Help for a beginner please!

[notnormalgirl]

Hello out there! Maybe someone can help me. I have 2....concerns. Well first a little background. I'm 27 now and I lost my virginity when I was 26...a little over a year ago. I had only had intercorse three times (with the same guy) up until about 2 weeks ago. I met a really great guy and we have really good sex, except for I have a couple concerns.
First concern,
The first time he lasted about an hour, the secound time (aweek later) he lasted for 2. How common is this? Should I be concerned? he dosen't seem to be bothered. But I must admit after an hour i'm starting to get kinda worn out.
Secound Concern
Me, I have yet to have an Orgasm with either one of the men I was with. They both tryed to help and did a really good job! I enjoyed myself but din't Orgasm. And I have been masterbateing before I even knew what masterbateing was so its not that I don't know what I like. I'll almost get there but something happens. I though maybe It would take time to learn to Orgasm with help since I'v been helping myself for so long.
Any thought or advice on this would be a great help.

 

[Guest]

First concern,
The first time he lasted about an hour, the second time (a week later) he lasted for 2. How common is this? Should I be concerned?

It's nothing to be "concerned about, per se. But, if going for long periods of time hurts you or makes you tired, you should be honest with your mate and tell him. Open communication is very important in a relationship.

Second concern,
I have yet to have an Orgasm with either one of the men I was with. They both tryed to help and did a really good job! I enjoyed myself but din't Orgasm. And I have been masterbateing before I even knew what masterbateing was so its not that I don't know what I like. I'll almost get there but something happens. I though maybe It would take time to learn to Orgasm with help since I'v been helping myself for so long.

What happens? I think I know what you're talking about already, but I need more info to be sure.

 

[notnormalgirl]

what happens...

well, that is kinda hard to put into words. Its like I'm on the verge..... say an Orgasm is like a hill, I get almost to the top of the hill almost almost about to go down the other side and then its like i'm back to climbing the hill again.
Hope that helped Hee Hee!

 

[callableborg]

notnormalgirl

Patience might be the key here. If you have your first sex at 26 and have 'been doing yourself all along' it might be awhile before you can relax and accept 'delivery from the outside'.

Maybe if you get horny and really build up an anticipation for an encounter the peaking will come alot faster.