I thought I'd share an intersting conversation I had with all of you. I have a friend who is/was a priest. He is still ordained, but is not now and doesn't plan to be affiliated with a church in the future. He's really a lot of fun, and open minded and eager to hear about just about everything because he looks at it as an education. I don't think there's anything I couldn't tell him.
Now, we all know that there are a lot of different view points about we BDSMers among the 'nilla world, and even among ourselves. I've heard more negatives from people who either don't understand what BDSM is about, or don't have an interest in it themselves. The bulk of these being that we're somehow sick, perverted, insecure, abusers or the abused, child molesters, potential rapists...the list goes on.
But...speaking with my friend I finally "came out" as a masochist/submissive, and he wasn't the least bit taken aback. I was taken aback by that. We talked a little about the physical aspect, but more about the emotional...what it means to me to submit, why I do it, what need it fulfills, how my partner feels about it, that sort of thing.
Then he really floored me. In his teachings, BDSM play is looked upon as perfectly normal foreplay...something that's normal if you don't do it, but also normal if you do. He said that when he was a priest, many individuals and couples came to him, having already engaged in or wanting to engage in all different "levels" of BDSM, from tying silk scarves loosely just for the fantasy, to full on suspension bondage and electroplay. Most of the had the same concern...am I normal? Is there something wrong with me?
So, maybe we're the majority and the 'nillas are the minority? Isn't that a thought?
I just found the whole thing quite fascinating, especially from a religious figure...
Now, we all know that there are a lot of different view points about we BDSMers among the 'nilla world, and even among ourselves. I've heard more negatives from people who either don't understand what BDSM is about, or don't have an interest in it themselves. The bulk of these being that we're somehow sick, perverted, insecure, abusers or the abused, child molesters, potential rapists...the list goes on.
But...speaking with my friend I finally "came out" as a masochist/submissive, and he wasn't the least bit taken aback. I was taken aback by that. We talked a little about the physical aspect, but more about the emotional...what it means to me to submit, why I do it, what need it fulfills, how my partner feels about it, that sort of thing.
Then he really floored me. In his teachings, BDSM play is looked upon as perfectly normal foreplay...something that's normal if you don't do it, but also normal if you do. He said that when he was a priest, many individuals and couples came to him, having already engaged in or wanting to engage in all different "levels" of BDSM, from tying silk scarves loosely just for the fantasy, to full on suspension bondage and electroplay. Most of the had the same concern...am I normal? Is there something wrong with me?
So, maybe we're the majority and the 'nillas are the minority? Isn't that a thought?
I just found the whole thing quite fascinating, especially from a religious figure...
Thanks for the info.
