How can i make a girl more open about Sex?

[Milk]

I'm not talking bondage, fetishes etc.. hehe


She's a few years older than me, but more reluctant to try new things...


I tried talking and everything, heh..

Anything i can say/do?

Thanks

 

[Bandit58]

Is she shy?

If she is anything like me then it's probably not reluctance but shyness that is stopping her. I've been with my lover quite a few times now and I still blush.....he finds it endearing and he's really enjoyed showing me things I've never done before (which was most of them )

Trust is the key.....I absolutely know that he loves me so much and he'd never do anything I don't like. The one rule we have is "no hurting". And I know that I can say stop at any time and he'll stop no question.

Take your time, be gentle, talk to her....it worked for me

 

[xx_La_Reina_xx]

Re: Is she shy?

If she is anything like me then it's probably not reluctance but shyness that is stopping her.

Trust is the key....

Take your time, be gentle, talk to her....it worked for me

I agree with Bandit. I don't think there are any "magic words" that you can use to get her to suddennly start openning up. It is a matter of building trust through communication. It may just take time and constant reassurance that you are there for her, and really just want to open the door to new experiences together, as a couple.

Be careful not to push the issue too much that she feels obligated to do something she really doesn't want to do. Feelings like that can really do serious harm to a relationship....

TAlk TALK TALK TALK TALK....it's the best thing you can do....

 

[lovechild27]

I know I wont talk about sex with someone I am not fully comftorable with. That may be the case. Ask her, and respect her decision. She may just not be very open about her sex life! That doesnt mean she will be bad in bed. She is just private. So try asking her if she is just shy. You cant make her talk if she doesnt want to!

 

[sexcandy]

You can't "make" anything happen that your partner does not want. My advice, keep the lines of communication open.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

when she's more comfortable with it (sex, the new ideas, etc) she'll be ready to move on some into doing new things. and she may even surprise you at some point.

 

[juicylips]

Patience.

Be sensitive to her moods. There might be times when she feels more sexual and therefore open to new things.
jl

 

[Lust Engine]

They say patience is a virtue.

Be patient, talk openly & honestly is about the best I can suggest. Let her know that you might be interested in certain things, but don't rush her and let her know that if she's not into it, you're okay with it. Lay it out there for her to follow... she might tag along eventually.

But communicate, communicate, communicate!

Did I mention communicate??

 

[DevilBoy79]

I'm not talking bondage, fetishes etc.. hehe


She's a few years older than me, but more reluctant to try new things...


I tried talking and everything, heh..

Anything i can say/do?

Thanks

like any other response to a thread like this, communicate with her, talk about things, likes dislikes ,curiosities stuff like that, she will eventually open up and tell you

 

[DevilBoy79]

Re: Re: How can i make a girl more open about Sex?

like any other response to a thread like this, communicate with her, talk about things, likes dislikes ,curiosities stuff like that, she will eventually open up and tell you

p.s. same goes for the guys ladies

 

[ClubIrish]

Everyone is right, when she is ready it will happen.

 

[bunny bondage]

just recently, i posted a similar question. the advice i was given was to drop hints specific to the "new things" i wanted to try. introduce the subject lightly, jokingly, allowing your partner an easy "out" if they're not interested. also, you could try showing your partner stories from lit involving the "things" (whatever those may be, i must admit i'm pretty curious by this point!)