Made For Each Other - Being Each Other's Only Ever Partner

[MikoRyko]

So I've been with my girl for about 12 years (We're now both 28) and we're both each other's first and only ever partners, both relationship-wise and sexually.

I've had a lot of thoughts on this lately, and wanted to explore them. I was actually thinking of writing in more length on Lit, but I'll test the waters with a forum post for now.

I figure it works well as my introduction as well, my first post.


Main thought - It feels really special.
To have sex with someone knowing, "this right here is ours, and only ever ours" is amazing. There's such a deep connection there, emotional and physical. I'm probably romanticising it here, but it almost feels like sex is ours, and ours alone. Nobody else's.

If you want to know what the clichè of being "made for each other" feels like? That's probably it.

We're the only people to ever exist who know what each other's turn ons are. Who know how to touch each other right. Who feel that connection. She is my entire sex life, and I'm hers.

The submissive side of me absolutely loves this, BTW. It's like truly belonging to somebody. Not being allowed, but not wanting anybody else.


Variety is the spice of life.
When she's at work or just not around and I'm horny (the horny part is a lot, tbh ) it's mostly her I think of.

But often, I'll watch porn, or fantasize about other people. It's not like I'm not still attracted to others or want to explore. I'm only human. I mean, I have a huge crush on her sister.

I mean, here I am on Literotica, partly to chat with people, and partly to have my own personal space for my own sexuality and desires that don't really gel with hers.

But none of that stuff compares. It's all distraction. It's just masturbation fuel to tide me over until the real thing. It's always her I come back to.

No porno, no picture of a Hollywood actress in a knockout dress, and no fantasy of a steamy affair can ever satisfy me anywhere fucking near just a photo of my girl.

Margot Robbie is a goddess, but if given the choice between her and my curvy girl,
no makeup, no sexy clothes? Margot can get lost, every time.

Of all the things I'd like to talk about with my fellow Lit users, my bi-curiosity, my kinks, my fantasies... none of them excite me like the thought of talking about her. The thought of somebody else being turned on by her, or by my love for her, is so exciting.


I better stop here since this is turning into an essay thanks anyone who bothered to read this. I'll likely write in more detail on Lit's writing side, so stay tuned I guess!

 

[LMWM321]

Margot Robbie is a goddess, but if given the choice between her and my curvy girl,
no makeup, no sexy clothes? Margot can get lost, every time.

haha!! That's beautiful and very sweet. And I feel the way about my wife at times.. And I've said the same. "Honey, you are so beautiful, that I couldn't be more turned on right now. If Scarlett Johansson (whom I have "hall pass" tease from my wife) banged on the door demanding I take her to bed, I'd say... Sorry, not interested." My wife always laughs and says something sarcastic like "Yeah... Sure.."

Enjoy your mutual obsession for as long as you can. But understand that as the years go by desirous thoughts of other women and men will quite likely creep in AND THAT IS TOTALLY NORMAL. ..Don't judge yourself or wife harshly when it happens.

I remember being told as a young man that "if you truly love your wife, you'll never think of sex with anyone else." Well, that is utter bullshit. There's not a man alive who loves his wife more than I love mine and I think of sex w/ other women all the damn time. ..And not that she needs my approval but I encourage my wife to fantasize about other men too. ..It's normal and healthy. And I think such fantasizing helps keep her pilot light lit (a furnace reference) even though she's been through menopause - a health change that often kills a woman's libido.

Anyway... I'm happy for you. All the best.

 

[MikoRyko]

haha!! That's beautiful and very sweet. And I feel the way about my wife a times.. And I've said the same. "Honey, you are so beautiful, that I couldn't be more turned on right now. If Scarlett Johansson (whom I have "hall pass" tease from my wife) banged on the door demanding I take her to bed, I'd say... Sorry, not interested." My wife always laughs and says something sarcastic like "Yeah... Sure.."

Enjoy your mutual obsession for as long as you can. But understand that as the years go by desirous thoughts of other women and men will quite likely creep in AND THAT IS TOTALLY NORMAL. ..Don't judge yourself or wife harshly when it happens.

I remember being told as a young man that if you truly love your wife, you'll never think of sex with anyone else. Well, that's is utter bullshit. There's not a man alive who loves their wife more than I love mine and I think of sex w/ other women all the damn time. ..And not the she needs my approval but I encourage my wife to fantasize about other men too. ..It's normal and healthy. And such fantasizing helps keep the pilot light lit (a furnace reference) for my wife even though she's been through menopause - a health change that often kills women's libido's.

Anyway... I'm happy of you. All the best.

Thanks so much for the kind words.

Totally get what you mean - I've already found the idea that never getting thoughts or desires about anyone else is a very naive one. In fact, that's why I'm here on Literotica.

What I tried to get across is that being each other's only ever partner is special to me, and it does more for me than any porn or fantasy. But it does mean I find myself wondering and fantasizing a lot. I used to feel guilty for that, but not now.

 

[LMWM321]

One add'l bit of advice - however unsolicited

I would encourage you - all young couples, really - to fess up to your interest in porn and to the occasional thoughts of other women. Don't deny it or lie about it. If she's offended, direct her to Sex or Relationship Advice columns (by licensed Therapists) where the subject of "I love my wife but I enjoy porn and thinking of being with other women - is that normal!?" is often raised. And the answer is almost always (unless it's some kooky religious therapist answering the question) "Yes!" it's totally normal. Cheating on your wife is not, of course. ..But thinking of and masturbating to other women is. And ditto for your wife."

Lying is NOT normal, however. And trust me, she will eventually catch you looking at porn. I was very upfront with my wife about it and assured her I would NEVER look at anything illegal or anything that is misogynist or appears non-consensual. And that I don't prefer Porn over intimacy with her but my sex-drive is much greater than hers and I need an outlet to make up the difference. Indeed, there's been a few times when she's caught me and has said, "Well... you can continue looking at porn or follow me upstairs.." To which I reply, To hell with porn! ..Here I come!"

 

[lc69hunter]

Nothing wrong with that. On the other hand, don't judge others for having different thoughts on the subject. There are far to many Karens down in LW who love to go there

 

[SPARTAN047]

That's something I fantasize about myself.

I wish I had met someone cute when I was young, lost my virginity to them and they to me, and then we stay together for life.

It's a better fantasy than the gangbang or slutty ones I have, but now it'll never happen.

 

[live4thebj]

Different strokes for different folks. Take Zack Wylde from Ozzy Osborne and Black Label Society. He has been with the same woman since High School. This dude is in an industry there is pussy galore but he stays true to his wife.

Then talks about a bandmate fucking a new girl every night. Then tells how his bandmate said he wants what Zack has. Zack told him it isn’t for everyone.

Moral of this. If you found the one and have no interest in anyone else then don’t fuck it up over sex. Sex is enjoyable when it is happening. But the right one is the person you want still there after the sex. The one you want fall asleep with and the one you want to wake up to. That is the one.

 

[Escierto]

That's something I fantasize about myself.

I wish I had met someone cute when I was young, lost my virginity to them and they to me, and then we stay together for life.

It's a better fantasy than the gangbang or slutty ones I have, but now it'll never happen.

Never say never. I am 70 years old and my girlfriend is 38. We have both been with a lot of people in our lives but here we are, as devoted to one another as two people can be. The first face we each see in the morning and the last at night.

 

[LMWM321]

Moral of this. If you found the one and have no interest in anyone else then don’t fuck it up over sex. Sex is enjoyable when it is happening. But the right one is the person you want still there after the sex. The one you want fall asleep with and the one you want to wake up to. That is the one.

I would agree but would add that if thoughts of being w/ others arise, don't think it unusual or a bad sign. ..It's normal; even in the healthiest of relationships. If people set the bar that high (ie., to never think of others..) they will nearly always fall short.

 

[SPARTAN047]

Never say never. I am 70 years old and my girlfriend is 38. We have both been with a lot of people in our lives but here we are, as devoted to one another as two people can be. The first face we each see in the morning and the last at night.

Then there's still hope, I just don't believe in it like I used to.