugardaddy type can raise a ton of red flags. It not only about sex, sex, sex, its also about piece of mind and whether you can deal with her emotional baggage or his emotional baggage...someone told me a lot of stuff like this is situational, i totally agree
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If I had the money to spare, and she were amazing in bed, and she were always around to fulfill my needs, it sounds like it might be reasonable to give her something to keep around. Kind of like having a lawyer on retainer or owning a time share. You pay for the right to the use of those items or services.
I know a lot of successful men who spend 12-16 hours a day working, who dont have the time or the patience to deal with having a relationship or having to deal with having someone rearrange their wardrobe and furniture when they are not around.
Some people would call it prostitution, lawyers call it quid pro quo, i call it tit for tat.
As long as both people get what they want out of the "arrangement" I see no problem. It worked for Hillary; she played 1st wife to Bill in exchange for giving up her law career.
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I'd have to say it depends. Speaking for myself, if I give, I'm doing it intentionally and I am getting something in return. Amazingly, the few women I've bought things for, paid bills for, etc, were getting nothing from me in comparison to the demands I placed on them at the time, the times and places I'd call for sex... the things I'd with them sexually... reflecting back, I was a lot more rough and generally demanding of the few women who I've given money and bought things for.
On the other hand, when things are equitable, my expectations are far different and less... intense. There is reciprocity in the picture, if that makes sense. But I do know guys who seem to constantly be behaving as marks - giving money, buying things, and so on, and getting little in return. I don't quite get that.
On the other hand, when things are equitable, my expectations are far different and less... intense. There is reciprocity in the picture, if that makes sense. But I do know guys who seem to constantly be behaving as marks - giving money, buying things, and so on, and getting little in return. I don't quite get that.
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It gets tedious very quickly when it's all want-want-want. If you're referring to the kind of women that I'm thinking of, they are never satisfied with what they have. Shallow and dull people normally. Even the sexiest women aren't hot enough to make up for the annoyance of being with a personality like this!
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thank you gentlemen for taking the time to answer and i appreciate you helping me to understand men a bit better..i have learned a few things and please correct me if i am wrong but from what i understand ... some men not all do not mind paying for things for a woman as long as they are feeling like they have her time and sexual favors in return....other men think as i do that if a woman wants them that she should not be asking for money of any kind...so i guess it is all about what you want in return if you just want a fun no strings relationship then money is a good way to get what you need if you want more then that then her asking for money would never work am i right???? and just in case any one wanted to know how i feel about doing something like this i never would because i would not want to have sex with anyone unless i wanted too..this girl just told me today that she had another man send her $200. telling her he knows she may need money so she is having dinner with this man tonight and yes i am sure other things...i am just surprised that my husband found nothing wrong with her doing these things i think my husband has his own fantasies..lol..
thank you gentlemen for taking the time to answer and i appreciate you helping me to understand men a bit better..i have learned a few things and please correct me if i am wrong but from what i understand ... some men not all do not mind paying for things for a woman as long as they are feeling like they have her time and sexual favors in return....other men think as i do that if a woman wants them that she should not be asking for money of any kind...so i guess it is all about what you want in return if you just want a fun no strings relationship then money is a good way to get what you need if you want more then that then her asking for money would never work am i right???? and just in case any one wanted to know how i feel about doing something like this i never would because i would not want to have sex with anyone unless i wanted too..this girl just told me today that she had another man send her $200. telling her he knows she may need money so she is having dinner with this man tonight and yes i am sure other things...i am just surprised that my husband found nothing wrong with her doing these things i think my husband has his own fantasies..lol..
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Believe it depends on how one feels about the woman. If I liked her and considered her a friend and she needed help I'd be ok with it, at least for a while.
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Don't mind coming to the rescue once or twice but nothing habit forming
Wait...you work with female strippers. Do you need any help?
Seriously, to answer the original question, this girl sounds very materialistic. Obviously one would need to know more as it is tough to pass judgment with little info. But speaking personnally material women are a turn off.
I hate that kind of thing, but I understand that some women think that's the way it should be. A couple of years ago I started a relationship with a woman , London. She was 50, of Nigerian background and very religious. One day she announced that she thought a woman should never have to pay for things, and the man should take care of that. I said 'Fine, give me your salary every month and I'll take care of it.'
Gradually I realised how she came to that point of view. Although she was so religious and shouldn't have been having sex with me anyway, she let me do anything I wanted to her and I think that was her part of the deal. It is a hopelessly outdated attitude, but she just thought that was how things should work.
However, on the other hand there are silly little cows who deserve a smack (metaphorically, of course). Your friend sound like one of those.
Gradually I realised how she came to that point of view. Although she was so religious and shouldn't have been having sex with me anyway, she let me do anything I wanted to her and I think that was her part of the deal. It is a hopelessly outdated attitude, but she just thought that was how things should work.
However, on the other hand there are silly little cows who deserve a smack (metaphorically, of course). Your friend sound like one of those.
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Women have what all guys want I guess, so I out smarted them all by marrying an educated women who makes a very good salary on her own, So I win...lol....Actually it seems to me that the relationship mentioned is not a real stable one. I dont see any future in this, other then he makes more then she does and she is looking to cash in.
To all the young ladies out there just starting out in life, listen to Iheartbrunettes. Being an independent succesful woman is much more becoming to a man then a needy whiny one. Unless the guy is insecure and feels comfort in her needing him, eventually those relationships never last.
I have been married for 16.7 years, been to college, served in the Army, and worked in the auto industry for over ten years. I have an inspired to be a professional writer for most of my life, and I have recently had stuff published in print, and receive compensation for writing web content for informative web sites.
What I am trying to say i guess is that throughout my life, I have seen many different things and have been to many different places. I am here to tell ya that money does not buy happiness, will not stop someone from having an affair, nor will it fix a marriage that is broken.
Be true to yourself, be true to you heart, and if you dont love this woman or she dont love you, then if it were me, I would bail on this chick
Women have what all guys want I guess, so I out smarted them all by marrying an educated women who makes a very good salary on her own, So I win...lol....Actually it seems to me that the relationship mentioned is not a real stable one. I dont see any future in this, other then he makes more then she does and she is looking to cash in.
To all the young ladies out there just starting out in life, listen to Iheartbrunettes. Being an independent succesful woman is much more becoming to a man then a needy whiny one. Unless the guy is insecure and feels comfort in her needing him, eventually those relationships never last.
I have been married for 16.7 years, been to college, served in the Army, and worked in the auto industry for over ten years. I have an inspired to be a professional writer for most of my life, and I have recently had stuff published in print, and receive compensation for writing web content for informative web sites.
What I am trying to say i guess is that throughout my life, I have seen many different things and have been to many different places. I am here to tell ya that money does not buy happiness, will not stop someone from having an affair, nor will it fix a marriage that is broken.
Be true to yourself, be true to you heart, and if you dont love this woman or she dont love you, then if it were me, I would bail on this chick
I think that there's probably a lot of truth behind this statement. However i think it must also depend on the personality of the man. Perhaps any man might get this sort of feeling once or twice. The fatherly protector element seems likely to be a very strong motivation in my opinion. However, I'm not sure it would be enough in itself to continue providing this sort of financial support to that sort of women for very long. Certainly it wouldn't for me. However, for others it may be more important factor. This sort of relationship wouldn't feed my ego for very long.
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Men feel the same way as you do
Its one-sided, its not about paying for what you get. Relationship is the key word - and it doesn't sound like one, more a transaction. Not for me.. happy to buy and treat if its my idea, and its reciprocated...
Its one-sided, its not about paying for what you get. Relationship is the key word - and it doesn't sound like one, more a transaction. Not for me.. happy to buy and treat if its my idea, and its reciprocated...
