Help! We're both subs!

[glmogo]

Me and my girlfriend have been together for a couple years now. I've told her about my femdom fantasies and she's okay with it, the problem is she's too timid to play that role and prefers to be dominated. I'm really not that kind of guy either so the result is we're both sexually unsatisfied, which sucks because everything else in the relationship is great. Is there any way to fix this? I'd hate to lose her because we're incompatible in bed.

 

[Boundlife]

That is tough...

Welcome to Lit

(hopefully breaking the seal gets you some advice)

 

[glmogo]

That is tough...

Welcome to Lit

(hopefully breaking the seal gets you some advice)

Thanks lol, none to offer yourself?

 

[babygirlmia]

Me and my girlfriend have been together for a couple years now. I've told her about my femdom fantasies and she's okay with it, the problem is she's too timid to play that role and prefers to be dominated. I'm really not that kind of guy either so the result is we're both sexually unsatisfied, which sucks because everything else in the relationship is great. Is there any way to fix this? I'd hate to lose her because we're incompatible in bed.

Either adopt Nike's slogan , and u each take turns being the Dom for the other 'just do it'
(most times you end up realizing you like it after trying something, from some perspective.... i.e. seeing how turned on your lover gets)

or find a third person to come in and be both of your Dom

 

[glmogo]

I've considered bringing in a 3rd person, but looking for one has proven difficult. There doesn't seem to be a very big population of people into that in my area.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Let's talk about the concept of Service Topping. Some people think that's a bad thing, but some people are pretty fucking ignorant. Service topping occurs when you act as a top, or as a dominant, in order to make your partner happy.

Here's how it would work for you two: Imagine that she's your Mistress and your Mistress has demanded that you dominate her for an evening, and you are going to do your damnedest to make your Mistress happy.

And then you switch and ask her to be the service top. You are her Master, and her Master has told her to try to humiliate him, and she is going to do her damnedest to make her Master happy.

 

[TheLM]

I've considered bringing in a 3rd person, but looking for one has proven difficult. There doesn't seem to be a very big population of people into that in my area.

Find a good, caring, responsible dom.

....Or one of you will have to cave a little. It's worth noting that your tastes may change over the years.