help with help

[Boundlife]

I live in a nursing home. My sister has gotten me a (hitachi?) wand. I'm getting ready for when I have it. I will need my legs repositioned, my toy plugged in and handed to me, and a "do not disturb" sign put on the door. There are aids who I would never ask, a couple I know will help and a lot of maybes. I'll be talking to the nursing manger today so there are no suprises.
I have asked a few of the maybes if they would be Ok with helping me get situated. Two were worried about the regulations, 2 were uncomfortable with it.
This morning I got a no with a lecture on respecting others feelings. Almost all didn't really listen to me and thought I wanted help Using my toy (I like the girls but lesbian sex does nothing for me).
I'm making a list of people Ok with to ask.
I'm getting the green light from management.
I'll have a sign and stick to light traffic times.

Am I forgeting any thing?
Am I being disrespectful?

 

[Guest]

no your not being disrespectful you have sexual needs and you should be allowed to express those needs in a manner of your own choosing.

 

[SweetErika]

I think you're being very respectful. It's probably just that masturbation is seen as an incredibly private thing by most, and that's likely what's making some of the staff uncomfortable. I know they help residents with other private things like bathing and using the restroom, but they're probably not used to dealing with this particular issue, and may need time and explanation to understand you need some basic assistance with helping yourself prepare to fulfill this need in private. And that's how I'd explain it, just so there are no misunderstandings.

Does your sister visit you? If so, is it possible she could help you get ready, then step out of your room while you enjoy yourself?

The only other thing you might be overlooking is how will your toy be cleaned when you're done with it? Is that something you can do yourself, or will you need help getting it ready to go for the next time?

 

[Boundlife]

I think you're being very respectful. It's probably just that masturbation is seen as an incredibly private thing by most, and that's likely what's making some of the staff uncomfortable. I know they help residents with other private things like bathing and using the restroom, but they're probably not used to dealing with this particular issue, and may need time and explanation to understand you need some basic assistance with helping yourself prepare to fulfill this need in private. And that's how I'd explain it, just so there are no misunderstandings.

Does your sister visit you? If so, is it possible she could help you get ready, then step out of your room while you enjoy yourself?

The only other thing you might be overlooking is how will your toy be cleaned when you're done with it? Is that something you can do yourself, or will you need help getting it ready to go for the next time?

Most of the residents are elderly, there are also 2 people my age who are in vegetative state. I'm the only one with this issue.

I can't even roll over myself. They dress me, bath me, clean me, they even reposition my boobs

My sister lives over 2 hrs. away

As for cleaning a good rinse and rubbing alcohol? The girls who will set me up would also clean me up. I'd need my legs repositioned any way.

 

[SweetErika]

As for cleaning a good rinse and rubbing alcohol? The girls who will set me up would also clean me up. I'd need my legs repositioned any way.

Exposing a vibe that's not waterproof to water isn't a good idea. I always use attachments over my Magic Wand, and those can be washed well, as well as sanitized with boiling water (including a dishwasher). However, if you're using just the head of it, your best bet may be putting a condom over it for easy clean up (maybe you can ask your sister to get you a supply at a family planning clinic). I suppose rubbing alcohol could do the trick, but it's kind of got a texture like very defined leather that can make it difficult to clean.

 

[Boundlife]

Exposing a vibe that's not waterproof to water isn't a good idea. I always use attachments over my Magic Wand, and those can be washed well, as well as sanitized with boiling water (including a dishwasher). However, if you're using just the head of it, your best bet may be putting a condom over it for easy clean up (maybe you can ask your sister to get you a supply at a family planning clinic). I suppose rubbing alcohol could do the trick, but it's kind of got a texture like very defined leather that can make it difficult to clean.

thanks for the tip
I wonder who would have a funnier reaction if I asked them, my Mum or Dad
I don't know exactly what she got me yet. She is coming out this this weekend with her kidlets (girl 3yrs, boy 16 mths) I'm the coolest because I have Smarties

 

[paulthewetcd]

thanks for the tip
I wonder who would have a funnier reaction if I asked them, my Mum or Dad
I don't know exactly what she got me yet. She is coming out this this weekend with her kidlets (girl 3yrs, boy 16 mths) I'm the coolest because I have Smarties

We'd love to hear an update.....

 

[Boundlife]

We'd love to hear an update.....

It wasn't a hitachi my sister got but a vibrating dildo thing with batteries. I find it hard to use

Oddly, the girls who are older (ie over 50) have no problems helping me and cleaning my toy but
anyone under 40 has issues.

 

[paulthewetcd]

It wasn't a hitachi my sister got but a vibrating dildo thing with batteries. I find it hard to use

Oddly, the girls who are older (ie over 50) have no problems helping me and cleaning my toy but
anyone under 40 has issues.

I am glad you have some support from the staff.
Good for you, enjoy!
And you sister sounds like a winner, too.

 

[Boundlife]

I am glad you have some support from the staff.
Good for you, enjoy!
And you sister sounds like a winner, too.

Thanks

 

[Noira]

Oddly, the girls who are older (ie over 50) have no problems helping me and cleaning my toy but
anyone under 40 has issues.

That's hilarious. It's true that older people seem to be more a-okay with sex! Been there, done that kind of thing.

I can see where the problems would come into play, though. It definitely is an unusual issue and it would be hard to judge who's okay with helping and who isn't! I can imagine most of the staff in our care facility would spaz a bit and it would be funny. Imagining it has made my day a little. (Apparently our regulations are "residents can masturbate as long as they are in their room and close the door.")

You're definitely not being disrespectful, and, in fact, I think it kicks ass that you're still trying to fill your basic needs. It's just a lot of people probably don't consider what it would be like if they couldn't take care of that themselves. Most people could use a good kick upside the head.

If I worked in your facility, I'd help ya, and I'm sure you'll find there are always a few open-minded people who understand and will support you. Good luck and I hope you manage to work things out. If this vibe doesn't work out, there are always other vibes. (EdenFantasys is an online sex toy shop that has a points system where participating on the site can get you points towards discounted and even free toys if finances might be an issue. And, ironically, Hitachi Magic Wands are kind of a medical device. We have one kicking around our hospital and it makes me giggle a little when I see it sitting around. You never know, if you inquire they might have a similar vibrating massage device for patient care that could be used for, ahm, patient care.)

 

[Boundlife]

That's hilarious. It's true that older people seem to be more a-okay with sex! Been there, done that kind of thing.

I can see where the problems would come into play, though. It definitely is an unusual issue and it would be hard to judge who's okay with helping and who isn't! I can imagine most of the staff in our care facility would spaz a bit and it would be funny. Imagining it has made my day a little. (Apparently our regulations are "residents can masturbate as long as they are in their room and close the door.")

Good luck and I hope you manage to work things out. If this vibe doesn't work out, there are always other vibes. (EdenFantasys is an online sex toy shop that has a points system where participating on the site can get you points towards discounted and even free toys if finances might be an issue. And, ironically, Hitachi Magic Wands are kind of a medical device. We have one kicking around our hospital and it makes me giggle a little when I see it sitting around. You never know, if you inquire they might have a similar vibrating massage device for patient care that could be used for, ahm, patient care.)

Thanks for the info. The idea of using a public wand would kill the mood but it would be good to see if I could handle it weight wise

I knew who I could ask and who couldn't handle even that. I had fun imagining asking a few people too

 

[NippleMuncher]

I knew who I could ask and who couldn't handle even that. I had fun imagining asking a few people too

Think of the fun it would be to ask one of the unsuspecting prudes to open that bottom drawer and hand you your shaman's medicine stick!

I'm kidding, of course, but admit it, the thought gives you a chuckle.

I hope you're able to find someone mature enough to understand that you while you may have physical limitations, you're not dead!

 

[Noira]

Thanks for the info. The idea of using a public wand would kill the mood but it would be good to see if I could handle it weight wise

Bwhahaha.

I meant more along the lines of maybe they could order one in as a theraputic device, I'm sure facilities know where to buy these things, it can't be harder than getting a wheelchair in, and way cheaper, besides. Not using a public device in private places! Man, imagining the germs. It was a bit late when I wrote that post so I should maybe clarify that.

They are pretty hefty.

 

[Boundlife]

Think of the fun it would be to ask one of the unsuspecting prudes to open that bottom drawer and hand you your shaman's medicine stick!

I've got some go to girls who set me up

One of the girls I didn't bother checking with wouldn't understand what I was asking, even if I used very small words

Noira, LOL, I thought that sounded weird!