How Do Indian Men Feel About American Women?

[Guest]

I work with an Indian man. He is married and has 2 children. He was born in India, now lives in America, and he is is his 40's.

Our relationship is first professional. He is a well respected physician in our community. We have developed a special friendship, we talk about our families, and we tell each other stories, and joke around alot.

I am very attracted to him, he is on my mind all the time. If I don't see him for a long time he remembers somthing about our past conversation. He is very respectful of me and others. Our relationship is always appropriate and he is a lot of fun. I can't help but think that he might be attracted to me as well. I sense, however, that I will never know his true feelings for me. I am sure that it will remain unspoken between us, out of dignity for myself and him I would never venture there. I would not want to ruin the relationship I have with him. But there is chemistry between us and I definately feel it. He makes a point to come into contact with me when he sees me, and he laughs and smiles all the time when he is around me.

Now my many questions.....Can this man be truly happy in his marriage? How do Indian men feel about American women, What do they see as beautiful in American women? Maybe this is all a "man thing" and not an Indian issue specifically. Please enlighten me.

 

[KillerMuffin]

That's three today, Yoyo.

Don't make me start quoting Indian pornography at you.

 

[Guest]

~~~~~
I've been spending most of life
Livin' in the lesbos paradise
- Coolio
~~~~~

 

[Siren]

 

[KillerMuffin]

Nah, Yaya porno features immediate family members doing dirty things to each other. He likes to drop his lund in his "brother's" choot.

I swear, these people bring new meaning to perversion.

 

[Blackbich]

~~~~~
I've been spending most of life
Livin' in the lesbos paradise
- Coolio
~~~~~

Ha Ha Ha...

 

[Guest]

 

[KillerMuffin]

Don't you mean:

"Ireland, I hear your pain, self."

Doesn't it get old trying to pretend to be someone else when everyone already knows that it's you anyway? That's pretty much the height of stupidity, Yoyo.

 

[Siren]

 

[Saint Peter]

Nah, Yaya porno features immediate family members doing dirty things to each other. He likes to drop his lund in his "brother's" choot.

I swear, these people bring new meaning to perversion.

LMAO!!

 

[Guest]

Ha Ha Ha...

Hi.

 

[Guest]

Well..I'm here to say that it is a difficult thing to get over or through. If I could turn it off like a switch I would. I know that it is wrong. I am only simply trying to untangle feelings and emotions about it.

I am a decent and honorable person or I would have already dove head first into this, on my lunch hour...please. I absolutely know I am not the first married person who has ever had feelings like this. I obviously have complete control over my emotions, otherwise I would have already indulged.

My life continues despite the feelings that I have, this has not stopped it. I am a very busy mother, and wife as well as professional. Just because I have feelings like this does not mean I am any less of a person, or that I lack integrity. It is integrity that has kept me where I am...Married.

What do I want? I can't tell the depths of my feelings to friends, they wouldn't understand. I certainly won't tell my husband because he would feel hurt and rejected, and would probably lose confidence in himself. So I grapple with it here among strangers. So what do I want? To know that my feelings might be mutual, to know that I might be as adored as he is. To know that if it had been a different lifetime or situation that we might have been together. It is a fantasy. I will get over it eventually. I hope that there are others out there that understand.

 

[Siren]

 

[Guest]

I have been around this Indian man a lot lately. He seems to be happy all the time, kind of like me. He always gives me this sly smile, I love it. What an incredible warmth and kindness he possesses. I really care about him, he is very special to me. I know that I am special to him, I feel it in my heart, and then there is the chemistry..it is incredible.

I sometimes wish that he would stumble upon this site, read these entries and figure out that it is him. It's not that hard to figure out for him, esp if he pays attention to my identity. Also, I don't live in the New England States but Midwest States. He is incredibly beautiful inside and out from what I know, but my heart tells me the rest about him.

Oh and yes my life goes on as usual, I have put this in perspective. I cannot change the way I feel about him and I don't want to, but my life will go on. If ever there would be a season for us in the future, if the timing and circumstances were right, maybe we could be...I feel it in my heart and soul.

 

[Siren]

 

[islandman]

What's say we all get together and buy yayati some lithium for X-mas?

 

[Freya]

Funny......how these yaya induced personalities never respond to our postings and just continue to post drival after drival as if uniterrupted.

How many other identities does this person have anyways...I've only been here a short time and Ive seen at least 10.

 

[perks]

does he celebrate x-mas?

if he does I know where he can get a tree, or a trunk at least. *laughing*

 

[Siren]

 

[islandman]

does he celebrate x-mas?

if he does I know where he can get a tree, or a trunk at least. *laughing*

I got your trunk right here............(said with a Brooklyn accent)

 

[Siren]

 

[Guest]

Siren:

I am making it complicated. I don't want to push this issue with him, and come out straightforwardly and ask him. I did think about his unwillingness/reluctance as well. He seems to becomes nervous and he says awkward things sometimes, just talks to talk, repeats himself etc..when he is around me, and he has initiated the conversation. So that may be another reason why he is reluctant. I always want him to be in the "comfort zone" when he is around me. If I approached him that straight forwardly...I am afraid it might send him over the edge!

I have noticed one thing about him in all my observations..when I don't pay as much attention to him, I get more attention from him. I crave his attention, and it kills me to be cool with him. But I will do it, if it means he might take a little step.

I have a great respect and admiration for this man, I adore him. I am attracted to him in every way. My senses go into overload when I am around him. But I am a very controlled person as is he, which adds to the complications, he probably doesn't even realize how large this really is.

I am grateful that I can pour out my heart and feelings in this forum, without being identified. So what I say are simply "my feelings", and they are complex but honest. I know it could be incredibly exciting, I can only imagine. I also know it could be devastating, and it is so wrong. I just wish I could change the way I feel.

 

[perks]

I got your trunk right here............(said with a Brooklyn accent)

oh so now, it's mine? you're so generous.

 

[Siren]

 

[Saint Peter]

Just another arsonist mastUrbating at the scene of a fire.