Hookin' up via the web ...

[saxetman]

Thanks for the hug Bi! ((((((((BiFem))))))), back at you.

Blue, you know one part of your message struck me. You love each other but are not in love with each other. Very few people who have been married as long as you and your husband would say they are in love with each other. Time and life have a way of doing that to a relationship, the key point is that you still love each other. When both people agree that they are part of the problem, and they work on the issue that affects the other person, then things start to get done. Glad to hear you two sat down and talked, and were open about what is going on. Keep the faith and work hard, you just might find a marriage again!

 

[BlueDaisy]

Thanks for the hug Bi! ((((((((BiFem))))))), back at you.

Blue, you know one part of your message struck me. You love each other but are not in love with each other. Very few people who have been married as long as you and your husband would say they are in love with each other. Time and life have a way of doing that to a relationship, the key point is that you still love each other. When both people agree that they are part of the problem, and they work on the issue that affects the other person, then things start to get done. Glad to hear you two sat down and talked, and were open about what is going on. Keep the faith and work hard, you just might find a marriage again!

Thanks, Sax. You could be right. But I fear that irreparable damage may have been done. He is not interested in me physically/sexually at my size now; I fear that if I have the surgery and lose the weight, he will be attracted to me again and I will resent him for it. I don't want to, but that is what I fear, because I am very, very hurt by his rejection now.

Blue

 

[saxetman]

Thanks, Sax. You could be right. But I fear that irreparable damage may have been done. He is not interested in me physically/sexually at my size now; I fear that if I have the surgery and lose the weight, he will be attracted to me again and I will resent him for it. I don't want to, but that is what I fear, because I am very, very hurt by his rejection now.

Blue

I am not sure what to write back at this point, you make sure accurate statements. I am just rubbing my chin and searching for an answer. I don't have one, so maybe the best thing at this point is to just listen. What ever you need to say or do, I am here for you.

 

[BlueDaisy]

I am not sure what to write back at this point, you make sure accurate statements. I am just rubbing my chin and searching for an answer. I don't have one, so maybe the best thing at this point is to just listen. What ever you need to say or do, I am here for you.

I appreciate your concern, Sax. But don't rub your chin raw worrying about this. Just knowing that I've got folks to talk to about it helps. I do appreciate you.

Blue

 

[saxetman]

I appreciate your concern, Sax. But don't rub your chin raw worrying about this. Just knowing that I've got folks to talk to about it helps. I do appreciate you.

Blue

I am here for you in whatever way you need!

 

[BlueDaisy]

I am here for you in whatever way you need!

Thanks. And I think I know what way you're hoping I need. lol

Blue

 

[saxetman]

Thanks. And I think I know what way you're hoping I need. lol

Blue

Mmm, I already know that you NEED that! It is a general statement, I am here for you, no matter what you need!

 

[saxetman]

BUMP!

 

[Native Alien]

saxetman,

here is another hip bump because i feel that this thread has some

very valid points...the only thing that bothers me is that women

say that they want to be safe, but not once did i hear any of them

say that they had taken any kind of self-defence course..yes i do,

and yes i am....and yes i have several times and i have not

regretted one meeting....

 

[~*EroticKiss*~]

I have met one person...from the "Web" that I got down and nasty with...years ago...I tend to be very picky about who I hook up with.

but, I have met alot of others that Im just friends with, and we hang out at concerts together...

 

[BlueDaisy]

Mmm, I already know that you NEED that! It is a general statement, I am here for you, no matter what you need!

Hi Sax; I know you are and I appreciate that.

Native Alien...I've thought about self defense classes for a long time, but just never got around to it...yeah, I know...I should have done it instead of thought about it. Now I can't do much of anything because of my knee, until I have the surgery to take care of it. Bummer. But you are right about it...an excellent suggestion.

Blue

 

[Native Alien]

actually Blue if you go to the instructor before the class and explain the situation they can teach you things to do that will work around the knee problem...

i have a very bad knee and we work around it all the time...

 

[BlueDaisy]

actually Blue if you go to the instructor before the class and explain the situation they can teach you things to do that will work around the knee problem...

i have a very bad knee and we work around it all the time...

Interesting. Thanks for the info.

Blue

 

[saxetman]

Interesting. Thanks for the info.

Blue

Sooooo, are you going to check it out?

 

[saxetman]

Bump!

 

[BlueDaisy]

Sooooo, are you going to check it out?

Sometime maybe.

Blue

 

[saxetman]

Hello All!

I would like to wish everyone a very merry Christmas and Happy New Year. May the season bring you happiness, joy and peace. Enjoy and be careful and watch out for that other person! This will be my last message until next Friday, Have a good one!

Saxetman

 

[RomanHans]

Poll analysis

Well, last I checked there were 61 responses, which is getting towards a reasonably-sized sample if you're into stats (notwithstanding the self-selection bias!). Looks like men are more likely to have met one woman or three or more women on-line, but not two, while women are less likely to have met three or more men on-line. Guess that's not too surprising, and with that distribution, I guess it's no wonder that a lot of men have never 'hooked up' over the Web...

Happy holiday season to you all!

Roman

 

[saxetman]

Hi All! Bump!

 

[saxetman]

Bump!

 

[saxetman]

Needs another Bump!

 

[saxetman]

Looks like this thread is dead also, no one is scoring off the net?

 

[Native Alien]

yea sax, people are scoring off the net. the problem is that many don't want to say so because they are afraid of the looks or words that they might get from friends and family who don't understand it.

that and the fact that some people are just don't want the world to know of their failures. but i figure it this way, nothing ventured, nothing gained.

plus you are still dealing with the "urban legends" thing about women meeting someone online and then arranging to meet that person in real life and getting murdered.

 

[saxetman]

yea sax, people are scoring off the net. the problem is that many don't want to say so because they are afraid of the looks or words that they might get from friends and family who don't understand it.

that and the fact that some people are just don't want the world to know of their failures. but i figure it this way, nothing ventured, nothing gained.

plus you are still dealing with the "urban legends" thing about women meeting someone online and then arranging to meet that person in real life and getting murdered.

I would agree, the thing with meeting someone from the net is to talk a long time and then only meet at a public place to start.