how do men feel?

[mary63]

i have a question to all the men out there ....i want to know how do you feel if a woman that you find pretty and fun to be with asks you for things over and over again...such as....concert tickets, money to pay her bills, new shoes, and so on....does being with her make you feel used? or do you see it as no big deal if you are getting what you want?
reason for my question.. i have a girl friend who is like this and i am surprised by how my husband felt about her doing this and i wanted to know if other men felt the same way...thanks ahead of time for any of you who take the time to answer..

 

[No_Reality]

i have a question to all the men out there ....i want to know how do you feel if a woman that you find pretty and fun to be with asks you for things over and over again...such as....concert tickets, money to pay her bills, new shoes, and so on....does being with her make you feel used? or do you see it as no big deal if you are getting what you want?
reason for my question.. i have a girl friend who is like this and i am surprised by how my husband felt about her doing this and i wanted to know if other men felt the same way...thanks ahead of time for any of you who take the time to answer..

as long as everyone knows what they are getting, i see no problem with the "sugar daddy" scenerio

 

[mary63]

i understand

she doesn`t ask for this stuff she just tells them how bad it is and how much she wants it....and they give it to her...if i was a guy i would be pissed...and tell her to f off..lol..but i am not a guy..

 

[clutch1]

Oh, the old i have a girlfriend who does this bit, huh.

I for one would feel like a mark a dupe a patsy. And I have had first hand education in this department.
I have worked with female strippers on and off for the last twenty years and they have told me all the tricks they use to get "presents" out of men.

I don't ever see myself falling for it.

 

[frdrcnjohn]

There are many people that use and be used like this , They are allright with it , I do not agree with it

 

[wigwam25]

thin

Sounds like a pretty thin relationship to me.

 

[mary63]

thank you

i am so glad to hear that!!! i was beginning to wonder if men and women were really that different....because yes it is a friend and she tries this on me even!!! and it pisses me off but i just wont do it ...she is fun but not fun enough to have to pay for her friendship so i would think men would feel the same way...i am glad at least one man feels as i do... thank you for restoring my hope in men!!!...lol..now that said i do not care if men do this with women like her....if they think it is ok then i am glad for them....but from my view point as her friend i feel sorry for the men because i know once they run out of money they are gone...but maybe they know that and don`t care...i just don`t get it..

 

[wild-thing]

One word "manipulative". She should be thrown out with the trash, she has serious issues.

 

[clutch1]

Some guys, if you squeeze the juice out of their nuts a couple of times, they become putty in a girls hands.

 

[windcaster]

I would hope that my instincts would keep me from ever being with a woman as selfish as her. Any guy who would indulge a person like that has problems of their own.

 

[mary63]

thanks guys

thank you for the time you took to answer my post have a good night..

 

[AlwaysSpinning]

I agree with the above answers...but on the flip side if they both know the expectations of the needy relationship...then so be it

 

[Sir Victor]

i have a question to all the men out there ....i want to know how do you feel if a woman that you find pretty and fun to be with asks you for things over and over again...such as....concert tickets, money to pay her bills, new shoes, and so on....does being with her make you feel used? or do you see it as no big deal if you are getting what you want?
reason for my question.. i have a girl friend who is like this and i am surprised by how my husband felt about her doing this and i wanted to know if other men felt the same way...thanks ahead of time for any of you who take the time to answer..

Does he get to go to the concert also, LOL?

But seriously, it depends on a lot of things, $100 or $1000 here and there might not be significant at all to a wealthy person. You don't mention how wealthy he is, are they exclusive, are they almost married? Once married some would expect him to provide for her.

The way you post it, it sounds like a sugar daddy, but who knows there are many different situations.

I am surprised by how many men, not me by the way, will not take a woman out on a dinner date unless they are certain they'll get sex or at least a BJ in return. Mary, do you return the favor when taken out to dinner?

 

[clutch1]

thank you for the time you took to answer my post have a good night..

That's it.
Now I feel used for answering.

 

[kaycee217]

as long as everyone knows what they are getting, i see no problem with the "sugar daddy" scenerio

Basically what he (she?) said.

I would not stand for a woman using me this way, but I do not find it morally or otherwise wrong.

"Business is business."

*shrugs shoulders*

 

[denali]

I think there's a huge difference in a guy wanting to give gifts (when they are genuinely given as gift) and a girl expecting/demanding to be given things.

If I have to buy your friendship or company, then I'd rather be alone.

 

[Oliver_Klozoff]

Once or twice I might think, "Oh! She really likes (fill in the name of the concert performer)!" and get her the tickets, but if it was clear it was a pattern, I'd start responding with "hints" like, "I'd really like to have the head of my cock in someone's throat past her tonsils."

And then it would be clear whether or not it was a relationship where each of us tried to help the other fulfill his or her hopes, dreams, and aspirations, or if it was a relationship where we just shared our gripes about things we wanted but were not likely ever to get.

 

[alekhorn]

I don't feel to bad about having sex with a prostitute

 

[ChinaBandit]

In my opinion

You pay for a woman one way or the other.

If married, they are still in your wallet. I consider it the natural order.

Today the female need is cash. At the dawn of man it was the protection and shelter we provided. The strong male, be it physically or via economics, gets the most pie. I don't care as long as the woman lets me do whatever I want when she is with me.

So, "if you don't know. Now you know, Nigger." The Notorious B.I.G.

 

[jamievmvm]

As said, a fool and his/her money are soon gone

 

[StarGazer58]

Some guys like the arm candy and willing to pay for it. I would not put up with that from a woman no matter how pretty she is but if the guy is willing then so be it.

 

[dsrtfox1942]

When I am in a relationship with a woman, she can expect I will provide for her. She will never have to worry about small stuff. I pay for meals, movies, etc...etc... If the two people are close and trusting, they should know the answer to their question, so there should be no weird feelings about asking for money or something. If I truly care about and trust the person, I would have no problem buying her what she wants as long as it wasn't made a habit of. I will not, however, find myself in a relationship where I must buy a woman's heart or be used by a woman for her needs, and her needs alone.

 

[hungry666]

Timing

it all comes down to timing....constant "I want. or I wish I had...." is bothersome, but not as much as " will you buy me....". Also, first thing when you get together is the WORST timing. It sets the mood (negative) for the remainder of the time together...or gets me thinking afterwards.

 

[TriumphGuy]

I don't make enough money to be a sugar daddy.

 

[iHeartMe]

Oh, the old i have a girlfriend who does this bit, huh.

I for one would feel like a mark a dupe a patsy. And I have had first hand education in this department.
I have worked with female strippers on and off for the last twenty years and they have told me all the tricks they use to get "presents" out of men.

I don't ever see myself falling for it.

aww so me asking you to buy me a ring is out of the question? lol