Homework Assignments

[articfront2000]

Hello everyone. I am writing this to see if there might be any ladies or gentlemen who could help this guy to write sexual homework for my spouse.

Some history; My wife is very conservative when it comes to sex. I was her first at age 24. We are both now 42. She has not been one to experiment or try different things. Our sex life has been tame and infrequent. We have gone for months at a time without. If i dont instigate then we do not have any at all. The longest period was over 6 months. I might mention that she is a Psychiatrist and at times i tease her that she is Lillith Crane from Frasure.

I love to watch her orgasm and know she loves it as well but has a hard time closing her mind to life and opening her mind and body.

Several months ago a friend of mine gave me a game to play to help open her mind and get her to relax and enjoy sex.

The game: we both stripped and stood accross the room. We did rock paper sissors. I won and then had her do something to herself. Then she told me to do something to myself. We each then took a step closer to each other. We continued this till we were next to each other and then i moved to kiss her but held back. She kissed me. I forgot to mention that the one who touched the other first looses. The winner gets to tell the looser how the will orgasm.

Well this was wonderful. She really enjoyed the game. Since then we have played pictionary where the one who didnt get the clues had to perform a action for the other. This was her idea and we both loved it. The sex was wonderful and she had a wonderful orgasm.

I have also had her do homework where she must masturbate for a period of time. She says that she has never made herself orgasm while masturbating.

Two weeks ago she went to a business dinner and i had a paper for her to read when she got home. Me and the kids were out for a while so she had some time alone. She had to get the Rabbitt that i bought her and masturbate to orgasm. and then shower and get dressed with no underwear. When we came home she was just getting dressed. Needlsess to say our sex that night was incredible. and yes she did orgasm with the rabbitt.

Two days later she came home from a dinner and i had a note on the door. She had to get undressed and then choose. 1. go outside and swim and then lay out for a few minutes and then come upstairs or 2. go upstairs and shower and then put on a mask and lay on the bed. She choose 1. and once again our sex was wonderful.

Two days ago i told her that when she left the office to remove her underwear and come home that way. Well she did this and the sex was so so. better than in the past but not as good as it has been recently.

Talking with her she likes the assignments and has told me she is a control person and like the idea of being under my control. She is definately not into BDSM or pain and has laid down some limits.

My problem is this. I need some more homework assignment ideas.

Your ideas and help would be appreciated. I will post a response to the ideas i use and let you know their outcome.

Thank you.

 

[silverwhisper]

dude, that's great!

some assignments do come to mind--i just hope you haven't already done them:

1. might i suggest a card game, where instead of money, you wager time, in whatever increments you like. you both start w/ something like an hour or so, then make your wagers as you might in any other card game (e.g., poker). the loser spends that amount of time under the control of the winner and must obey all instructions without hesitation. this does 2 things: 1) plays to the control angle, and 2) lets you nurture the trust you have with one another.

2. buy a book of erotica, preferably short stories. her assignment: read it cover to cover without masturbating, then select one particular story or passage she'd like to re-enact.

3. have her write down--no, type up--a sexual fantasy she has not yet expressed to you.

ed

 

[chris9]

Maybe you can get some of those balls where there's another ball inside that moves around to put inside her pussy (don't know what they are called in English). Then take her for a walk, or prepare the dinner together, clean the house.
Have her pick out some favourite stories (from Lit) that turned her on.

 

[articfront2000]

Thanks for the ideas. I like the card game part. The balls probably wont fly. But who knows ill make it a part of a choice assignment.

What would be nice is some ideas on how i can get her to get intouch with her own sexuality. So far she says she doesnt have any fantasies. I just think she is closing her mind to her sexuality.

 

[silverwhisper]

that kinda change has to come from within but i imagine you already know that. i have a great deal of difficulty believing that she doesn't have any sexual fantasies, to be honest. is it possible she's repressing them, for whatever reason? is there any chance she's concerned you won't be accepting of them?

given what you've said, i can only reiterate the idea re: a book of erotica short stories. perhaps they'll fire her imagination.

ed

 

[articfront2000]

Silver, I too have a hard time believing she doesnt have any fantasies. As far as my acceptance of them well lets just say that i love her and would be more than willing to accept any of them. This may be the problem. It may be that she knows that i would not reject them and she is afraid of her own actions.

I have had her read a story or two on here and it does have some impact. My biggest problem is getting her to relax and open up. She is like a flower at times and when she opens up she is absolutely amazing.

 

[oxphocker]

Get her on Lit! There should enough stuff here to get her started with stories Maybe even turn it into a game where she has to pick a story from each category and decide which one she likes best...

 

[Lynxie]

One thought that comes to mind is to either have her read a variety of different types of stories here on Lit, or watch a variety of different types of porn films. If she reads about or sees different sexual scenarios, maybe it will help her realize what her own fantasies are, and hopefully find a way to express them to you.

 

[SlyKitten]

Make sure she understands fantasy does not equal reality; she can think of the weirdest things, it's ok, she doesn't have to realize them.

I think sharing your fantasies could help her open up: write one of yours and leave her an assignment: Read the following scenario and write your side of the story. How did the scenario make you feel? What would you have done differently? What did you like? What didn't you like?

Take it a step further, asking her to think of a sexually exciting scenario, masturbate to it and report on what the scenario was, who was there with her? what did he/she do? where was this scenario taking place (a hotel room, a dark alley, a bed covered in rose petals)? How did she touch herself, how did the fantasy evolve once she started to touch herself and so on.

 

[glynndah]

If she doesn't have any fantasies or doesn't want to admit to them, why not have her write out one of her own sexual encounters, perhaps in the third person?