How big does it REALLY need to be?

[drovkin]

I'm a 20 year old with a rather average penis. It's only about 6.2 inches long and the pretty average 5 inches of girth. To top it all off I have a mild case of premature ejactulation, where whenever I have sex with my girlfriend, i usually go for a couple of mins, have to stop completely and have a "mini-orgasm" where nothing comes out, but I still have one, and then I can proceed to have sex for a while without stopping, but because of that orgasm, I can't have a raging hard-on like when we started. Now, I have an absolutely loving girlfriend, who would never tell me otherwise if I didn't please her or not, and my past girlfriends have always kinda gone sex crazy on me after they first had sex with me. My question is, how can I get over this fear that I'm completely not pleasing my girlfriend? I have this thought in my head for a guy to please a girl, you have to have a 6.8 inch penis and be able to go for 30 min hardcore pumping without having to stop. Or is there anything I can do to increase endurance to at least get that part of my confidence back? It just really effects my love-life to ALWAYS have this on my mind. Any advice out there would be greatly appreciated.

Now that I read this, I notice it doesn't really talk about my subject that much How big does the penis really need to be for the girl to have a great deal of pleasure? I've watched my fair share of porn movies, and of course I realize it's a porn, but I wouldn't mind being able to make my girlfriend moan like some of those women do, and I feel that I won't be able to with as small as I am...

 

[Ms_Lilith]

1) wear condoms.. they decrease sensitivity some

2) use lots of lube, for the same reason as above

3) go slow.... take your time pleasing her in ways other than with your penis.. use your hands, mouth, feet, arms, legs, hair, anything... explore every inch of her.

4) if all else fails, get a cock ring.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

oh and: I've been with men whose cocks were anywhere from 5.5 to 8.5 inches long. It's really not the size, it's how thoughtful of a lover you are.

 

[Ham Murabi]

This is the first time I've ever seen dick sizes with decimal points.
Maybe that's your problem.

 

[fond of facials]

Cock rings are fun!

Anyway, it's not the size that matters. A guy who doesn't pay attention to what his lovers needs are (emotional and physical) is going to be a lousy lover no matter what his size. You obviously love your girlfriend or you wouldn't care so much. That makes you a great lover in my book. I'm sure in her's too.

 

[nasty1]

Ah. I just fucking love these thread taht start out by saying "it's only about 6.2." ONLY!!!!!! Wanan trade penises?

 

[teddybear4play]

The more you worry, the worse you perform. Relax.

TB4p

 

[Angel]

Do men actually spread em wide and measure their hang with a ruler to the exact decimal?

 

[Guest]

 

[bknight2602]

Do men actually spread em wide and measure their hang with a ruler to the exact decimal?

Not all of us are that anal.

My advice is to learn to relax and control the urges. With a loving partner anything may be accomplished.

 

[Samuari]

Its my experance that intent is more important than either size or skill. If your primary purpose is to give your lover pleasure, than you will find ways to do that, weather it is masaging her feet, licking her clit, or fucking her silly.

Another thing, as you get more experance with each other, sex almost transend the physical pleasure, it becomes almost telepathic, you know that she needs to be touched right there, right now. Size will have very little to do with it.

 

[weed]

Size means nothing. Besides you're not small.

Especially if you're going to be so anal

Consider getting yourself off an hour before making love. The next hard-on lasts longer from what I've heard.

Get her off with something besides your well-measured item first.

Talk to her about it. Good pillow talk if you ask me.

 

[teddybear4play]

Do men actually spread em wide and measure their hang with a ruler to the exact decimal?

I've never measured my penis and don't have the desire to.

And since most rulers break down into fractions of inches, rather than decimals, he's had to have had a really accurate reading.

TB4p

 

[Cheyenne]

I've never measured my penis and don't have the desire to.

Never? Isn't that like claiming you've never masturbated?

 

[BgMma]

Never? Isn't that like claiming you've never masturbated?

ROFLMAO!!

Sorry, TB, but that is fucking hilarious!

Actually, I would be interested in TB's measurements......just for the curiosity value!

Nah, honey, there is so much good advice here. Fine something that works for you and go with it, or try a combination of things!

Hanns, you do realise that the ones who brag the most have the least?
Am I the only one who has figured that out yet?

 

[brokenbrainwave]

I've never measured my penis and don't have the desire to.

nor have I. The Japanese have yet to perfect a ruler that small. Yet I have a damned 5 inch tv for the car, go figure.

 

[BgMma]

nor have I. The Japanese have yet to perfect a ruler that small. Yet I have a damned 5 inch tv for the car, go figure.

Man, listen to you!

It seems like most of the guys I know think they are really small. It is funny in a way.

Doesn't anyone realise that you don't have to be Peter North to have a dick that is nice?

Nice to see, nice to play with, nice to fuck..........as long as you know what you are doing, or at least make the effort, I have no issues!

 

[brokenbrainwave]

bgmma, it was self depricating humor. Really, I a hung like a horse.


(shetlands are horses, right???)

 

[BgMma]

bgmma, it was self depricating humor. Really, I a hung like a horse.


(shetlands are horses, right???)

Pssst, I know that......LOL

I was just making a point..
Shetland pony, eh?

 

[weed]

ROFLMAO!!

Sorry, TB, but that is fucking hilarious!

Actually, I would be interested in TB's measurements......just for the curiosity value!

Nah, honey, there is so much good advice here. Fine something that works for you and go with it, or try a combination of things!

Hanns, you do realise that the ones who brag the most have the least?
Am I the only one who has figured that out yet?

Micro-dick?

Isn't that a clit?

 

[BgMma]

Micro-dick?

Isn't that a clit?

 

[brokenbrainwave]

Shetland pony, eh?

yeah, but the flies really piss me the hell off

 

[teddybear4play]

Never? Isn't that like claiming you've never masturbated?

No. I freely admit I've masturbated.

I've never measured my penis. Seriously. I'm smaller than what passes for "average" in most publications I've read, and certainly smaller than porn stars and most male characters in erotica. If I quantify my smallness in that department with a number, I'll be as neurotic as the guy who started this thread, and I'll spend every minute wondering, "Gee, my penis is only ___ inches long, can I even sexually satisfy a woman?"

It's the same reason why I don't step on my bathroom scale in the morning. Better to live in blissful ignorance of one number than drive myself insane.

Plus, it's just fuckin' weird to me to be so self-absorbed and shallow to want to measure that one body part, as if nothing else mattered about me, or my lovemaking ability, than the crude dimensions of my penis.

It's bigger than my finger, and smaller than a baseball bat. There. Happy now?

TB4p

 

[Lancecastor]

bgmma, it was self depricating humor. Really, I a hung like a horse.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Oh Christ Lance..... where do you find this shit?