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[subwannabe]

It is a calculated move from a minipulative asshole. You're supposed to come to your senses and beg him to come back. I hope you don't. Call his bluff and whatever happens, don't take him back. You are special and you deserve waaaay better than him. You can find the relationship you want with a real man instead of an abuser. Keep in touch.

 

[Chaingun]

What can I say that hasn't been said?

I agree with what everyone has said. And so glad that you're not going to back down to that manipulative bully.

You deserve so much better and I know you'll find it. Think how strong you'll be knowing that you will never submit to a man that doesn't deserve it. Bravo for you.

 

[MissHolly]

Well, I just thought I'd let you all know that I have been officially served with divorce papers....just like on television (the freaking coward). Anyway, I guess I had a warped view of what love is, but now that I know what it isn't...I actually feel ok. I have good friends. Both here and in real life.

I'll be around. Anyone need a good sub who doesn't like getting it up the butt? See, I can still laugh....But I think I'll stick with myself for a while and figure out what loving someone really means.

Kisses and many, many thanks.

Wow...its a shock to see how quickly he moved over this issue. Nothing like trying to work though a problem with the person you love. Its sad...but it looks like this is probably best for you. Find yourself a more caring and understanding man. They are out there

 

[WastelandVoice]

I have to imagine that this is not the REAL reason for the divorce papers or at least the only reason but either way I'll echo the sentiments of everyone else in saying that while this is unfortunate it's probably a really really good move for you and your health, safety, and happiness.

As a man I tend to hate that we get so screwed over in divorce proceedings but hey in this case? I say you take him for all you can get. He won't have a leg to stand on when you bring up the fact that he wanted to essentially pimp you out to another guy and force anal sex on you unwillingly.

 

[WastelandVoice]

If you read this whole thread and watch the progression... I think we really helped someone here. And maybe that's uncommon for Lit but I think we really did. And I'm happy, pleased, and proud of every single person that posted in here with their thoughts, insights, opinions, and advice. I really am. The kindness of strangers won out here and we did some good things. Aces, Lit. Aces.

 

[peachesmelba]

Applause

Wait... let me get this straight...

You aren't "enjoying" anal sex as much as HE wants you to, And you're "mouthy" (whatever the hell that means) - so he's sending you to someone else for "training"?

Anal -

How educated is HE on the subject? Has he read Anal Pleasure & Health? Researched anatomy & physiology (aside from watching the hawt hawt porn)? Has he invested in the proper kinds of lube? Does he even KNOW what kind of lube to use? Has he introduced anal plugs to help train the sphincter muscles? Does he think hawt hawt anal = flipping you ass up/head down and nailing you in one thrust, or is there any kind of communication?

Being "mouthy" -

Define "mouthy". Does the man expect that submissive = he gets to be right 100% of the time? If so, he would be better served to adjust his attitude, than expect you to adjust yours. I have yet to meet a dominant (man or woman), who doesn't deserve a bit of polite correction/advice from time to time. Example - my ex-husband occasionally thought I was overstepping my boundaries; as the more organized person, I thought reminding him which bills needed to be paid before late fees accumulated was being helpful.

Training -

Has it occurred to him that if he's so damn lazy he can't be bothered to "train" you himself, that you might actually thrive under the "training" of another person and end up happier without him? Just curious...

If you want to know what this "training" will involve, ask HIM. Then ask the person he talks into training you. Refuse to do anything until you get answers. If the answers involve things you are not comfortable doing; refuse training.

I hope you read this, re-read it-embroider it on a pillow (glue it to HIS fore...head) and take it to heart!